The Fight's Not Over

Paula Hendricks

Paula Hendricks | 03.26.10
Twitter: @PaulaWrites678


I don’t care what she says—I don’t believe Kay Arthur is 76! She’s an absolute dynamo from the crown of her beautiful hair to the sole of her black knee high boots. I’ve heard a lot of passionate speaking from the platform this weekend, but . . . well, nothing compares to the fire that burns within Kay. There will be no retiring to a condo on the coast of Florida for her. The need in our world is too great. Her God is too awesome. The Truth is too needed. The urgency is too real. She cares too much.

Kay began the evening by painting a picture of the grave danger our society is in, and telling us that if we’re going to act, it needs to be now, and it would have been better if we’d started yesterday. She doesn’t point the finger at the world, but at the church. We are to blame for not knowing and proclaiming the Truth of the Word of God.

Hers was not a hopeless call to action, though: 

“It’s not over, because I’m here. And you’re here. It begins with us—with women who know God. We have to be absolutely convinced that God says what He means and means what He says . . . To know God is to know His Word.”

Kay concluded with seven steps we each need to take, all from the book of Nehemiah:

1. Look at what’s broken, and what needs to be repaired. 
2. Go to God and ask if you need to help with that particular repair. The first thing you need to do is sit down. Stop running around being busy. Sit down and weep over the situation. Let your heart be broken over the things that break His heart. Confess your sin. Fast and pray. 
3. Ask God how you’re going to do it. Ask for success. Do it even if you’re afraid. Enlist others who see the need. You cannot do it alone.
4. Don’t be distracted or derailed by opposition without or opportunists within. The enemy doesn’t want you to rebuild. Don’t get derailed or discouraged.
5. Fear God and not man. Don’t be afraid. Fight for your brothers, sisters, husbands, houses, and communities.
6. Stay in constant communication with God.
7. Don’t let down your guard. Hold to God’s standard and deal with evil.

“I believe if you’re not hearing something,” Kay said, “it’s because you’re not listening.”

Will you take the seven steps above? Will you ask God to show you what has been broken down, and why? Will you ask Him to help you care, and enlist in the fight?

Topics: True Woman Conferences


  1. Hello Paula!

    Thank you so much for these "snapshots" of the conference that you are giving us! I feel like I'm there!
    What challenging messages all the ladies are hearing. I would imagine it's going to take a while to let these messages really sink in, to take some quiet time when they return, and over the next several weeks to just review and reflect all that they have learned and heard.

    Thanks again, dear Paula! I did hear from Jenny, and she was absolutely delighted about her bountiful provisions from you and NGU! I do believe this dear girl is having the time of her life!!!

    God bless you!

    posted by Arlene
    on Friday, March 26, 2010 at 11:22 pm
  2. Now you have me intrigued!!! Come on Jenny - let's hear it!!!!

    Hi to Arlene and Paula,

    I liked this article very much Paula - I think I'll cut and paste it.

    I think about God parting waters, etc. and Jesus going forward in fear but perfect obedience for his crucifixion. Great role model and I reckon he took the steps above too.

    If it is any encouragement for others, when I went to the funeral of my ex-husband's father, the sense of peace has been enormous.

    And I think too of where your treasure is, there will (should????) be your heart also.



    P.S. It is a beautiful Spring day here.
    posted by judy
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 7:01 am
  3. Thank you so much for sharing this. I will be thinking about this today. I really appreciate how Kay says that if we are not hearing something it is because we are not listening. God has recently impressed upon my heart that everything about my life hinges on two things: Am I listening to God? Is He listening to me? With all my heart I want to listen to Him! God listens to the woman who listens to Him.
    posted by Melanie
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 9:37 am
  4. I'm there! Enlist me! I already have plans to promote True Woman at our women's conference at church in April(Bible Church of Little Rock). I hope that my passion for TW and how much it has impacted me will be used of God to ignite the hearts of the women in my church.
    posted by Vivian Etherington
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 10:36 am
  5. Paula,

    Thank you so much for sharing with us over the past few days. I'm looking forward to listening to the messages in the days to come. I also wanted to thank you for the Energy Bars recipe. I made them for my family and they love them :).
    posted by Sue
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 11:27 am
  6. Thank you , Paula -- what a blessing. This confirms also what the Lord is speaking to me through our pastor, and in my own quiet times... praise the Lord for Kay and her love and fire for God's Word!
    In His love,
    posted by Leslie S.
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 11:30 am
  7. "Hi" back to you, Judy!

    I hope you are enjoying the beautiful Spring day God

    Just to let you know that when I heard back from Jenny, she wished that you and Leslie S. were with her!

    I'm sure Jenny will share with us all the blessings of this past weekend with her TW friends!

    Have a blessed day yourself!

    posted by Arlene
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 2:11 pm
  8. Judy,
    Thank you for the cut and paste idea. I decided to do that too so that I can look at this often and pray over what God would have me do. I need these reminders.
    posted by Kathryn
    on Saturday, March 27, 2010 at 8:58 pm
  9. Recently widowed, turning sixty in a few days, and having my first great grandchild this week has my mind reeling about my future. As much as I look forward to heaven, I pray that during the years I have left here God will give me continued passion to have an impact on the world around me and a passion for God's glory. Thank you, Kay for the inspiration!
    I prayed often for the leaders and participants of the TW conference this week and was wishing I was there. Can't wait to hear more.
    posted by karen
    on Sunday, March 28, 2010 at 7:42 am
  10. Hi Karen, wow, a new grandmother? That's nice. Enjoy it all!

    posted by judy
    on Sunday, March 28, 2010 at 1:11 pm
  11. I shared this story, briefly, with Paula at the conference this weekend about Kay Arthur. My first meeting with her (and no, she wouldn't remember me) was back in the mid 1970's where she came to Bryan College, close to where she lives. She came for the express purpose of leading a 'Late Night Girl's Night Out' where we met in the Lion's Den, the student center, and had a time of singing, prayer, and frank talks about purity and what it meant to be a true woman of God! I could ALMOST promise you that she used that expression back then--"true woman!"

    These late night, once-a-semester Girl's Night Outs were very special, but at the time I had no idea how famous and impacting this lady was to become in the years to follow! Kay was a young and beautiful lady; vibrant, and a powerhouse of no-nonsense speaking!

    This weekend was my first time seeing her in street clothes. Ha! All those late-night Bible Studies and talks way back when, I only saw her in a long nightgown, a big fluffy robe, frou-frou house slippers, and enormous curlers in her hair--hugging her Bible, and prepared to do battle with a bunch of young female college students. She once said that she traveled from Chattanooga to the college (not but 35 miles north) hoping that she would not be stopped by the police because she would have a hard time explaining what she was doing dressed that way at 9:30 in the evening -- driving down Highway 27!

    The impact that she has had on my life was more in the years to follow than at the time of those late night encounters. The brain, mind and heart connection in those college years was not set in place by total obedience on my part, and yet the Lord used Kay Arthur's teachings as a molding tool to guide me, teach me, inspire me to strive for Godly womanhood. Early in her ministry she spoke of "not letting down our guard," and until this day she speaks of the same. Leave no holes, no vacant spots open as a welcome mat for Satan. The lies and the deception is great and we must teach and stress to our young people that God has lovingly fashioned us for His glory...and that not of our own glory.

    Thank you to Kay who keeps on being faithful to God's call on her life. We all have that call to mentor and accept mentorship. May we be found faithful.
    posted by Jeannie Roddy
    on Sunday, March 28, 2010 at 7:12 pm
  12. Thank you for this message... it is EXACTLY what i have been needing. Praise God for you!!
    posted by Carol
    on Monday, March 29, 2010 at 4:49 am
  13. I loved this post, Paula. You captured "it" as an excellent journalist!! And...I am deeply impressed and moved by the respect and honor your writing shows toward Kay Arthur and the message spoken that night. Thank you, Paula.
    posted by Sarah
    on Monday, March 29, 2010 at 6:04 am
  14. True Paula, It's hard to believe that Kay is 76. When my dad turned 76 I thought of this song to remember his age: Harold:
    "Seventy-six trombones led the big parade
    With a hundred and ten cornets close at hand.
    They were followed by rows and rows of the finest virtuo-
    Sos, the cream of ev'ry famous band.

    Seventy-six trombones caught the morning sun
    With a hundred and ten cornets right behind
    There were more than a thousand reeds
    Springing up like weeds
    There were horns of ev'ry shape and kind.

    There were copper bottom tympani in horse platoons
    Thundering, thundering all along the way.
    Double bell euphoniums and big bassoons,
    Each bassoon having it's big, fat say!

    There were fifty mounted cannon in the battery
    Thundering, thundering louder than before
    Clarinets of ev'ry size
    And trumpeters who'd improvise
    A full octave higher than the score!"

    Ha :-) ( I never knew those lyrics.) God surely gives Kay His might!
    I love the saying Dr. J. Vernon McGee mentioned, "Either This Book will keep you from sin, or sin will keep you from This Book."
    I know that that is what made all the difference in Kay's life.

    I love you Kay & you inspire me to aspire to getting His Word into my heart and our family's heart. I am planning on recording my old Bible Scripture songs onto new tapes. I just found my old tapes.
    And also record the new verses ROH has assigned. I through Christ who strengtheneth me can & will do it; by His grace. Please pray; it is a spiritual battle!
    Love In Christ,
    Leslie N.
    posted by Leslie.n
    on Monday, March 29, 2010 at 9:21 pm
  15. I know what Kay means, the brokeness in my own family confronts me everyday. I am the only Christian member in my home. I signed the true woman manifesto and I am taking the 30 day chellenge. It is so hard every day is a battle and I wonder if I a good witness to power of God in me. How do witness to people who each on their own despite what you taught them reject the only true and absolute thing in this upside down, backwards crazy world you can count on?
    Revive Our Hearts
    posted by Sherry Buddemeyer
    on Tuesday, March 30, 2010 at 9:35 pm
  16. Ms. Kay was like thunder! Though she was the last speaker, and me being 30 weeks pregnant and very tired at that point, perked right up. Her observations of the family and society tapped right into a passion I have. What wonderful energy and passion she has for the truth, I aspire to her true womanhood. I enjoyed the swift kick in the rear and sense of urgency she brought to the table. I hope others did to. It was good medicine.
    posted by heather haddo
    on Tuesday, March 30, 2010 at 10:50 pm
  17. Wow. Is this message available for those of us who weren't there? I'd love to hear it.

    posted by Elizabeth
    on Wednesday, March 31, 2010 at 2:46 pm
  18. Dearest sisters in Christ!

    I cannot believe I didn't see this posting before! The conference and love of God simply wore me out!!!

    There are so many fabulous things said here I hardly know what to say, but those who know me are more than aware that won't daunt me long! *chuckles*

    Paula, is there a saying: "The inspired begat the inspired begat the inspired!"?!!! There ought to be! Kay is a precious daughter of the King who inspired another beauteous daughter, who then, right here inspired such beauty ooooph! What a bright moment in my day, this blog is!

    To Karen, the sister who now is having or is about to have another grand daughter, what a blessed time is this for you?! I got excited for you reading that. There is a bible out there (NIV translation) called 'The grandmothers bible' maybe you'd have fun going through it. I've heard it said, many a time that age and time with the Lord are a rich blessing. Time in the word sets this all on fire (Hebrews 12:29 (KJV)). I pray you can read or have it read to you daily. You sound like you're more than capable :c). Prayer is a powerful thing the older you get as well, this I'm learning myself at the ripe old age of.. oh I won't say! :cP

    To Jeannie, the sister who met Kay while she was young, I can imagine her having a lasting impact, and wasn't surprised by your story but thrilled to get to read it, thank you!!

    To Vivian Etherington, I hope to see you at the Texas conference! I am not positive I'm going for sure but am very near that! *chuckles* I have an aunt called Vivian and every time I read you here I think of her. :c)

    To Elizabeth, from the post above, the tapings are available on cd and DVD I don't know how you find them but you could call their 1-800 number (I think it's somewhere on the ROH website page), that will get you someone who knows (only available for 30 days!).

    To Sherry, the sister who's family refuses to believe, I'll be in prayer with you over this issue. Stay in the word, seek like minded fellowship, love the church as Christ loved it and praise him in song. May God be with you in battle, and may you have ears to hear when He says He will take over, dear sister!

    To dear Leslie N. your letter was a thrill to read. I love how you tied that in to Kay's thunderous gift from God!

    Dearest Judy! I can't believe I didn't yet go on and on about things!

    I have to say, if you ever read this: The food was so unbelievably bounteous (from Paula and NGU <Not Giving Up>) that when I got HOME, I had enough for snacks for my WHOLE FAMILY. Through the trip I had enough food for EVERY meal. And to boot, I had enough breakfasts from dear Paula that I was able to give THREE other sisters a suitable breakfast! Not sure they ever had time to eat it but they had it in case! You can be rest assured that if it seems suitable I'll have more to share than you can bear. *chuckles*

    Peace, love n' blessings all, thanks for warming this sisters heart.
    posted by Jenny
    on Wednesday, March 31, 2010 at 4:14 pm
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