How to Pray for a Future Husband

Candice Watters

Candice Watters | 11.05.13
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A reader asked me for a guide to praying for her future husband. She wanted practical help that would pick up where "Pray Boldly" left off. It's proved a little harder to write than I first thought it would. Maybe it's because I didn't start praying specific prayers for a husband until after I met Steve. Or maybe it's because I realize that though most people eventually do marry, not everyone who wants to marry will. Still, we're called to pray—about everything. So what should prayer for a husband look like?

Being, not feeling, thankful

My Mom used to encourage me with Matthew 6:33 when I'd call (at least once a week) to complain about still being single. She always took me back to that verse: "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." She even encouraged me to give thanks for the difficult circumstances.

"Give thanks for not having anyone ask me out?" I'd say, with not just a little anger and emotion. "Yes," she'd say gently, but firmly. "Thank God for this opportunity to praise Him, to grow in your faith, to grow in your dependence on Him. Give thanks for the things you most want Him to change."

The Bible says,

"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).

We're supposed to ask for a husband humbly (that's what supplication means) and with thanksgiving. I know how hard it can be to give thanks in the midst of doubt, fear, broken relationships, disappointment and more. How can you feel thankful when you're hurt, angry and frustrated?

Thankfully, we don't have to feel it to give thanks.

Thankfully, we don't have to feel it. The verse just says give thanks. When I most need that verse—when I'm anxious—saying "thank you" always starts as an act of the will. And often I have to pray for the grace to do that! But obedience has the benefit of producing good fruit.

"Seek first, His kingdom," she says. And I'd cry, and we'd pray, and the more I did that, the more I submitted my unmet longings to Him. My pain led me to pray and giving thanks protected me from bitterness. Spending time talking with God created the opportunity for Him to soften my heart, shaping my desires to conform to His. My heart needed to soften, primarily because my pride was keeping me from being like Him.

If you daily submit to His process, even in the pain, He will change you.

I don't know what changes God wants to make in you. We're all different. But there is great work to be done. None of us are perfect. We all stumble in many ways (James 3:2) and we all have areas where we need to be more like Him. If you daily submit to His process, even in the pain, He will change you.

Thy will be done

What if God answers your prayers differently than you want Him to? He is able to transform the desires of your heart to align with His, and to satisfy you, completely. We may never be able to understand this with our finite minds, but the Holy Spirit makes it possible to grasp it in our spirits, so that we may pray with Jesus, "Thy will be done."

God is able to transform the desires of your heart to align with His, and to satisfy you, completely.

I'm amazed that God doesn't ask us to begin there, or require us to deny that we have real requests and desires. Not only does Philippians 4:6 instruct us to "let [our] requests be made known to God," Jesus modeled that in his prayer in the garden. Paul E. Miller talks about this in his book, A Praying Life:

"Read the Gospels and you'll discover a passionate, feeling man. Thank God we have a Savior who is in touch with the real world, who prays that he will not drink the cup of his Father's wrath, who cries out on a rough wooden cross, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me" (Matthew 27:46). Jesus neither suppresses his feelings nor lets them master him. He is real" (p. 123).

It was only after He prayed, "if there is any way, let this cup pass," that he prayed, "not my will, but yours be done."

The whole point of prayer is to grow in relationship with God. The more we talk and listen, the more He shapes the conversation. As we grow closer to Him, our desires shift from what we want—what we think we most need—to what He does. His desires become our desires.

As David Platt writes in his book, Radical,

"[God's] gift of grace involves the gift of a new heart. New desires. New longings. For the first time, we want God. We see our need for him, and we love him. We seek after him, and we find him, and we discover that he is indeed the great reward for our salvation.... [W]e are saved to know God. So we yearn for him" (p. 39).

Faith despite numbers

Some 70 to 80 percent of high school seniors say marriage is extremely important. And 80 to 90 percent of Americans eventually marry. But what if the 20 percent who don't value marriage doesn't comprise the 20 percent who don't marry? What if some of the people who don't marry really wanted to? How do we reconcile what's statistically probable with what's supernaturally possible?

I talked about this before in "Plenty of Men to Go Around." Peter wasn't supposed to be able to walk on water. And when he made that fact his focus, along with the storm and treacherous waves around him, he did what you'd expect. He sank. But when he fixed his eyes on Christ, he did the unexpected.

For many women, getting married would seem just as miraculous. Praise God that He hasn't changed—He's still the same wonder-working God who walked with Peter on the water. He still does the unexpected. But we have to do our part. We have to keep our eyes on Him. In the process, He may change our attitudes, our expectations, our habits, our health—whatever needs changing. He can do anything—He's God. You can trust Him and count on Him. He is faithful.

God still does the unexpected. But we have to do our part. We have to keep our eyes on Him.

Faithful, but not predictable. Things may not turn out how you want. In C.S. Lewis' The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe, Susan asked Mr. Beaver about Aslan saying, "Is he—quite safe?" Mr. Beaver replied, "Safe? Who said anything about safe? Course he isn't safe. But he's good. He's the King, I tell you." You can know that wherever your journey with Him leads, it will be good.

Believe God is able. Trust Him. But know that believing and trusting aren't the same as setting yourself up for bitter disappointment if He doesn't answer you the way you hope He will. God is calling us to faith, like Shadrach, Mesach and Abednego, who said,

"O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to save us from it, and he will rescue us from your hand, O king. But even if he does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up" (Daniel 3:16-18).

The God we serve is able to bring you a husband. But even if he does not, will you be faithful?

We should always pray

When I first started writing this article, I was thinking in terms of a list of traits to ask for and specific verses to pray. But the more I wrote and prayed, the more I realized that God's leading in our prayer life is individualized. Each of us is unique and His work in us differs from person to person. That's not to say you can't pray for a godly husband who meets the requirements of the "husband verses."1 I think you should.

But I also think you should ask God to show you how to pray given your story and this particular moment in history. This morning, I was praying about this article and wondering how God might lead me to pray if I were still single. I realized that before I could pray for a husband, I'd need to pray that this generation of men would be transformed by God's power to rise up as men capable of the commitments of marriage.

The need to pray never ends. It's never too soon, or too late, to start.

Given all the bad news about men: the tough economy, the disparities in education between men and women, the lack of role models and other fallout of the divorce epidemic, it occurred to me that even before we arrive at praying for men as suitors, we need to pray for men as our brothers in Christ. They are, many of them, limping spiritually. I believe we should be asking God to raise up a generation of godly men who are not only willing to take on the challenge and calling of being godly husbands and fathers, but able to.

Whatever season of life you're in, you need to pray because prayer is about relationship with God. Whether single and praying about your desire for a husband; or later, if you're married, praying about your desire for a baby; or praying for your (or your husband's) need for a job; or if you never do marry, praying about serving faithfully while celibate, the need to pray never ends. Jesus told his disciples they should "always pray and not give up." It's never too soon, or too late, to start.

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NOTES

   1. The "husband verses" are the passages that lay out the job description husbands are called to. They include Ephesians 5:22-28, Colossians 3:18-19 and 1 Peter 3:1-7. They're the standard for what makes a good mate. As you read them, you'll realize men aren't the only one who needs prayer. Don't just pray for your future husband, pray for yourself—the future wife. A big part of marriage prep for women is praying through the "wife verses," especially Proverbs 31 and Titus 2, with your future calling in mind.

Copyright 2010, Candice Watters. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. This article was published on Boundless.org on July 20, 2010. Used with permission.

 

Comments

  1. I love this post! Thanks for sharing Candice! When I was single God laid on my heart to pray for different things for my husband each year. So I had a yearly prayer for him, starting in 1995 till I married him in 2003. Each new year I'd seek God and ask him what my husband needed prayer for that year. I figured God knew who he was, so He'd know what my husband needed prayer for ;-)

    After we met and went through my "husband" prayer journal it was neat to see God show off through the details!

    Thanks for this article!
    www.emotionalpurity.blogspot.com
    posted by Heather
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 7:04 am
  2. Thank you for sharing this! I need this for my daughter. I was not Christian before I married - it certainly was not better to not be Christian, yet it sure made dating and marrying easier! My only qualification was a guy who was fun! God was sure protecting me and watching over me..
    posted by annie
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 9:15 am
  3. Just to let you know that the link sent in the email is not working. It sends you to a feedblitz page of info
    posted by Rachel
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 9:34 am
  4. Neat to hear your stories, Heather and Annie!

    Thanks for letting me know, Rachel. I'll have our trusty web team look into it . . .
    posted by Paula Hendricks
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 9:40 am
  5. Thanks for the reminders to trust the Lord at ALL times...if we don't do it now, we won't when we are married or have kids, etc. When I start getting discouraged about not being married I have to make myself start thinking of things to be thankful to the Lord for. Some times it is starting with things that may seem insignificant but it always brings me to the "big" things and helps me get my focus back on Him! My Faithful One!

    I'm 36, staring at yet another birthday around the corner. The only thing I ever wanted and dreamed of was marriage and family. In this world and in the church people talk about chasing your dreams and doing what you always dreamed of. And "what is the 'vision' God has given you for your life?". All this stuff makes it really hard when the only thing has been something that you must wait on the Lord for. Yes, there are some people who don't wait. They go after every man or woman that they have the slightest interest in. And although I'm not supposed to hide in a corner somewhere "waiting on God" I'm also not going to be chasing every single guy in my path. Focusing on that does not help me keep my focus on the Lord. It just causes more discontentment.
    So, I'm waiting. And waiting. And yes, if it ever happens, it will be a blessed miracle of the Lord!
    May prayer has always been that yes, Lord this is what I want but You know what is best for me and I'm choosing to trust You. I do pray for the future husband that He might possibly bless me with. I pray that he will be a man of integrity, a man who seeks the Lord and wants to obey Him in the big and small things. Not praying for Mr. Perfect but for the man who when he sins, is quickly convicted and goes to God! I have to be careful because too much focusing on praying for "my future husband" can lead me to thinking about "him" too much and even though I'm praying to the Lord it can still distract me and lead yet again to discouragement and frustration that I'm not married to Mr. Right and Wonderful!
    But in the friendships with men that God has blessed me with in the last several years, He has taught me so much about men and about myself. What I pray for is different, my expectations are different, I know the Lord has got to be my security and the one to whom I lean and not someone who is imperfect just like me.
    If you are single, read the Love & Respect book by Dr. Emerson. Yes, it seems like it is for married people mostly, but there is SO much we can learn as singles in how to relate to each other!
    ROH, thanks for remembering the single folks in your blogs and those not blessed with children. We need those individual reminders to keep trusting the Lord at ALL times too. Thanks!
    posted by LongingforGod'sMan
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 10:05 am
  6. Thank you for this article, very encouraging and biblical.
    posted by Massiel
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 3:26 pm
  7. Thank you for your article. It has really encouraged and challenged me. Im 33 and I do desire to be married. I love the Lord and love my relationship with him but I'm scared of becoming a bitter woman. The "Thy will be done" will be the challange. So thank you for sharing.
    posted by Lady of Pearl
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 6:33 pm
  8. I am still growing in God, and longing for
    marriage. It is difficult sometimes especially since
    I do not talk about this desire. Like "longingforGod'sman" I will continue to wait and pray.
    posted by Chas
    on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 at 6:37 pm
  9. When I was around 11 years old, my father told me that he was praying for my husband. After standing there in shock (you know, as an 11 year old, thinking...MY HUSBAND?!?! I'M ONLY 11!!), Dad asked me, "Jeannie, have you thought of praying for your future husband?" I told him that it hadn't even crossed my mind to do that. In his dear sense of humor he said, "Well, if God does have a husband for you, he's probably already born, you know." That sure put flesh on some bones I couldn't see!

    So, from that time on, I prayed for my future husband--wondering where he lived, and what school he went to. Often I would picture in my mind what gift he was opening up at Christmas time, or where he was vacationing, or who he was taking to the senior prom.

    As the years advanced, Dad would suggest things to pray for--you know, age appropriate things that I could relate to. In the beginning he would say, "Pray that he is obdient to his parents and to God, and kind to others." Then he would suggest, "Pray that he makes good decisions about choosing friends." In the High School years he would say, "Pray that he keeps himself pure for marriage." "Pray that he will be honest and truthful." "Pray that if he goes to college, God will direct him to the right institution." And so on...

    As a mom of a couple of sons, I can add more things to that list as I encourage my sons to be praying for their future wife. "Treat your bodies as a gift to give to them at the time of marriage, and pray that she does the same." I throw this question out often whenever something comes up that they mentioned...things like getting a tatoo, for instance. "Do you think that this might be something that you'd like for your wife to have an input?" It makes them think twice, which is good--it gives them perspective that not only is their body not their own; it first belongs to the Lord, and then to their future spouse.

    By the way, it took a while for my husband and I to meet up; our paths crossed 4 times in 3 years before there was a connection. I remember we had dated for around 8 months before this lightbulb went off in my head and I knew this was the "boy" I had been praying for since I was 11 years old! Many of my husband's friends were coming to believe that he was going to be a bachelor, but not so!

    The confirmation was unbelieveably surreal, but how thankful I was, and am, to the Lord for parents who invested time in prayer for me and my husband. After thirty years of marriage, we are humbled to share this life together.
    posted by Jeannie
    on Wednesday, November 10, 2010 at 12:16 am
  10. My knight in shining armour pasted into heaven Feb. 5, 2008. We have 4 children and 2 grandchildren. Please remember me as I sense it would be good to have a relationship with someone if as already been stated, it is God's will. I still miss my husband but feel God has healed my heart in a good way. I think God has a widower that is perfect for me. Am praying for this widower and myself - Matt. 6:33 Seeking first God's kindgom and his righteousness and standing on the promise that all that's best for us will come to past. Whoever reads this, please join me-there is power in agreement. Until then I'm gonna keep praising our precious Lord and will continue praising HIM married or still single.
    posted by Marilyn
    on Thursday, November 11, 2010 at 11:08 pm
  11. Marilyn,

    I will pray along with you about what might be God's will with this man.

    My aunt was widowed at the age of 42, and seven years after that she remarried her second husband. The second marriage (for 12 years) was a struggle because all she had to compare it to was with the first marriage. She and her second husband worked through a lot of financial woes, children issues on both sides, and things of that sort. They went to Godly counselling, and fortunately by God's grace and mercy those two were both looking for answers because they really did love each other. Praise God they were married for 30 plus years after that. He absolutely adored her, and she him, but that's not to say they didn't have their views on how things should be handled when they started off their marriage.

    Please, please talk things through while you and this man court--or when you start courting. 2008 was not very long ago; I can see where it would be easy to fall into what looks like welcoming arms. In one sense, with feeling like you're ready to go into another relationship that is a good thing because it may shed light on how well you viewed your marriage to your husband of many years. Or, it could mean something else, too.

    Just last night my husband and I were talking about a friend of ours with whom he was having a meal while they were at a church convention. This man and his second wife were at this table with my husband. My husband said that the entire meal was spent discussing this other man's first wife. (Unfortunately, this first wife had died from a real dehabilitating (sp?) disease.) I asked my husband, "Was this second wife joining in on the conversation? Or, what were her expressions?" My hubby said, "Oh, she just let him talk; she didn't seem bothered or anything like that."

    I replied, "Well that's good; perhaps she, too, at times needed to talk about her first husband and he was patient with her then."

    Be looking for signs and expressions from him while discussing your deceased mates. The last thing you don't want is to be "stifled" when expressing something that was your precious history. He has a precious history, as well. Even if the both of you did, or did not, get along super well with your former spouses, you still have "precious history," and that is BOTH YOUR SETS OF CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN!

    TAKE CUES FROM YOUR CHILDREN --trust me when I say this. Although I do not have personal experience in my life with this subject, I sure do as a pastor's wife. Oh my goodness!! I could tell you stories like you wouldn't believe. Not only would you not believe them; you would NOT want to be one of these stories! If your children, especially collectively, have issues with a man you're dating, take time (and lots of it) to figure of why. What is it that they're seeing, that you're not? Any decision you make regarding another relationship SHOULD, SHOULD, SHOULD bring you joy, and joy to ADD to your family.

    Above all, it should honor Christ!

    I can see where this can be a really exciting time in your life. Take note, too, that there are certain seasons of the year that really bring out all the warm fuzzies. Is this the time of year for you? I pray that you will have a clear picture of where God is leading you, Marilyn. Best wishes.
    posted by Jeannie
    on Saturday, November 13, 2010 at 3:34 pm
  12. Thank you so much for this post - I found it encouraging and I'm linking to it ... I hope that's okay! : ) Thank you again. Blessings!
    www.hopescribbles.wordpress.com
    posted by Elisabeth
    on Sunday, November 14, 2010 at 3:54 am
  13. Thanks Paula so much for the encouraging post. I had never thought to pray for this generation of men. It seems so many are struggling to be godly men. I am 26 going on 27 and it's hard being single, but God has taught me so much during this time. I have been able to serve God in many areas I would not had been able to, if I were married. As i think about it, I believe the church needs singles who have that extra time to serve. I can really relate to Longing for God's man's post. Thanks for sharing. I am waiting, knowing that one day I will marry, if not in this age, then in the age to come when Jesus returns. He is really the groom I long for. Sometimes, I think of how wonderful it would be to have Christ as my only groom. Come, Lord Jeus, come.
    posted by Rachel L.
    on Tuesday, November 16, 2010 at 8:22 pm
  14. Thank you very much for this article. I had my 35th birthday this year and had just ended a love relationship before that. It was rough, the worst time of my life. But God is Faithful and i really desire to get to the point where God is all i need even if a husband is not in His plan for me.

    Its not easy but i beleive that God will make a way and in the end i will be able to see the bigger picture.

    God Bless!!!
    posted by Yvette Williams
    on Wednesday, December 22, 2010 at 6:13 am
  15. Hi Paula,

    Thank you for sharing this article. You have addressed my greatest concern at almost 28 years old and single. Sometimes it's hard to pray for something that you so desire and at the same time, having to let it go in a sense by submitting to God's will.

    I feel convicted that the desire to get married has become an idol in my life, to be honest. At the same time, it's so comforting whenever I am reassured that God doesn't overlook this desire - He understands how I feel. I have heard few Christian articles that acknowledge the pain of singleness and that it can be a very real concern for some.

    If anyone reads this, and God puts it on your heart, please pray for me as I often feel bitter. Even when I pray and confess this, that feeling pops up again. If God has a plan for me that doesn't include being married, that's fine; but I want to know how he can satisfy me while living with this longing.

    Please pray that God will provide what my heart needs right now - and for conviction and correction in any area where my flesh/sin or hurt - is stopping His work.

    Thank you for your post and your encouragement.

    Bless you,
    Andrea
    posted by Andrea
    on Saturday, January 29, 2011 at 10:45 pm
  16. Thank you for this daily dose of encouragement and much needed and guided reminders on the specifics of prayer and trusting God. I have been reading Elisabeth's Elliot's book, God's Guidance A Slow and Certain Light, and this post really reiterated a lot that the Lord has been teaching me. Thank you so much!
    rithmatith.wordpress.com
    posted by Ruthie
    on Tuesday, February 8, 2011 at 8:15 am
  17. Hi, thank you so much for the encouragement. Actually it made me realized that there is hope to those who wait patiently for His will to be done in everyone’s life. I am deeply hurt until now…I don’t like to feel this kind of emotion but I can’t help it. I am currently praying for a specific man, a Christian but I feel like he doesn’t even care. We are friends for almost two years…whew!!! I hope that God will use the pain I am experiencing right now for me to encourage other souls. Thank you much and God bless
    posted by Lance
    on Thursday, February 10, 2011 at 3:08 am
  18. Thanks for a great article. I used to have a "husband list" all set out but have felt the Lord lead me instead to pray for my future husband, and also that he would prepare me for him. i am turning 40 this year and have never been married before or been in love, it just has not happened for me. I would love for God to be involved in my love story.
    posted by JO
    on Sunday, March 20, 2011 at 7:36 am
  19. Your article brought tears to my eyes. I'm in a very lost place right now, and I feel like God has forgotten me. I've a strong desire to get married, but I feel its something impossible. Everyone around me keeps tying the knot and I'm feeling kinda down... I keep getting into a slew of wrong relationships which are bad for me. I'm interested in one man at the moment, who is a Christian, but all I see are obstacles. I am just wondering if he's the one for me... But I'll continue to pray and love God with all my heart....Thank you for reminding me the God I serve is a great God that will not forsake his children. Thank you :)
    posted by Elsa
    on Sunday, April 24, 2011 at 10:11 pm
  20. I will turn 50 in 7 months
    I have never been married and I have never had a boyfriend. I have been praying for a boyfriend for the past 33 years and have been praying for a husband for the past 27 years!! I yearn so much to be married!! Its all I ever wanted. I at least want a boyfriend. I only dated one man for 3 months on 2001. It doesn't make sense why no one would want me
    I am pretty slender welleducated active and kind..easygoing not tough or controlling or conceited. It hurts deeply and I cry constantly at home. I really want to
    be one of those women who marry a much younger man
    Since I look young its always been the younger ones that ask me out. However its difficult to find Christian men in my region
    I am an event planner for Christian singles group do volunteer stuff for good causes and helping to athletic clubs. No one is more active. Social anxiety causes me to sound nervous but its not that bad. Someone should accept me.

    I struggle with depression and extreme anger and bitterness because I am close to 50 and have never shard a birthday with a man or spent a holiday with a boyfriend or walked along the beach with a boyfriend.

    I can't take it anymore!! I want a boyfriend- every active pretty woman has had one boyfriend at least in 50 years!! Please bring me a husband or a boyfriend in my lifetime Jesus!!
    posted by em
    on Friday, May 6, 2011 at 9:53 pm
  21. Em,

    Yours is a tough situation for sure, and very painful. Take this post to heart and go through the paragraphs, one by one, humbly asking God to speak to your heart about any areas where you need to hear from Him.

    The way to find peace, and freedom from the depression and anger and bitterness, is to go to Him. Take the following paragraph (from the post) and ask God to teach you His ways and desires as you seek Him for a boyfriend or husband:

    The whole point of prayer is to grow in relationship with God. The more we talk and listen, the more He shapes the conversation. As we grow closer to Him, our desires shift from what we want—what we think we most need—to what He does. His desires become our desires.

    Each day pray and ask God to help you want a relationship with Him more than you want a boyfriend. As you express gratitude, the anger and bitterness will give way, and you will humbly, peaceably, trust Him.
    posted by Sarah, Revive Our Hearts
    on Saturday, May 28, 2011 at 3:45 pm
  22. EM,

    I'm 48yrs old and have never been married or in love for that matter. I've had a few, very few so called 'boyfriends'.

    I've been praying and asking close friends and clergy to pray for me regarding marriage for over 25yrs. I thought for sure the Lord would have blessed me with a husband, but he hasn't.

    I remember when I was in my twenties, and people use to say the one thing they feared most in life was to grow old by themselves. I never felt like that. I just knew I would have been married long before now.

    Over the last several years when I was seeking to get closer to the Lord, and desiring to share the gospel, I found myself not desiring to be married, and I didn't care whether I got married or not. But when I started focusing on myself and my desires, the feeling of wanting to get married would overwhelm me.

    I've come to realize marriage was not the will of God for my life. You see, when we delight ourselves in the Lord, he gives us the desires of our heart. For me I didn't desire marriage when I delighted myself with the Lord. It has taken me so long to realize this.

    Another thing I've learned is to not make anything and idol, including the desire to marry or have a boyfriend.

    May the Lord bless you and keep you
    posted by Melinda
    on Wednesday, June 1, 2011 at 9:17 pm
  23. Melinda,
    Very interesting how things changed for you! Thank you for sharing!
    posted by Gina
    on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 at 6:22 pm
  24. Well,thank you so much for the message,so soothing to the soul. God is a merciful Father,HE makes us be in some situations because that is the only time we glorify Him 100%. He may make you take long to get a vehicle yet you have been saving for the past 5 years because He wants you to tell ur neighbour in the train that God loves them. The God who is great is a God of high standards:are you praying for a mate as you are dating someone else?surrender to Him and only Him remember human wisdom is where God's foolishness starts. From Asio Jacinta cintasio.aj@gmail.com +256784081050
    posted by Asio jacinta
    on Thursday, July 7, 2011 at 1:03 am
  25. I am so happy I have come across this page. I am a 27 year old woman, never had a boyfriend and never been kissed. To add to my self esteem issues, I experienced sexual abuse so the enemy had a field day using my circumstances against me. I felt all the textbook feelings an abused child felt. Honestly, I never been suicidal but I felt what was the point even being alive; I felt I did not have a purpose. I am only this open because you all have been so open to me. God has healed me from my troubled mindset, Now i am trying to grow in faith to believe that he will give me double for my former shame. I recommend all books from Michelle Mckinney Hammond. She struggled with singleness and praise God, she is getting married and God even pointed out her future husband to her (she is in her 50s). I still struggle at times, but I try to remember if it happened to her, it will happen for me. I have a guy it mind like many of you, but I want the perfect will for both him and me no matter what. I've come to love this guy and I feel that I have gotten signs, but I am not 100% sure since I can not pray for a guy to like me. However, I do receive his plans for my life.

    I use to cry every night about my singleness, so much I would feel sick and I just got tired of that. So I asked God to give me peace and he did. A peace that really does transcend all understanding. When I think of how I handle current issues, I remember how I use to react and I am so shocked I am not handling it the same way.

    EM, I was so touched by your post and my heart does feel your pain. But I pray with the blood of Jesus that the strongholds on your soul are broken. That God does a good work in you and bring you to oneness with Him and that in His timing that He brings you the desires of your heart and that you can be a wonderful testimony to others. Dear EM, I prophesy to you and speak faith to you, you are not going through this for nothing, you are going to be a source of inspiration of God's faithfulness. You will be an inspiration for me and every other woman who is going through this. God makes a point every so often to make the impossible happen like healing the blind, giving the barren children, and raising the dead.

    A suggestion for all you ladies, a principal of seed time and harvest, pray for all your sisters in Christ who have come across this page and have written on this page. Pray that God heals all of our hearts and help us to grow closer to Him and that he directs us to our destiny.
    posted by cmw
    on Friday, July 8, 2011 at 2:21 am
  26. When I was single, I thought God had forgotten me as well. At a young age, I didn't pray that God would give me a husband, but that He would choose my husband. I too believe that if you are delighting in the Lord (truly seeking His will-not just for your life, but for His Kingdom) He will give you the desires of your heart. I was 18 when I first started to pray. I was so hurt when it seemed like everyone my age was getting married except for myself by the time I was in my 20s. I had people who seem to want to make me feel bad about being single as well. But I knew that if I asked God to guide my life, then when it was time, He would give me my husband. I was a virgin and married at the age of 32. And I'm not just saying this; I had some interesting circumstances that I went through to get to my husband, but when I got to him, honestly, I can't imagine being married to anyone more perfect for me. God is awesome. He knows what's best for us better than we know. So, if you are truly, truly, truly seeking the will of God for not just your personal life, but what God wants you to do for Him, He will give you the desires of your heart- either what you are praying for, or He will change your desires to match His will. Be open and be ready.
    posted by mrsarp
    on Thursday, August 18, 2011 at 6:01 pm
  27. I so love this article. It took my mind in direction it never went in before with this topic. So glad I read this
    posted by esw
    on Monday, August 22, 2011 at 2:54 pm
  28. Imagine being unmarried and 43 in Africa. But I am waiting on God. I realise as said earlier that God treats us all differently. We must ask Him to teach us how to pray. He said, it's not meet for man to be alone and so He would make him a comparable companion. He said, and no one shall want her mate, for my mouth it has commanded and my Spirit it has gathered them. He said, I am not a man that I should lie, nor the son of man that I should repent, have I said and would I not do, has He spoken and would He not make good. Pray His promises back to Him. He is faithful who has promised.
    posted by AMA
    on Thursday, August 25, 2011 at 8:40 pm
  29. Thank you so much for this article and for all the beautiful testimonies. I praise God for my singleness. I just find out on the Facebook that my boyfriend of 11 years is intimate with other woman. I threw some hurtful sms to him. Cant help it, hurt so much. But I did pray the rosary and received some peace. I am learning how to lean on God despite circumstances. To say yes to God, even though its hurts, God must have better plans for me. To trust that God is in control. So my prayers now is for the strength to get out from this hurtful relationship. God is able. To heal me, change me and strengthen me. I thank God for love I have received despite the circumstances now. I should pray for all single ladies too and for my future husband. I bless Your name Jesus!
    posted by Jessica
    on Sunday, August 28, 2011 at 8:34 am
  30. Jessica,

    We are so sorry for what you have experienced in the relationship with your boyfriend. One of the greatest truths in all of Scripture is we can rely on Jesus in painful and difficult times. "Cast all your cares upon Him for He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7

    It is God's mercy that let you see your boyfriend’s true character and behavior. For that you can indeed give thanks.

    We are praying God’s great grace for you right now and for your future. It is a personal relationship with Jesus that lays a foundation for all other relationships in our lives. We trust you will have opportunity to build on that foundation in the days ahead.

    God bless you, dear Jessica. May His peace be yours this day.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, August 29, 2011 at 4:10 pm
  31. It's great to read the encouraging and hopeful comments from women around the globe. Its been about 7 years since I too went through a devastating breakup. I was dating a foreign doctor from another country for almost 8 years. I was so certain it would lead to marriage. We were best friends, just it presence was enough, he felt so right. He expressed the same feelings and always talked about our future together. On a visit back to his homeland, his parents arranged a marriage for him. He said he only knew the girl 2 weeks before the wedding. When he came back to my country to finish his job, he brought his new wife along. He met me a couple of times, he said he wanted to help me through this hurt. I quickly put a stop to meeting him, as I felt it wasn't right and I wouldn't have wanted my husband to meet a former girlfriend. Years later, I still have not met anyone to fall in love with overtake my feelings for him. I have been obedient and faithful and patiently waiting on God to sent someone, as I was told in a prophecy session there would be a season when God will send a mate for me and I would know. This prophecy was actually given when I was seeing this foreigner, at the time I was hurt and confused my it, as I thought I have already met my mate. I am now at the age where it is an embarrassment not to be married and settled. Please remember me in your prayers as I try to keep on believing and have faith. Bless you all.
    posted by genie
    on Thursday, September 15, 2011 at 9:47 pm
  32. Genie,

    Our hearts hurt along with yours as you share the struggles you have gone through over the last few years. You did the right thing, Genie, by ending your relationship with this doctor. We know it was a difficult decision, but it was the right thing to do. We have prayed for you today and have asked the Lord to move in your heart and meet your deepest heart needs – that He would cause you to recognize Him as the eternal lover of your soul and the husband of your life right now (Is. 54:5). Even though these days are difficult for you, we know that God’s grace is fully able to meet your every need and strengthen you as you trust Him (2 Cor. 12:9-10). May He fill you with His peace as you fix your eyes on Him (Is. 26:3).
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, September 20, 2011 at 11:01 am
  33. Thank you so much for posting this article. I truly needed to hear this! Although I am just 22, many of my friends have found their mate and have gotten married. I want to be a wife because I have so much love in my heart and want to have children one day. When I was in the world, I would cling to men who were not Christ-like. I was in a stable relationship for a couple of years but things went wrong with physical distance between us...and more importantly our focus was not on God. We chose to engage in pre-marital sex, which I feel truly led to our demise.

    Currently, I've been praying for God to reveal things in my spirit that need to be improved. I realize that in the past I clung unto men, which never lead to any lasting happiness. I am actively seeking a closer relationship with God amongst all things.

    Fortunately, God put a Christian man in my life for some reason, who I am very fond of. We are close friends. He is one of the most loving and kind men that I know. Even though I do not know what the future holds for him and I, I realize through God's annointing on this man... how a man of God is supposed to treat a woman. I will cherish this man forever. God, if it is Your will for us to be together one day, let it be so . Thank you Lord.

    I've come to realize that God wants me to cling unto Him...and only Him. I am longing to experience the love of God that supersedes anything of this world. I realize that God's love is eternal and unconditional.

    The reality of life's situations has prompted me to seek out the Lord. I do not want to be a widow...and be broken into pieces because I do not have a man at my side. I do not want to be a woman who jumps at any potential mate...due to feeling lonely. IMO this is spiritually dangerous. I want to reach a point where my love for God is SO strong that I will still be functional and capable of serving Him completely...even if I unfortunately lose my mate.

    I write this because in my past when I was single I would cling unto the next man who I thought could love me. However, this void I felt was never filled by a man. This space is reserved for God.

    I am not saying that a husband can not bring a woman love, but what I am saying is that God's love is stronger than any other Being.

    So ladies, to some extent I understand the pain associated with being single. However, in my heart I believe our God is good and His love is great. I will be praying for all the women of this board to be blessed and to live abundantly according to God's will.
    posted by Nika
    on Wednesday, October 5, 2011 at 8:35 pm
  34. Wow, this was a powerful message to read as I have struggled with a 10 year relationship, unmarried with children. I have sought God in the past, but never sustained a relationship. My faith has been superficial. I have felt that God had abandoned me. The one thing I had always wanted in my life was to be married and raise a family. This phrase has resonated in my heart, "What God ordains, he sustains." I believe it to be so true. I wish I would have been faithful to the Lord as I am not married, currently the father of my kids and I do not live in the same house and it has created a wave of confusion for my children. He isn't a Godly man and although he has provided financially and goes to church with the kids, we haven't been able to work through our issues. I started to get bitter and feel angry at God. I am glad I found this post. I still long to be married, but I am thankful for what God has blessed me with to this point and I continue to pray that He leads me.
    posted by Lily
    on Monday, October 10, 2011 at 12:39 pm
  35. I have been going through some heartache after a couple of broken relationships. I am 36 years old and the younger version of me would've never guessed that I would still be single at this age. It's an eye-opening experience to realize that there are many more women out there who are going through the similar pain - terrified of being alone. The Lord has been teaching me to be courageous because "I can do all things through Him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)

    I would like to share this praise song with all...

    IN HIS TIME, IN HIS TIME
    HE MAKES ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL IN HIS TIME
    LORD, PLEASE SHOW ME EVERYDAY
    AS YOU'RE TEACHING ME YOUR WAY
    AND I'LL DO JUST WHAT YOU SAY
    IN YOUR TIME.

    IN YOUR TIME, IN YOUR TIME
    YOU MAKE ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR TIME
    LORD, MY LIFE TO YOU I BRING
    MAY EACH SONG I HAVE TO SING
    BE TO YOU A LOVELY THING
    IN YOUR TIME

    BE TO YOU A LOVELY THING
    IN YOUR TIME.


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wo-rGzx2OZk&feature=related
    posted by Michelle
    on Monday, October 10, 2011 at 3:10 pm
  36. The name of jesus I pray for all the women who have posted on this forum that You would continue to heal thier broken places and to make thier jagged places strait. I ask in the name of Jesus that You would send Your Spirit that would encourage them in their walk with You and that You would prepare and keep them for Yourself in the name of Jesus I pray. Amen
    posted by JNB
    on Saturday, October 15, 2011 at 7:02 pm
  37. Lily…

    Thank you for your post and your honesty. I pray you will find a “sustained relationship” with God. The Bible tells us that those who seek God with all their heart will indeed find Him. God gives that promise. (Deut. 4:29; 2 Chron. 15:2; Jer. 29:13; Acts 17:27) So, Lily, keep seeking Him and find that close, intimate personal relationship with Him. I encourage you to go to your pastor or a strong evangelical leader in your community and ask him to help you take the steps to a personal relationship with Christ. You will be amazed how the troubles of your life begin to find an answer as you entrust yourself to God and His ways.

    We thank the Lord with you that He led you to this post; we pray you will know the love of Christ and His care for you and that He will complete the work He has already begun.

    Blessings to you!
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, October 19, 2011 at 4:11 pm
  38. It helps a lot when I learned that I am not the only person struggle with singleness. I was angry with God before, not knowing why He blessed other people with marriages, families, kids but not me. I know that my anger is not a right attitude and hoping to put more faith in God that He will take care of my future no matter what.
    posted by Melanie
    on Saturday, October 22, 2011 at 6:44 am
  39. Indeed being singlecan be devastating. But let us remember that God is the author of mariage. Dont feel bad when u feel discouraged as single.GOD created created a desire for marriage in each of us. But do u know that worrying is a sin? its a sin to worry about anything. I am just 22 but really feel so lonely being single but when i remember the things GOD has done 4 me, i cease to worry bse i know that he will give me a husband if he wants. that up to him i have learnt to put him first in my life and all other things will be an addition to my walk with Christ. its up to GOD now. i will by no means marry if its not his will. i have also learnt to die to self and put more emphasis on making GOD happy aand obeying his word instead of dwelling on my loneliness. i have had to remember that GOD understands. i have seen many in devastating marriages so marriage outside of GOD's will is not good. isnt it better to stay unmarried than getting married to unbelievers? be patient with GOD and know that everything is about him. seek more on making him happy......thats wat counts.
    posted by janelle
    on Friday, December 2, 2011 at 10:23 pm
  40. Easy to say if at least ONE thing in your life goes right. I haven't had anything go right. Jobless and lonely, I just feel like I'm so busy trying to please everyone else and I'm ok with that because I want truly want everyone to be happy, but I feel I never get the chance to be happy and successful too. it seems the more I seek to be obedient to God, the more He slays me. I don't think I've ever felt loved before in my life. Not even by God. I feel like a failure and a burden.
    posted by TiredandSad
    on Sunday, December 11, 2011 at 8:46 pm
  41. Dear Tired and Sad,

    I sympathize with you. You can really feel alone when you don’t sense God’s presence and feel emotionally depleted when you continually give and never seem to receive. Most of us have been in your position at one time or another.

    When you feel confident in your relationship with God and His presence in your life, then His purpose and plan will produce satisfaction and joy, though at times you may also be tired. I pray you can find that refreshed in your ife.

    You may want to rethink your relationship with Jesus in light of Christmas and Psalm 139. Remember, Jesus died on the cross to save you from your sins—He has saved you from the penalty of sin, is saving you from the power of sin in your life now, and will save you from the presence of sin in the future—at home with Him. Let your thoughts dwell on these truths. If God never did anything else for you, this would be enough to prove His love. This could be one of the most special times in your life.

    Bless you as you seek His peace, hope, and joy (Rom. 15:13). I am praying for you.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, December 12, 2011 at 5:31 pm
  42. God bless you and I thank you for this opportunity to read this article. The Holy Spirit is at work, because this is directed to me and I am truly blessed.
    posted by sha-shane
    on Saturday, December 17, 2011 at 11:32 pm
  43. Wow..where do I start? I've just turned 28 y.o. and am learning how to pray for my future husband. I grew up in a home where adultery was part of my up bringing, divorce and then bitterness. It wasn't until my early 20's that I learned of forgivenss and looking at my own heart and beginning to know healing. God has been so good in releasing me from anger, insecurioty, and learning to live in and through him. I've always wanted to know how to pray, what for, and first of all that he is a GODLY man in whom I can respect and serve. Recently God has shown me thorugh my friends, himself, and delievering me from the spirit of lust to pray for him. I have a new focus in being pure and seeing his plans unfold for my life. I'm becoming the woman God has created me to be and learning how discern his heart for my life. Thank you for this article.

    Blessings,

    Miranda
    posted by miranda
    on Monday, December 19, 2011 at 11:53 pm
  44. Thank you so much for this article, It helps me alots knowing that its' not only me struggle with singleness,I've just turned 31 years, I have never been married and i thought God has forgetten me. the beatiful testimonies has realy encouraging me.

    i starrted relationship while i have 25 yrs and dated for 6 months where i realised my boyfriend was married and separated with his wife but he never told me, i decided to stop with him and promise my self that i will be careful for the next relation, i keeping pray for my future husband for 6 yrs now and i still wainting on him.
    posted by joyce
    on Tuesday, December 20, 2011 at 10:03 pm
  45. I've been praying for marriage for 18 years now. My aunt encouraged me to start praying for a good spouse when I was in my late teens. Unfortunately, my father used to get jealous when I'd go out with friends and when young men would show and interest in my and bring me flowers. In fact, I can remember him making the comment to me years ago "I'm going to stop you from the mistake of marriage." He was very bitter because he had a hard life, which I won't get into here. My mother is a good Christian woman too. He was very lucky to have married her. She used to say "just ignore him", but it was very difficult when my own father would get me emotionally distraught. Anyhow, my dating life was terrible with someone always trying to interfere in everything in my life, from going out with friends to choosing a career that I was interested in and to dating men. The fear that my father was going to try to interfere in everything was horrible and he did do so as I thought. My uncle even once made the comment to him "it's terrible being alone." We all wondered if something like that would hit home, but who knows how people think.

    Sometimes I get very upset when I think about how I might have been married to a nice man a long time ago if I would have been able to date in peace. It gets depressing for me to think about how I'm in my 30's and still single. I get to be very lonely, but I refuse to hook up with any man just to have someone in my life. I want a good spouse who is going to help me get into Heaven not be a hinderance. (team work to lead good Christian married lives and save our souls is very important to me). However, I do see so many bad ungodly marriages around me and think about how God might have been protecting me from that when I was in my early 20's. I refuse to give up praying to God for a good mate, because I know that with God all things are possible and I cannot have a good marriage without him in my life. When he does answer our prayers positively, things happe so unexpectedly and in such wonderful ways. He and his saints have worked so many unexpected wonderful miracles for me in the past. I have to remind myself of those miracles when I get upset and impatient.

    Thank you for this article. Seeing the write ups about praying not just to marry a good Christian man, but for God to fill him with the graces necessary to be a good spouse and for what God wants him to have (inner strengths and qualities). I have a better understanding of how to pray for him. I will also pray for myself to be a good spouse more often.
    posted by dd1
    on Saturday, March 31, 2012 at 3:11 pm
  46. I am in my 30's too and i am also looking to get married. I am currently in a relationship but did down my heart, I know he is not the one for me. I thought I would be married by 25 but I guess God has a different plan.

    I am also praying and believing God to bring my future husband. I refuse to settle with anyone especially the guy I am seeing. He is never supportive, lazy (hasn't worked in almost 2 years) and rarely goes to church. This is not what I want in a man. I have prayed over this situation and I know I just have to let him go. Now I have to trust and believe God to bring me godly husband I so desire.
    posted by LadyBird
    on Wednesday, April 4, 2012 at 10:23 pm
  47. i can really relate to several ladies and their plights!!! i am in my late 50's never married , i had a few relationships but nothing serious (obviously). But i have been friends with a man i have known about 4-5 yrs now, and i really feel like he is the one!! yes i concur that praying tro much can have adverse reactions to your plight! my email is jmj_notredame@yahoo.com if anyone would like to chat more. Thank You and MAY GOD BLESS ALL of you in your plights. ~ Chris
    posted by Chris
    on Sunday, April 8, 2012 at 9:10 pm
  48. LadyBird...I am praying for you, asking that God will strengthen you and give you the courage to do what is right and trust Him for His best! You have read the situation correctly…this is not what you want to settle for. You want a godly man that loves God and puts Christ first in his life (Eph. 5:25). That is first and foremost! And working is God’s plan (2 Thess. 3:10) and provision for a family (1 Tim. 5:8).

    God bless you, LadyBird.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Friday, April 13, 2012 at 10:13 am
  49. I can't believe that ye trust in God so much? I find it so hard to trust in God, I keep believing in statistics and that the stats are stacked against all good single Christian ladies? I'm just stating a simple fact. I feel sometimes some of the comments on this page are very smug from married women.!
    posted by Ms Statistics!
    on Friday, April 13, 2012 at 6:21 pm
  50. Hello!! I found this website while searching for "prayer for a husband".. I scanned the comments and was encouraged to write as well.

    I am Asian. I have a 5 year old son. His dad is American. He was never around for my son and hasn't supported him fully although he has been in our country for many years and not in the US. I don't love him anymore but I always feel that we should be together for the sake of our child. I also want to have another child as I adore kids so much but I don't want to have an Asian husband because this may mean I will have a different kid in the future. Now, I have been communicating with a German guy. We've known each other before I met my son's father that means more than 6 years. We only met once because there was no spark between us. Just because I was in love with someone. 2 years later we again exchanged emails. He has now a daughter who just turned 3 but they didn't end up with the mom of the girl who is also Asian. They don't live together with the ex girlfriend. Because of my experience with my son's dad I really felt so scared to try again. I haven't had any relationship whatsoever after my son's dad left me (I was only a month pregnant) (except with my German friend I have right now but like I said we never met in person again). Now I am almost 32 and I really want to have my own family. I want someone to call "honey" (though I call my son honey as well) I want someone I can share with what I did the whole day. I want someone to be a role model to my son and would accept him as his own. He shows interest in "adopting" my son and always tells me "say hi to him or I want to see you and Stephen". He wanted to see me and tried many times to meet up but I always turned him down until I decided to meet up with him soon. Everytime our meeting was near I felt so nervous and would back out. but now I think I am ready... so I have been praying to God to show me sign he's the one... please help me pray for this... I am a little desperate now.. I believe God has plans for everyone. And I believe He knows what's best for me and what's in my heart. Thank you for reading .
    posted by Mommy Flo
    on Friday, May 4, 2012 at 4:36 pm
  51. I am 27 and a Christian I desire to get married and my #1 regret is the 6 men I have had sex with I just want to say to the younger and older women who have expressed depression for not having a boyfriend or have not been kissed please stay pure and be happy that you don't have to tell your future husband about the men you have been with each one is a deep regret and I long for my virginity to give to a man...please save sex for marriage I promise it is not worth it I have so much guilt and disgust for myself over this and please know God well reward your efforts.
    posted by amanda
    on Saturday, May 5, 2012 at 6:34 pm
  52. Mommy Flo…You need much wisdom for your life…and wise counsel for the place you find yourself now. We encourage you to talk with your pastor and/or church leaders to find counsel. God has provided spiritual leaders for us to lead us and guide us.

    One thing you didn’t mention about the German man is his relationship with Christ. You want role models for your son that are dedicated, committed Christians. Find a strong evangelical church for your son to have such men in his life. If the man is not a Christian, God has already spoken in 2 Corinthians 6:14.

    There is much to pray about as you consider your future, Mommy Flo. I encourage you to consider the article at http://www.reviveourhearts.com/articles/what-god-hath-joined-together-del-fehsenfeld/. Perhaps it will be helpful to you as you pray about your future. We are praying for you that God will lead you into Truth and give you direction for your life.

    God bless you.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Saturday, May 5, 2012 at 8:00 pm
  53. Amanda...Thank you so much for your honesty and your courage. It is an encouragement for women to hear from someone who has “been there” and can tell them about the reality of such choices.

    We believe that Christ’s presence and power in a life is essential for living and walking in purity, and we want you to know that His power is also available for those who have sinned and live with regret. The gospel of Jesus is not only the gospel of salvation, but also the gospel of beginning again. The Lord doesn’t intend for you to carry the burden of the past, and His death and resurrection are there for you right where you are today.

    Ask for His forgiveness, then accept His forgiveness, and know that the Christ who makes all things new always brings cleansing with forgiveness (1 John 1:9). There will always be a sense of sadness for your past, but Christ can bring freedom from guilt and regret and a joy about the future. You can be a trophy of His grace. “You faithfully answer our prayers with awesome deeds, O God of our salvation. You are the hope of everyone on earth.” Psalm 65:5
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, May 7, 2012 at 3:30 pm
  54. I am 33 years old. Met a guy when I was 26years old... He had issues but i chose to accept it thinking I can change him. I got pregnant, had a miscarriage but we continued living together. It's something I do not want but he insisted we live together. We can't be married because he got married when he was 21... I met him when he was 28... he was long separated to the girl he married to... but he had 2 serious relationships after that... He showered me with his love which i doubt now if it's true coz 4 years ago he left me for another girl... It was so difficult when I know all i did was to support him but maybe this is what God wanted... when we were together we often fight, everyday i say sorry to God for failing him coz I never wanted to be living in with someone. I asked God to take me away from that relationship but it's just so sad that up until now i'm alone when what i always try to do is do good. I'm tired and i'm just praying God will bless me with someone who will love me truly... I pray that it will still be possible.
    none
    posted by dee78
    on Saturday, May 12, 2012 at 11:36 am
  55. Dee78...We are so sorry to hear of the pain and disappointment brought through this relationship. We have prayed that God will heal you from your hurts and that He will strengthen you to hold to your convictions and remain pure until He brings a godly man into your life. We cannot change anyone, but God can. So we encourage you to make the choice to trust God and follow His ways even though it may be hard. Surrender your future to Him, sweet friend. His ways are best. He loves you, and has a wonderful plan for your life (Jer. 29:11).
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, May 14, 2012 at 5:11 pm
  56. Am joy,am 28yrs old.atimes our delay in marriage is for God to draw us close to him.i don't complain much of my singleness because i didn't make The Almighty my foundation early in life.it's not that i don't go to church,but i didn't know then, the joy,the peace that came from the only true source (Jesus) but i believed in his word's that says he will restored our wasted year's which the locust has eaten.so first seek God so that all things shall be added unto you.matt 6-33.i have being a club girl,drank alcohol,do all sort of ungodly acts,but my life came to normal the very day i confessed my sin to my church pastor.it's not easy but i did it by his grace.so God is the giver of all good things.as am writting this article he has showed me my future husband and God ask me to pray for him(husband to be) to open up what he have in mind for me.many thank's to God.
    posted by Joy
    on Saturday, May 26, 2012 at 5:45 am
  57. Thanks for the encouragement, ur article has answered most of my questions about praying for a future husband. God bless
    posted by Glo
    on Sunday, June 10, 2012 at 4:33 pm
  58. i feel so encouraged by what you write am requesting that you will pray for me as am also praying for a husband and not just any husband but a man of God understanding and a man who will be there to profess provide and protect his wife and family when it comes
    posted by susan
    on Monday, June 11, 2012 at 8:33 am
  59. In April of 2010, when I was 30 I met a man who would later become one of my dearest and best friends. We went through seasons of being romantically interested in each other, but things never lined up for us for a year and a half, so we continued to be friends. Over that time i felt that God had revealed to me that I would eventually marry him. I didn't share this with him (because who wants to look like a crazy person?), I knew that God would have to reveal the same thing to him. We started dating six months ago and things have been so great and peaceful. We get along perfectly, we understand each other and we truly do love each other.

    Two days ago, he came to pick me up to go to dinner. When I got in the car he told me that we needed to talk and proceeded to tell me that while he loves me very much, he doesn't know if I am the will of God for his life and that this has been weighing heavily on him. He doesn't feel comfortable continuing with our relationship unless he receives a clear sign or word from the Lord that we are supposed to be together.

    This worries me and stresses me out immesnely. I feel like it is a lot of pressure to put on both of us. I am not ready to get married immediately, nor have I been dwelling on marriage (even though I do feel like he is the one). I want us to progress in our relationship and not feel the stress of worrying about marriage until we both feel it is right.

    We are taking the nerxt two weeks to fast and pray about our relationship and we are asking God to speak to both of us during this time, and that we both receive the same answer. A clear yes or no.

    I would appreciate any prayers at this time. I do want God's best for both of our lives and I am not so committed to what I believe I heard before that I am not willing to accept a different outcome, it is just a difficult situation and I feel fearful and alone. If this is not God's will for us, then I will not only lose someone I love, but I will also lose my best friend, and I know that there will be painful consquences to that.
    posted by CEileen
    on Monday, June 11, 2012 at 11:32 am
  60. @CEileen...This is indeed a painful situation for you. I can understand why there is such a sense of uncertainty. We are so glad you asked us to pray for you and with you. For when we pray, we are asking God to do something we cannot do. We are acknowledging our dependence, even our helplessness, in the face of circumstances that we ourselves cannot determine. In these situations we have the assurance of Scripture that God stands by to listen and meet the needs and burdens of our hearts (1 Pet. 5:7; Phil. 4:19).

    Remember the prayer promises found in Philippians 4:6 7—“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” As we pray and trust in Him, He takes our anxieties and gives us His peace. You can trust He will see you through whatever comes in your life--good or bad, happy or sad. I am praying for you this day. May God's great peace be yours, CEileen. God bless you.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, June 11, 2012 at 8:54 pm
  61. I stumbled on this entry and wow ! It is still active since 2010 and this shows how many people this affects. I am 34 and single. I have dated in the past and had a couple longe term relationships but noting has gotten to any conversations about marriage. When i was in high school, i always had dates and felt ok about my love life but as i have gotten older it has gotten so much harder. I have saved myself for marrige and have reognized God's hand of protection in my life over the years. It has been about 7 yrs since i have dated and honestly, beig single hurts so bad and the fear of aloneness is so overwhelming. How doi I truly surrender this? I am so frustrated because i pray over and over for help in this area and i feel like nothing ever changes. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you for writing this.
    posted by allngod
    on Thursday, June 14, 2012 at 10:39 pm
  62. @allngod… Indeed you need not feel alone in this struggle. My friend answered a question similar to yours so beautifully. I share it with you.

    “I have several very dear friends who know the reality of the heartache you have described in longing to be married and yet remaining single. Though the Lord has not yet granted the desire of their heart, they are choosing (and I’m told it is sometimes a daily choice) to embrace the suffering of their loneliness and pain. The result is women whose lives beautifully reflect the grace of God even in the midst of their yet unanswered prayers.

    The Lord’s ways certainly are not always our ways but His ways are always best (Is. 55:8-9), dear friend. The Lord is filled with lovingkindness and compassion toward you. He makes no mistakes; He knit you together in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-14). He lovingly fashioned every detail of who you are and has designed you for a specific plan and purpose in His kingdom (Jeremiah 29:11; Ephesians 2:10).”

    Rehearsing these truths and even memorizing the verses will give your mind a place to rest when the struggle is so difficult and painful.
    Nancy interviewed one of her single friends in a series entitled Serving God Through Singleness: An Interview With Carolyn McCulley. You can access this three program series at http://www.reviveourhearts.com/radio/revive-our-hearts/hope-deferred/. You will find great encouragement here.

    There is hope for joy and completeness while you wait for God to answer. It is found, as you said, in surrender to Him, His ways and His plans. In her book Surrender: The Heart God Controls Nancy says:

    “Our natural tendency is to hold on tightly, to try to protect and preserve whatever we think we can’t live without. We are afraid that if we surrender everything to God—our health, our material possessions, our family, our reputation, our career plans, all our rights, our future—He might take us up on it!

    Choosing the pathway of full surrender will transform your perspective, set fire to your soul, revolutionize your life, and give the spiritual victory you have sought for so long.”

    I pray, allngod, that God will speak to your heart in ways that fulfill your longings and give you peace beyond all understanding (Phil. 4:7). May you indeed enjoy victory as you wait on Him.

    Thank you for posting and sharing your heart on this heart issue. Blessings to you!
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Friday, June 15, 2012 at 10:38 pm
  63. Just wanted to say this post reminded and encouraged me of the importance of praying for my husband in his daily walk and experiences. As opposed to simply praying that he'll turn up (FINALLY!!!) on my doorstep...

    I'm 47, never married, no children. I've lived and worked in many countries, many cultures, and have always been looking out for my designated mate. To say I'm disappointed to be at this stage of my life without my longed-and-planned-for-since-childhood husband, family, and home of my own would be the understatement of the century.

    I know that God can - and will when it suits Him/is right for us - do absolutely anything. Absolutely EVERYTHING. And strangely, in some ways, that makes the disappointment even harder to bear at times.

    "I have faith. And I believe God can and will provide the right one for me to be a helpmeet to. So why doesn't He just DO it already!???"

    But I've learned that He actually DOES have someone for me. I just have to learn some deeper lesson in patience before he appears in my life.

    The reason I am so sure about this is because God keeps sending messengers to tell me exactly that. Every time I've thrown up my hands over the years and said "Well clearly God's answer to my decades-long request for a husband is 'no', rather than 'yes' or 'maybe', some person - at church, at work, on the street, online - simply pops up from nowhere and looks deep into my eyes in a really unsettling way and tells me "God has someone for you. You just have to be patient..."

    I haven't been in the church that whole time. I've recently come back to the Lord. But the message has come to me throughout the years. In church, out of church. Different people. Random places. Same message. Same delivery. Every time that I simply give up and decide I'm going to be single forever so I might as well accept it. And you can imagine that, after more than 3 decades of praying and asking and waiting and going through the pain of broken/painful relationships, I've reached the point of 'giving up' many times.

    I actually laughed out loud when I read the part of the article that spoke of how finding a husband can sometimes seem almost as miraculous as walking on water!

    Anyway, there is something to be said for learning the lessons God sends to you in miraculous ways. Like I said, mine has something to do with patience, but clearly I'm being pretty slow on the uptake... guess I should be looking at ways to speed up the process!

    I'm going home now to pray for my husband, to ask God to lead him in whatever he's up to tonight and this weekend. And then I'm going to pray that my issues surrounding patience will be revealed to me so that God can show me how I need to work on them...
    posted by Andrea A.
    on Friday, July 6, 2012 at 9:43 pm
  64. pls pray for me
    i have been praying for a husband en i was single for 2years en halve.then i met this guy who has been praying for a wife too.he even had a dream about me being his wife.we met en dated for 1month.but after having sex with him once i realised he was not my husband because i was not satisfied! but for the rest he is very good en caring,prayerful en he loves me so much.the only thing that make me so scared of marrying him is because i fear he may not be able to satisfy me in bed.God does not like adultery so i dont wish to marry en still go out to commit adultery.but i love this guy so much,im so sad to part ways with him,but im also so scared not to be his faithful wife.im so worried en confused
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    posted by nana
    on Monday, July 9, 2012 at 10:33 am
  65. @Nana:

    God created sex to be a shared between a husband and wife, not before marriage, but after marriage. Could it be that your dissatisfaction in your sexual encounter with this man was because of the sin of your actions? We encourage you to confess this sin to the Lord, seek His forgiveness and then repent, by not having sex again until you are married.

    Learning to satisfy each other sexually is a process that takes time, Nana. It requires the lifetime commitment of a husband and wife. It is an area that a couple continues to grow in all through the years of their marriage. As we grow in our love for each other, we learn to serve each other and we seek to meet the other’s needs above our own.

    We encourage you to continue to pray about this, Nana. Remember, Nana, the Lord looks at the heart and not at the outward things of man (1 Sam. 16:7). We are challenged to do the same thing in our lives. We encourage you to choose to look at this man’s heart, at his character, rather than his sexual prowess. Sexual satisfaction is an important part of marriage, but it isn’t the most important thing in a marriage. It is something that is learned and cultivated over time. We are praying that the Lord will guide you as you make these important and lifetime decisions about the man God wants you to marry.
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, July 9, 2012 at 6:01 pm
  66. I'm new in my faith and I believe that God has laid something on my heart. I was wondering if anyone could help. Since I started getting back into church, there has been a certain person that I keep seeing who has been on my mind. He seems like a very Christian man and a very sweet guy. I do know his name and a little about him. I feel that God is trying to tell me something about him, but I don't have any idea what it is. Since I've met him, my view on marriage and children has changed. Something is telling me that he could be my future husband. Does that sound really crazy? I've never had a boyfriend before so this is really strange for me. Any help would be very appreciated. Thanks!
    posted by Lizzie
    on Tuesday, July 24, 2012 at 12:26 pm
  67. @Lizzie...It is a delight to hear of your new-found faith! I pray that as you grow in Christ, you will continue in the joy that He has for you in the abundant life! (John 10:10)

    What you have newly experienced in Christ is a time for the Holy Spirit to reset your priorities and teach you the ways of the Lord. You can be sure if this relationship is of Him, He will cause it to come to pass. You don't have to initiate it in any way. God will lead. Don't hesitate to talk to the Lord each time it comes to your mind, and ask God to help you keep your focus on Him in these early days of faith, and not rush into a relationship. You would need to know much more about this young man--his character, his reputation, his actions, the depth of his commitment to the Lord, etc.--before you made any decisions about even getting into a relationship. That takes time, so wait on the Lord and let Him be the guardian of your heart in these days.

    I encourage you to get a journal and begin to write your prayers at night. List everything you are learning about God; write what He is teaching you about Himself. Enjoy the process of thinking through your Bible reading, messages you hear, Bible lessons you are involved in, and the ways you see your heart changing. Realize--you now have a lifetime to seek His will and allow Him to lead. Why don't you start by memorizing Proverbs 3:5-6? It will help you with every decision and guide your heart! Blessings to you, dear Lizzie. We are so glad you posted here!
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, July 24, 2012 at 6:17 pm
  68. I am praying for a wife and children, God is faithful, but sometimes doubt does overtake me.
    posted by Dark
    on Saturday, July 28, 2012 at 12:01 am
  69. This blog and post have been a blessing to me. I first saw the title and think I would never pray for my husband. I happen to stumble on it out of curiosity.

    Two different....at two different times....prophets prophesied that my husband is soon to come. Before this I had dedicated my entire life to God. Was a mature Christian, i went after the kingdom of God. For a whole year and half I dedicated my life to God. I even went as far to say I don't ever want to get married. It made it easier to stay out of a mans eye, because I wore certain close, people kept asking if I were a nun. It was My personal walk with God.

    Before I got the prophesey God kept showing me my husband ... And his hair. Nice hair. Both prophets also talked about his hair lol. I also saw a baby, and both prophets both saw a baby! I was like Lord what are you doing, I just change my whole mind to focus on you, now you will give me all these things.

    Your blog reminded me of what I have been doing for years, I have Matthew 6:33 posted in my closet door. And every time I would say Lord I wanted something. I was reminded if I go after God all these things will be added.

    It was when I started to focus my entire life on God my entire life God began to recreate.

    Thank you for this blog and thank you for sharing everyone.
    Truly a blessing

    I like the suggestions people have made about teaching their children about keeping there bodies for God and for their future spouse. It shows the values we are to have.

    I had children out of wedlock. I was not taught the importance of keeping myself for a special spouse to be in the wil of God.

    I also like the comments on a husband journal! I have seen God work through many journals, it would be exciting and fun to see as I pray for my husband and our unity..and see these things in his life.
    posted by Blessings
    on Monday, August 13, 2012 at 11:59 am
  70. I am forty and endured a horrible marriage to a very abusive man that was mentally emotionally and physically abusive. with God's strength I stood on my feet when I was stolen from sworn at and emotionally broken. i have been praying for a good man for six years now. He has still not come. My faith waivers but i have to be strong I do want a husband and kids of the body with all my heart,
    posted by sukhbinder
    on Tuesday, August 14, 2012 at 5:25 pm
  71. Sukhbinder,


    We are so thankful to know that you know the Lord and that He is the source of your strength during this difficult time! Our hearts break to know of the pain you have gone through in your marriage. We encourage you to give up praying for your husband, for his salvation and the resulting change of his heart. Our God is able to work miracles even in the hardest of hearts (Jer. 32:17).

    We have prayed for you today, friend, and have asked the Lord to draw near to you and to be the husband your heart so deeply desires (Is. 54:5). May you find your security, identity and comfort in Him and in Him alone, dear friend.
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, August 15, 2012 at 3:27 pm
  72. Sukhbinder,

    We are so thankful to know that you know the Lord and that He is the source of your strength during this difficult time! Our hearts break to know of the pain you have gone through in your marriage. We encourage you to give up praying for your husband, for his salvation and the resulting change of his heart. Our God is able to work miracles even in the hardest of hearts (Jer. 32:17).

    We have prayed for you today, friend, and have asked the Lord to draw near to you and to be the husband your heart so deeply desires (Is. 54:5). May you find your security, identity and comfort in Him and in Him alone, dear friend.
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, August 15, 2012 at 3:29 pm
  73. I'm only 20, but I've started to ask God to help prepare me for my future husband. And I've begun to pray for my future husband also. I tried to start writing "Dear Future Husband" letters at 18 after hearing about them at chapel, but I thought it was too weird and got sidetracked with wanting a boyfriend so badly like the rest of my friends.

    I had made it my goal to save myself for marriage, but after I started going out with one of my close friends, I gave myself to him because I thought he was the one. It was a terrible mistake! Now I regret doing so because I know I should have waited. And to add insult to injury, my friend made it apparent it was his goal to seduce me from the beginning and "the deed was done."

    So after that ordeal, I decided to walk away from that relationship because it wasn't healthy anymore. He just wanted sex, but I wanted more. So to all the single women out there, I would definitely advise if you're still a virgin, wait til marriage! And if you're not, abstain from sex with anyone else until you get married. It's hard, but with God leading you, it's possible.

    A great thing happened once I started focusing on God. Other areas in my life improved since I'm not starry-eyed over guys all the time. Last Friday, I was talking with my mother about who God has in store for me. I jokingly told her how funny it would be if the guy in my future looked like a guy on tv she admires. The guy is a young minister that my mom adores. Anyway, we both laughed, thinking nothing more of it.

    The next day, my parents and I saw a guy at my church that really resembled the man on t.v. my mom raves about all the time. The guy's never been to my church before, and nobody knew who he was. I just laughed to myself and figured God has an odd sense of humor.

    Whether it is an odd coincidence or not, I'm going to keep focusing on God and be sure that I seek Him out, so when He sends my future husband along, I'll be ready. In the meantime, I have to make sure I focus on all the things God has set before me, like growing my faith in Him, finishing my education, etc.
    posted by Rae
    on Sunday, August 19, 2012 at 12:09 pm
  74. I just found out Nancy Leigh Demoss was single so I googled "Nancy Leigh Demoss single" to get some comfort, and I eventually ended up on this page after several clicks.
    I read the article and through most of the comments of the ladies and I must say I have the same struggles you go through. Some of the comments made me scared as women much older than me are still single even thought they are being faithful to God and praying for a husband.
    However One comment stuck with me - from "mrsarp" and I hope and pray my story ends as beautiful as hers. Not that other people do not have beautiful stories but its just what I pray and hope for.
    I am a 28yr old woman, Christian, praying fasting believing in God for a husband. I have never really had a boyfriend in my life and I am still a virgin. I do struggle one most days but on others I try not to think of it and just live life. I struggle sometimes with my faith because I know God is faithful, and the Bible has many promises for God's children (including me) and also those that walk uprightly with God (which I believe includes me). So I don't get it why a God who loves me, continues to see me struggle and suffer, cry, get mad, sad, annoyed, and even pray and fast through it and serve Him in Church (to name a few) and still I see nothing. One day I heard of a 52yr old woman on Chris Fabry's show and had been faithful to God and still waiting and still a virgin, that day was just one of my worse days ever.
    I have seen people who are not faithful get married and are even happily married.
    So this confuses me.

    Whatever the case, I still pray, I still believe, I still tithe, I am still honoring Him with my body and staying committed to Him. It isn't easy (VERY far from easy), but I am trying. I hope that one VERY SOON day I will write a testimony of my Husband in Jesus' name because I still believe God hears and still answer prayers. Amen.

    Be blessed my Sisters in Christ.
    posted by Natalie
    on Friday, August 24, 2012 at 10:20 am
  75. "not everyone who wants to marry will" on what scripture do you base this my dear?
    posted by florence
    on Monday, September 3, 2012 at 2:01 am
  76. @florence...1 Corinthians 7:6-8 speaks to the call of singleness on a person’s life. Also, Jesus said some choose to remain single for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven (Matt. 19:12). Often there is a desire to marry but a person aligns their will to God’s.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, September 3, 2012 at 10:08 pm
  77. These stories are so inspiring to me. I am a 29 year old single mother and I have been raising my son on my own for almost 8 years. He turns 8 in January. I moved from my hometown a year ago and at first, I made poor friendships because I was lonely. I even pursued a guy at work, and we dated. It was awful. I spent 7 months with him, and thought we would get married, but he wasn't even thinking marriage. He would go with us to church, and one day he got saved! So maybe I was put in his life to bring him to Jesus, but it hurts that he is not the man for me. He chose Facebook, alcohol, and coworker relationships over having a family. I pray and pray for him still, but something has a hold on him. He is a new Christian, and he hasn't fully given God his entire life. I renewed my commitment to God and have remained pure to him, and after I ended things with the guy at work, I started praying for my future husband. See, it's really hard to be alone and want a family when you are a single mom. I do stuff with my son all the time. It's just the two of us. I know that I haven't met my husband yet, because I wasn't ready for him. God has done a miracle in my heart lately. He has transformed me. I prayed for His will to be done in my life, and I feel my heart is changing. I used to want a guy with all these physical attributes, and nice things, but now, I desire a man of God who has a strong relationship with Him, like I do. That's the most important thing in a Biblical marriage. I also made a promise that I would not date anyone until I met my husband. I have learned from my mistakes, and I know God has someone for me who is a leader with a lot of love for me and my son. I have to work long hours to provide for my son and my family doesn't send me money or call to check on me. I've done it by myself for so long! but I know god is my husband first and foremost. He is my BEST friend. He never lets me down. He is there for me when I cry, and he gives me good female friends that are also single, and some married so I can see how their relationships work successfully as God is the center of their marriage. I have people praying for me and my future husband, and I am not discouraged. I know that I would rather God pick him out, than me. I would not do a very good job. Plus, I believe that the man He has for me, will pursue me. I have never been pursued by a man. I truly believe that prayer, writing letters to God, has healed me from my pain and bitterness over not having a man in my life for myself and a leader for my son. It's very lonely on earth, but when I pray to God, I feel peace that He has a mate for me, in his timing who will be a great father figure to my son, and who is not caught up into worldly things like Facebook and people relationships, etc. He will be a man focused on God. I do sometimes worry how I will meet him, since I am so busy being a provider, but I trust that God has it all figured out. And if I never meet him, I know that Jesus is my husband and I will be reunited with him when I die. We are all human, and we all have longings. The only thing we can do is give them to God. Sometimes He tells me that He has already answered my prayer and that all I need to do is wait on the Lord. That is what helps me wake up everyday and smile. After all, a man is going to ask me one day why I have such a radiant smile, and it's going to be because I already have everything that I have ever needed from the Lord. He has already answered all our prayers, now and in the future. He is such a merciful, forgiving, loving Lord and Savior and I want the rest of my life to be spent praising his name, through any circumstance. My son is praying with me for my future husband and he told me today that God would not give me a task that I couldn't complete. And he is only 7! I love that I am raising a Godly man that will be a strong leader for a Godly woman one day. That's the most important job I could ever have.
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    posted by Laura
    on Sunday, September 16, 2012 at 10:54 pm
  78. I was so looking for something that I was going to look for yesterday and I think because I was afraid to hear from God what I might to hear, I avoided it yesterday. I also didn't feel peaceful in my communication with someone I am extremely interested in either. Thank you for this article. I will seek first what God wants me to do/have. I will pray for the two men I am extremely interested in. I will pray for both of these men because they both deserve to have a wonderful woman by their side and I don't think that I am in the right spot just yet or ready for either of them. So I will also pray as I've heard said before "not my will but thy will be done" and turn over my huge desire to have a lasting fulfilling relationship here on earth and seek first the Kingdom of God. I'm so new at seeking God's help that this is going to be a challenge, but I have been challenged all my life and I have not given up yet. I will pray.
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    posted by Juanita G.
    on Thursday, September 20, 2012 at 9:20 am
  79. I am 30 and a widow and its been 2 years im starting to consider dating but I am trying to figure out if this is what God wants from me any insite?
    posted by tera
    on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 11:45 pm
  80. I lost my husband when I was 32 years old. I've been praying for 11 years and have not found a real boyfriend or husband yet. I prayed for a sign 10 years ago when I would meet the right man for me, that did happen but...
    We dated for awhile and I got pregnant, then he left. I was so hurt at the time but now we are sorta becoming friends again. We have an awesome son.

    I don't know what to think. I know I need to trust the Lord on this. Just frustrated and tired.
    posted by CJ
    on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 10:46 am
  81. Tera, if you are over the painful grief of losing your husband, then you are ready to start dating. Be careful and pray for a specific sign for the real man for you (only you will know this sign) and don't tell the man about it or whoever you are dating, that was my mistake and it scared him off.

    I've been in your shoes and I know how hard this is. Don't compare these dates to your husband, just some advice. Good luck!
    posted by CJ
    on Tuesday, September 25, 2012 at 11:06 am
  82. I read this amazing book called "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie O'Martian. Stormie was going through some marital problems, having alot of misunderstandings. Stormie used prayer to effect positive changes in her marriage, and to ask God for insight about her husband. This book is a result..it has topics such as finances, his past, priorities and his purpose.. Each chapter is a lesson strengthened by Bible verses & prayers. They are so powerful!

    This book is helping me heal from my past divorce, and clear myself. I use it now to pray for my future husband, to bless every aspect of his life. It also helps me understand what God's intentions for a marriage are.. I use it to test my own motivations for wanting a relationship, and praying God's will will prevail (because sometimes what I want is not the best for me!). I highly recommend this book
    posted by Hannah Lee
    on Saturday, September 29, 2012 at 1:19 am
  83. @tera...I'm sorry to hear of your loss. We appreciate your question. There is a spiritual principle that is well to follow in seeking God's direction with any decision. The verse in Colossians 3:15 says: "And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts..." The word "rule" in the original Greek means to "arbitrate, govern, umpire". So Paul is telling us to let the "peace of Christ" umpire our hearts, govern our hearts. That is what you look for--peace in your heart.

    So, I encourage you to go before the Lord and write out your questions before Him. List your feelings pro and con for beginning to date. Then, talk to Him over the next few days and/or weeks until He brings a peace to your heart either way--to date or not to date. He promises to do that, for in James 1:5 He says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him." You can trust Him to answer with His wisdom and a peace to rule in your heart. God bless you, tera.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, October 1, 2012 at 5:47 pm
  84. @CJ...Bless you dear one. I'm sorry for your loss...and your tiredness and frustration. I pray for you even now that the Lord will come in and fill the empty places of your heart as you trust Him and learn to cling to Him in these difficult days. Follow His ways and His Word as you seek to put life in order. "For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly." Psalm 84:11 I am praying for you today. May you know His grace and peace (2 Pet. 1:2)
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, October 1, 2012 at 5:54 pm
  85. I'm 25 years old. I got engaged last year and was in a fast paced relationship because we met at my cousin's wedding out of state...so we had a long distance relationship. We rushed things because we were so far apart and wanted to be together. So we quickly got engaged after only 5 months of dating. I wasnt going to move away with some sort of "leverage" or real commitment. I stayed at his parents house so it looked like we were keeping away from the appearance of evil. In all honesty we were anything but "pure" we compromised sexually in all the ways you can without calling it "real sex" but just because there was never vaginal to penial penetration....we pretty much lived in denial that is was as bad, kinda of like a Bill Clinton sort of attitude. We had everything for the wedding. a date, invitations, location, honeymoon booked, i had my dress...you name it, we had it all ready for the wedding. This relationship was never what God had for me, but because I felt like i was getting into my mid 20's and so many of my friends were already married...some on their 2nd child, I felt like i had to make this happen. I swept all the red flags under the carpet because i wanted my dream to come true. I broke it off with him when I realized the relatiohship wasn't from the Lord, regardless if he was a "christian". I wanted to be a wife. I somehow felt like I wasn't up to everyone else's level or that at a certain age, certain things are supposed to happen. My little sister got married at 21. I would be bitter and angry, wondering how it's fair when i'm older. Or upset when I'd see girls my age sleep around or have babies out of wedlock and then seem happily married shortly after. But, in everything the Lord is stretched me. He is giving me wisdom and discernment. I am starting to realize I wanted to marry that guy for all the wrong reasons and that The Lord wants me to be a set apart Proverbs 31 woman who is completely sold out to Jesus. I didnt have a clue how to be a godly wife. Not only can you serve Jesus in your singleness, but also your future husband. When you choose to wake up each day and seek the Lord and live a holy and pure life, that's also serving your spouse before you even know him! You can practice loving your husband right now, in singleness. I realized when I would pray about wanting a husband, God showed me that all the things I wanted and expect out of a husband...I need to work on myself. If I want a righteous man of God, I need to be a righteous woman of God. When we are single the Lord can use the pain we feel of being alone to brag our attention, so we run to Him learn that He is the only one who can meet all our needs. Your husband will never be able to meet all of your needs, and even after being married...you can still end up alone again. My mother was widowed after 26 years of marriage. It happens. But the Lord sustains her and she finds her completeness and security in Christ. I have days where i feel like the jealousy and bitterness of being single is going to kill me. But then i snap out of it and praise God that even in my suffering and pain...he is refining me. He is pruning me, molding me, and it makes me cling to Him more. I still restle with my doubts about if I will be blessed with an earthly husband...but I just pour our my feelings before the Lord. He is a good God and does not want to withhold anything good from us. That is a lie for Satan if you believe the Lord is keeping something from you that isnt "fair" or that you are entitled to. He has His reasons for everything. He has already given us more than we could ever imagine by giving us eternal life and a promise that we will spend eternity with Him as His bride. Anything else we get is just icing on the cake. Spend time building that foundation!
    posted by Jessica
    on Friday, October 5, 2012 at 3:57 pm
  86. thank you for this post. I am a Freshman in College at Lee University and I recently started praying for my future husband. I have a journal that I write all my prayers for him down in. someday i hope to be able to show him and then maybe show my daughter if God chooses to bless us with children i will encourage her to do the same. I am only 18 years old but i feel the desire to be married. God created us as social beings for a reason. I long to have a good family one day so I figured i should startpraying for them now
    Kaytie@abanteinternational.org
    posted by Kaytie
    on Monday, October 8, 2012 at 5:09 pm
  87. It is interesting to read all the posts here. I pray for guidance from the Holy Spirit to all the ladies seeking their better halves. I am unmarried myself, but believe God has used me for greater purposes inn this marital status. I Cor. 7:34 "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband."

    I witness the Gospel, and having no husband is in no way a hindrance to my calling. I am currently praying for breakdown of anti-marriage yoke, as I have reached a time in my life when I desire the company of a loving, godly husband. However, it is up to the will of God to grant my request. I believe He is answering my prayers, for about 5 months ago, I started communicating with an eligible Christian man that I like. We mainly focus on the Lord in our communication, and I believe spiritual maturity is key to any successful marriage. I hope next time I will be updating you on how the Lord fulfilled the desires of our hearts. Psalm 37:4

    While each woman here has unique circumstances, I will encourage you not to approach the marriage issue with bitterness or regret, citing how you have never been kissed, or how no man has ever approached you! Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and the rest shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33). Any negative attitude is definitely not of God; it is instigated by the flesh succumbing to the traps of the devil. And please ladies, stay away from premarital sex no matter your age or reasons for wanting to do it. It is a deadly sin that will join you to the devils of sexual/spiritual oppression. If you have already had sex while unmarried, confess that sin immediately and ask Jesus to cleanse you of this lust, then rededicate yourself to Him.

    1 Corinthians 6:19-20
    19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
    Reserve yourself for marriage. God wants us always to sow to the Spirit, and to leave all our cares into His hands. He doesn't want ultimatums from us. but dedicated prayer, faith and obedience. As to when He fulfills our prayer request for marriage is to up to Him and His riches in glory.

    Blessings.

    Evangelist Sister
    posted by Evangelist Sister
    on Sunday, October 28, 2012 at 4:50 pm
  88. My ex-husband left me and our three children eight years ago. I was in a relationship with a man who was a great friend. Due to circumstances, I did not have a lot of time to devote to the relationship. I always just assumed we would be together and the relationship would progress. Several friends have said they always thought we would end up married. Well, in the past few months he started dating someone who had time to devote to a relationship. And they are talking about marriage. We are still good friends, but this has totally blind-sided me.

    I have been praying about it. Maybe this relationship isn't God's will. I am having a hard time letting go and surrendering this to God. I know in my heart that if it is meant to be everything will work out and that my timing is not necessarily God's timing but it still hurts. I don't know if I should take a break from the friendship too until I get through all this.
    posted by Alex
    on Sunday, October 28, 2012 at 8:51 pm
  89. Wow!!! I can't believe that so many women have shared their stories here! May God bless all of you and I hope you find the happiness and peace you deserve!If you feel resentful and bitter about being single that is definitely the devil working hard to ruin your relationship with God! Don't give in! Please have faith and keep praying and let's share the good news as well if any of you meet Mr Right!!! Always keep focus and thankful for all the blessings God has given you when you feel down! Like good health, a job, savings, good friends, a roof over your head, food on the table there is so much to be thankful for in this world where there are some people who have very little! May God be with you always! K
    posted by kai
    on Sunday, November 25, 2012 at 8:11 pm
  90. Thank you for the encouragement and lessons you have taught us. I just recently broke up with my unbeliever boyfriend and now I am starting to pray earnestly to God for His will. Still I am in the process of moving on and forgetting all the pains in my heart.
    posted by Gel
    on Wednesday, December 12, 2012 at 2:47 am
  91. I need help ... Me and my fiancé are getting marry feb2 coming up... We don't have sexual relation since we want wait at the wedding .. We been true 3 months already .. One more to go ... But it's seen the past fiew day thing have change, I am scare is love would fade away since theirs is no warm feeling or relation sexual together ... I need people to pray for us like I been doing everyday ... Caroline and Luke from Edmonton Alberta ... Please god let us get true this last one months with remembering him why we felt in love on first place ... Thank
    posted by Caroline
    on Friday, December 28, 2012 at 8:45 pm
  92. @Caroline...I pray you will know the love of Christ between the two of you. Commit your relationship to God and spend time these next weeks seeking Him for His strength and help to stay pure these last days of your engagement. Ask God together for His blessing on your marriage and heart preparation for your future.

    "Heavenly Father, I pray for Caroline and Luke that You will give strength and wisdom for these days. Help them to know the deep, deep love of Christ that constrains them to follow His leading. Cement their hearts to each other in covenantal love and devotion. Bless their marriage. In Jesus' Name, Amen."
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, January 1, 2013 at 10:54 pm
  93. Amei o post! Obrigada por compartilhar tão sábias palavras! Que Deus abençõe sua vida, fazendo de você uma mulher cada dia mais virtuosa!
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    posted by Jessica
    on Tuesday, January 15, 2013 at 6:12 pm
  94. In two weeks I will be 20 years old.

    A few months ago, I believe that the Lord had told me who was my future husband. I was happy, but so much things been happening at the end of 2012 and begining of 2013. Right now I feel it was just my flesh desire that wanted him . I have not prayed about if this guy is really my husband. The guy is really good brother in christ. Yes I do have feelings for him. I am trying not to have feelings for me because I dont want to develop feelings for a guy who doesnt have feelings for me at all.

    ( Right I am asking and praying if this guy is my husband so much obstacles thats been going is makking me doubt if he is my husband or not)

    To me when we are together and talking about our life and God's will. Everything around us doesn't exist. He's different, but I found out time and time again he goes back to his ex. I see he is fulfilling his flesh desire.

    He probably isn't different. Two months ago I found out he had feelings for me. I thought this was it he could probably be my husband. Yet again I found out he spent a day with his Ex.

    Wow I'm such an idiot to think he would be with me. After finding out, I am DONE!!!!!!!! with him. I made a conclusion that he doesn't want to be with me at all.

    So whenever any thoughts or feelings tries to appear about him I rebuke it in the name of JESUS!!!!! The devil is a liar.

    So today when I came over to this site and read the comments . I felt bless. So many stories of struggles and encouragment. I made a choice not to worry so much about marriage
    ( I will still pray for my future husband) and focus on God's will, truly seek Him and ask my Daddy, who is Lord of Lords and king of kings wants me to do during my singleness. Until I get married. You might ask how do I know if God wants to be single the rest of my life? Well.....
    One day during an awesome praise and worship during service. The Lord told me a few things about me and marriage. I would love to share what He told me, but I want to keep it bewteen me and my Father.
    posted by Lin
    on Wednesday, January 30, 2013 at 3:50 pm
  95. @ anita .......Why use a magic spell caster? why just not pray and ask the Lord for help in your marriage?
    posted by Lin
    on Thursday, January 31, 2013 at 9:29 am
  96. Dear Lin,

    You are doing the right thing by focusing on your relationship with God and serving Him faithfully wherever He places you. Be patient, even though it is hard, to wait God’s timing for a husband. God loves you far more than any husband ever will. God is able to meet all your deepest needs. He is the lover of your soul. He can be trusted to bring the right man along to pursue you when God sees that it is time. I’m praying for you right now, Lin, and asking God to continue to give you the desire to surrender marriage and the patience to wait for God in this area of your life. Stay in the Word, my friend! It will keep you connected to the One who loves you so.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, January 31, 2013 at 2:16 pm
  97. @ Lorree Thanks Lorree for the prayer and encouragment. I receive it in Jesus name.
    posted by Lin
    on Monday, February 4, 2013 at 1:42 pm
  98. I have been up the last several nights just crying not knowing what to do or how to feel. I feel so lost & alone. I need your prayers. My fiance of 8 months (we have 5 kids between us) let me without saying a word. I came home & all his clothes & belongings were gone. We live in Texas & he is now in Florida. Up unto this point there was no warning signs. We were so happy. He would get up every day, make coffee and breakfast, we cuddled every night, loved each other so much, spent every moment together. All I ever felt from him was love & he was so sweet to me & the kids. So this is such a shock to me. He says its bc he got a job that pays really well. That he felt like such a failure, like a nobody at home bc he couldn't support his family or find a good job. But to just up and leave? My kids & I are completely devastated and in shock. This man is my baby, my life. The love I thought we had for each other was so strong. I just don't understand. Please pray for him, that he will have a change of heart, something in him that changes. Please pray for me and my children that we will have peace, understanding, something. I am so scared & so hurt. Why would someone do this to his family. I want to add that he was in Iraq for years...he has PTSD & still has flashbacks & gets emotional thinking about all of it. Please pray for all of us, Please
    posted by codie barlow
    on Sunday, February 17, 2013 at 2:45 am
  99. Codie Barlow,

    I’ve prayed for you, for your family and for your fiancé, Codie! I know this is a very, very difficult time. When God created man, at his very core, God planted the need to be the provider for the family. A man will do what it takes to do what God has called him to do. It may not make sense to us, but it is certainly an area that we can pray for our men about. Your fiancé may not have handled his decision in the best way, but if we give him the benefit of the doubt, could it be that he is trying to be the provider that God is calling him to be?

    I was wondering if your fiancé sought counsel/treatment for his PTSD? It could be that this is affecting the way he makes decisions. It might be good for you guys to have someone to help you through this challenging time. If you don’t know of anyone in your area, you can find someone at this website, www.nanc.org.

    Don’t give up hope, Codie! There is always hope when God is there. Nothing is impossible for God (Lk. 1:37; Jer. 32:17). I encourage you to not give up, but to pray for your man and entrust him into God’s hand and God’s leading. Stay in the Word, my friend! I’m praying.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, February 20, 2013 at 1:47 pm
  100. Hello,

    I am blessed to have come across this page, and have read all of the comments. The biggest thing I feel is relief in knowing that I am not the only one struggling with being single. I have taken to heart all of the scriptures once again, I have done this more than a few times before.

    My request is that you pray for God to bring me a husband, and in the meantime that I would be content and rely upon Him. I also need prayer that he will guide me to the areas where he want for me to serve. I live in Los Angeles, where there seem to be no Godly men, and because I am single in a Godless city, I tend to be overly cautious because my family isn't near. It is also difficult to develop long term relationships with mature Christian women, because the city is very transient and people just don't have time for others. This is true even at my church.

    Thank you, Sherri
    posted by Sherri Murray
    on Sunday, February 24, 2013 at 8:31 pm
  101. @Sherri...We are blessed to hear the Lord has used this page as an encouragement in your life. Thank You, Lord!

    Be assured of our prayers for you for the very things you asked. Our Prayer Team prays individually and specifically for each request we receive. We count it a great privilege to seek the Lord on you behalf--asking that He might fulfill the desires of your heart and that He would lead you with clear direction to where you should live and work and worship. You can be sure the Most High God sees every detail of your life and loves you -- keeping His eyes on you and promising to lead you in the way you should go (Ps. 139:1-4; Prov. 3:5-6) Blessings to you, dear Sherri.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, February 25, 2013 at 5:24 pm
  102. Thank you so much for writing this article. God has laid on my heart to start praying for my future husband. Up to this point I never really thought about it seriously. It has been a long journey for me to get to the point that I am at now, letting go and letting God plan my future. I have been so concerned over the past few years that I was not going to be successful or that I was not going to make enough money to support my family, or that I was not going to meet a husband, the list goes on. This past weekend I attended a conference that opened my eyes to the act that I was trying to control my future and not really stopping to consider what God wants for me. Then I listened to Paul Washer's sermon on Biblical marriage, dating, and courtship which really opened my heart to a need to start praying for my future husband. I am only 19 and have a long way to go in my spiritual maturity and growth, I will spend my whole life do that, I am doing things differently now. I need to stop being Martha and start be a Mary. I am so thankful God allowed me to realize this in my life.
    www.stitchedbyhim.blogspot.com
    posted by Brittany Smith
    on Wednesday, February 27, 2013 at 12:15 pm
  103. Hey there,
    Thank you so much for this article. My colleague and i decided a few days ago to pray for our future husbands, we actually had a guide but i decided to search the web for more and i stumbled on this blog and i'm sure it's the Lord's doing. I am especially touched by what you said about praying for this generation of men to be transformed by God's power to rise up as men capable of commitments of marriage, because to be honest many men are not ready to commit especially where i come from. Thank you so much and please pray for husbands for my 2 sisters who are in their 30's,my colleague and i.God is really faithful,Praise His Holy Name. Amen
    Thank you, Elizabeth
    posted by Elizabeth
    on Saturday, March 16, 2013 at 12:11 pm
  104. hie i am a lady of 32 year i dont hve kids, but im hve a boyfriend with 3 kids from different mothers is good for a chritian to be be maried by this man. cause now he is supporting this kids every month with finance. is he the right men for me he says he want mary nex year.
    posted by kagiso seoganeleng
    on Tuesday, April 9, 2013 at 6:39 am
  105. @kagiso...I encourage you to use great caution in dating this man. If he has had children by three women, he has obviously had difficulty in relationships. You will want to ask these questions:

    Has he been married to three different women? If so, what does the Bible say about his divorce from these women?

    If he has not been married, then he has not regarded God's laws for moral purity. Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who disregards the biblical commands for sexual purity?

    Would it be difficult for you to love a man with a whole heart who had many partners before you? He would bring much sexual baggage into a marriage.

    Why has he not stayed in one relationship? Is he hard to get along with? Does he treat women harshly? Does he lack the ability to have a commitment to one person? Is he looking for other things in a relationship than you are?

    His history brings many questions. If you don't get a green light from your pastor (and it is not likely you will), I encourage you to wait for God's best for you. Do not spend your life in an unequally yoked marriage--God calls you to live with someone in the "light" as you are in the "light" because you are a Christian.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Saturday, April 13, 2013 at 10:12 pm
  106. Wow; this is mind blowing and God is so loving at directing me to this page. I am 28 years old, an african leaving in Finland, my late husband died 5 years old which was 2 months before i had our baby and its being hard, by the grace of God, i gave my life to Jesus 2 years ago and have been praying fervently for a new beginning (spouse), at some point i have even stopped praying and at this moment im on the verge of just totally giving up, but Daddy God keep saying to me that , "He is my hope". Your site give hope and maybe ive been praying the wrong prayers.. now i have new perspectives to pray again...Thank you
    posted by felicia
    on Wednesday, April 24, 2013 at 5:15 am
  107. Thank you for this site. I have been on my own now with 2 children for the past 13 years, after I left my husband. I have been a Christian all my life (43 years), but have only very recently truly begun developing a close relationship with God. Over the past 13 years I have looked for men to fill my emptiness, desperation and loneliness. Each time I got hurt, disappointed, and more and more bitter and despondent about men. After the latest rejection from a man - who I absolutely knew without a doubt that he was not the man for me (also God quietly tapping on my heart telling me so) - I hit rock bottom and finally knew that I had to make changes. That meant turning to God and giving it all to Him, and begin my life's journey with Him as the leader. Already I feel my heart is changing. While I started out praying earnestly for Him to lead me to my husband, I have discovered that I am enjoying the relationship I am having with God that is growing deeper and deeper by the day. God is changing me to be the best I can be to fulfil His purposes. I always knew that every man I would settle for was not who God had in mind for me, but I would fight with Him and turn away from Him because I didn't want to surrender to God and His Will. I felt it was to big a sacrifice to do God's will. I was selfish and too independent. I know God is working on my character and I thank Him for the difficulties and struggles I have gone through. God is Awesome. God is Good.
    posted by Elle
    on Sunday, April 28, 2013 at 10:44 pm
  108. I am so, so confused... I've been trying to bring myself closer to God, and I've been led to some pretty unconventional things! I thought I wanted to be an art major, but now I see that I'm being called into health professions (pharmacy just feels right!). I thought that I wanted to move out as soon as I was old enough, but now I see that I want to help care for my ill father. I even got led to an online Bible study group.

    I thought, surely, the one thing about me that would never change was my choice to stay single and seek God on my own! Now I find myself praying "Lord, if I am supposed to marry, please take care of him and send him to me when we're ready" - Wait, what? I'm not the type to marry!... or so I thought. I am almost 21, you would figure that I would have had an interest in men before now, but I never really cared. I honestly have never given romantic love or the thought of marriage much thought. Now I'm- I don't know.

    Is this yet another of my ideas that is being replaced with God's (if so, let it come!) or am I going crazy? I also hadn't noticed just how much God has changed me in the past few months... He really has made me new. Not in ways that I would have expected, or even wanted. Now I'm okay with it. I guess if I am meant to get married, I had better start praying for his guidance as well. May all you single ladies AND gentlemen find what you're seeking- Love. If God intends to keep you for himself, I hope you find peace in that.

    The only prayer request I can think of for myself is this: If I really am to consider dating, I have heard plenty of horror stories about unprepared young women getting too carried away and engaging in premarital sex. Sex before marriage is something I am against for more reasons than the commandment, so please pray that all of us who have intent to stay pure are never led astray. Even if we don't get married and don't have a mate to disappoint, God commands us to remain pure, and I intend to. My family talks about sex as a "WHEN you mess up" not an "if". I suppose my fear of that is why I am so put off by the thought of dating?

    I'm sorry this is so long, I just kind of had a lightbulb moment and needed to get it all out. In the words of Tiny Tim: God bless us, every one.
    posted by Darlene
    on Saturday, June 15, 2013 at 5:03 am
  109. @Darlene...May God lead you and guide you as you look to Him. “And your ears will hear a word behind you, ‘This is the way, walk in it,’ whenever you turn to the right or to the left.” (Isa. 30:21)

    You are wise to open your heart in surrender to His will and ways, Darlene. You can trust Him; you can trust His leadership in your life as you fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Heb. 12:2). He will enable you to stand firm and live pure before Him. How can you do that? Read His Word, Darlene; let your mind be directed by the truth of His Word day by day by day. “How can a young [woman] keep [her] way pure? By living according to Your word.” (Psalm 119:9)

    I consider it a privilege to pray for you this day. Blessings.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Saturday, June 15, 2013 at 7:41 pm
  110. I am a straight man, and like so many other women out there i am also having a very hard time meeting a good woman to share my life with, and i feel very sorry that many of you can't meet a good man. i hate being alone all the time, and it really is no fun at all. it is much worse when all your friends are very fortunate to be settled down, and we are still looking for that special person to connect with. i feel like God really forgot about us, and i just don't know why. i was married at one time myself before my wife of 15 years cheated on me, and i was a very caring and loving husband that was very much committed to her as well. i even thought that i had finally met the love of my life, and i really thought that i was going to finally have a family too. now going out for me is the very hard part since i hate going out all the time, and i am certainly hoping that i will be at the right place at the right time to meet a good woman for me this time around. my aunt and uncle were Very Fortunate to have met one another years ago when they went to school, and they just celebrated their 65th year together. i was very happy to be there, and it was really meant to be for them. the times back then were certainly different than today, and even for me it was much easier dating different women before i met my wife. now that i am in my late fifties, it is much harder meeting a good woman again since my age is against me now, but i will never give up. Good Luck to many of you too, and never give up. Peace.
    posted by Paul
    on Monday, July 1, 2013 at 8:31 pm
  111. I'm so glad I found this website and this article. Candice, you've blessed me so much with your inspired-by-God words.

    Today was a very hard day for me, it's been a month since I broke up a relationship, and it's been painful especially after so many bad experiences in this area. I met God when I was 13 years old. I started going to church, although my parents and family didn't, and soon I started having a close relationship with Him and then got baptized.

    I got married at the age of 19, it was very early, I know, but everything seemed right to me, to my family, and to my pastors, since everything was done according to God's teachings. Unfortunately, things didn't work out the way I had expected, since I found out that my husband was seeing another woman. It was a very frustrating experience to me, but I never gave up on God and His will for me.

    After being divorced, I had two other relationships, and even though these past relationships were based on prayer and the Word of God, they didn't work out either. The last one was broken one month ago, as I mentioned above. I'm now 26 years old, and I have to confess that sometimes I get really worried about this area of my life. I've been feeling lost and hopeless. But today, as I read this article - through tears - I realized that things don't have to be so difficult, all I have to do is continue serving God and rejoicing in His presence, for the best is yet to come. I've decided from now on to really hold on to His promises and to what He says on Matt. 6:33. I'd like to ask for prayers so at the right time God will put someone special in my life, not for only a season, but for a lifetime.

    I read many of the comments above as well, and they have also encouraged me. I pray that God may bless you all! I may not be living what I had expected for this time of my life, but I know that everything happens for a purpose and God is interested in this very particular area of our lives, for family is an institution created by Him.
    God bless us!
    posted by Flavia
    on Monday, July 1, 2013 at 8:31 pm
  112. I want to add to this post:
    posted by kagiso seoganeleng
    on Tuesday, April 9, 2013 at 6:39 am

    How to Pray for a Future Husband

    The first thing you should do is always pray to Jesus Christ first and foremost. Ask God for what you need and have an active listening ear to the message he has for you. And next you can seek a pastor's advice, Although all pastors are not called by God to preach his word. We the people that say out of our mouths that we are "Christians" sometimes forget that we sin. We sometimes forget that we fail miserably at keeping God's laws. kagiso seoganeleng this man that you speak of may have a past that doesn't line up with God's laws, but neither does mine or anyone else that has not sinned or can "pick up a stone" Sometimes as Christians we look at the sin other people commit as "worse' than our own. We Christians can be a hypocritical, ruthless, judgmental bunch of people. This man you are speaking of may have truly changed his life and is now living for God. That is what you need to see. But please don't marry someone that is unequally yoked to you. Go And Be Blessed
    True Woman
    posted by Mischelle
    on Thursday, July 4, 2013 at 1:21 pm
  113. Hallo fellow ladies, am Oridah 24 now single yet a mom of 1 daughter. mine is to appreciate all the touching and encouraging comments i have read. today was my first day to go through these web posts and i must admit that i am truly touched. you have changed me and my entire life. the verses have drawn me much nearer to God; i was not complete i must say. thankyou.
    posted by Oridah
    on Friday, July 5, 2013 at 6:50 am
  114. Hi I found this page by accident and was surprised to find so many women like myself. I am 48 and too thought I would be married with children. I was engaged when I was 25 but he was not right for me so I ended that relationship.I have had a few boyfriends but not many. I too have been praying for a husband for 20yrs now and still no one. I recently changed my job and have the job I prayed for . I am now looking to share this happiness with.I thank God every day for finding this job but when I go home at night it's really lonely. All my friends have partners which makes it even harder for me.I am on holiday and yet again am by myself. I have not been on a date in years.

    like some of the women who have responded I feel as though the Lord has blocked my every move. I even tried to adopt and has no reply to an email enquiry. The desire is so great that I glow when I see other children.The thought of never having my own is not something I have accepted.

    As for my husband I do believe God has a plan for me because when I get upset about this and I talk to him then a sense of calm comes over me.

    I will be praying again for a life partner and hope that God brings him to me soon.
    posted by sylvia
    on Sunday, July 7, 2013 at 6:21 pm
  115. I pretty much came here cause of boredom and Googling praying f a boyfriend. Even though i want Husband but im only 19 years old. Pretty muc i needed something to keep my mind focus from this guy i like that i keep trying to not flirt with but i still end up doing. To be honest my friend liked him first and i was happy for her but then he was in one of my classes and we started hanging out as friends but slowly my feelings started growing for him and i told my friend that i may like the guy she likes. She was confused but not mad. *Thank God* But he's like still a Virgin and a believer and goes to church sometime i think. And I also have a question is it a sin to think about kissing someone??? like he's single so he's not taking and im thinking about having sex with him but just kissing him. Is that a sin
    posted by Fisherwomen1515
    on Thursday, July 11, 2013 at 2:51 am
  116. Fisherwomen1515,

    I’m thankful the Lord’s brought you to this Blog. You’re asking great questions. Praying for a godly husband is a wonderful way to fill your time. No one is more concerned about your future spouse than our great God. He wants you to know His plan and purposes for your life, friend.

    Learning to focus your mind on the things of God will help you not obsess mentally on a guy. Philippians 4:8 tell us to think on things that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, of good repute, excellent and worthy of praise. Dwelling on a fantasy of any kind with a man who is not your husband feeds the longings and desires that can only be properly fulfilled in marriage. Lustful thoughts aren’t honorable and pure. You want to honor the man who will one day be your husband by remaining pure even in your thoughts today.

    Our Lies Young Women Believe Blog will help you think through some of your specific questions. Here are a few posts to get you started:


    • What Kind of Guy Should You Date? http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=1848
    • The Words of a Groom on His Wedding Day http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=1994&jv00099b8d=1
    • How far is too far: http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=684
    • The Power of a Kiss: http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=744
    • Is He the One? http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=562
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Thursday, July 11, 2013 at 12:19 pm
  117. Pray for me a right person to get marry .
    posted by Narinder
    on Tuesday, July 16, 2013 at 12:44 am
  118. I read jeannie's testimonial.I really loved it.I am motivated after reading that.I was confused what to pray aboutmy future spouse, after reading her testimony, I got some clear idea .
    posted by Tabitha
    on Saturday, July 20, 2013 at 1:41 pm
  119. I came across this article by mistake and decided to read through I have seen some encouraging words but I can't help but still feel a bit discouraged cos everyone around me is married, am the first in my family and my younger ones are married I can't help but feel that God has blocked his ears to my request for a my husband. What bothers me so much is that he answers all other prayer requests but this particular one and I wonder if I am praying wrongfully. I also used to still pray for my husband, am 32 and I am still waiting. Is there a special way I need to pray for God to answer this request of mine am presntly undergoing a 21 day fasting and prayer but sometimes I feel so weak to even get up in the nyt to pray. What do you all advice.
    posted by Nita
    on Sunday, July 21, 2013 at 5:24 pm
  120. Dear Nita,

    I can sense how your heart yearns for a husband! It is the cry of your heart right now. When we pray, we must remember that there isn’t a right or wrong way to pray. God hears all our prayers and answers all our prayers. His answer may not be what we want, but if He chooses to say “no” or “wait”, we must choose to trust His heart and His wisdom about our request. During your time of fasting and prayer, I encourage you to ask God to reveal your deep heart needs and to help you recognize that they will only be met in a deep personal relationship with the Lord. I encourage you to surrender your hopes and dreams to the Lord realizing that He has your best interest at the center of His will for your life.

    Living with unfulfilled longings can be challenging. Nancy Leigh DeMoss did an interview with Amy Baker on this topic. I hope you take the time to listen to this: http://www.reviveourhearts.com/radio/revive-our-hearts/surrendering-unfulfilled-longings/

    I’ve been praying for you this morning and asking God to comfort your heart and give you His peace.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, July 23, 2013 at 3:38 pm
  121. Hello, Candace :)

    Thank you so much for sharing this! God really encouraged me through your writings. I do really desire to get married and sometimes the waiting can be so hard / painful, but I know that God can fulfill me in every season of my life whether single or married. Though I do not know for sure what God has in store, I need to cling to hope that like Joyce Meyer says "something good is going to happen" because God is good and faithful and delights to romance our hearts in so many ways daily. I know that the best thing I can do is to keep pouring out my whole heart to God in all areas of life and to depend on Him and trust in Him. Your words really meant a lot to me in this moment of my life, so thanks for letting God speak through you! :) I pray that God would draw you closer to Him daily, and I thank Him for your life :)

    -Katie

    Kathryn A. Wandell

    "Three things will last forever - faith, hope, and love - and the greatest of these is love." -1 Corinthians 13:13
    http://lovespeaksthrough.blogspot.com/
    posted by Katie
    on Sunday, July 28, 2013 at 3:42 pm
  122. whoops, I realized just after I posted that I spelled Candice's name wrong :/ Sorry about that! One of those moments where I wish there was an edit / undo button. lol. :)
    http://lovespeaksthrough.blogspot.com/
    posted by Katie
    on Sunday, July 28, 2013 at 3:45 pm
  123. Hi, i'm trying to find God and it's been very difficult for me. I'm finding it hard to be happy. I feel a weight on my soul every day and it hurts so much at times that it's hard to breathe (it is an emotional pain that causes physical pain). I'm not very social and my happiness caused by God's love doesn't last very long becaus emy heart longs for something, i'm not sure what. The idea of not knowing many people is not daunting but a part of me is scared.
    I'm comforted when i think that one day i'll be happy with God alone and THEN God will reveal the who i am to marry when i'm content with Him, but you said some women might not marry ever and i feel that pain again. I'm 17 and i would like you to pray that Jesus changes my life so that huband or not one day i will be happy because of Him. Please ask that He changes me soon, the pain is unbearable. God bless:)
    posted by Tads
    on Tuesday, August 6, 2013 at 9:21 am
  124. Am encouraged by those yearning to get married but they still have their hearts waiting on the lord.am 28 and i know the pain of being single,sometimes i cry in my bed and wake up with swollen eyes,the thought of why there is no man who is willing to marry me hurts me and leaves me confused,i long to be loved and i crave to hold my own baby on my lap.i always wait for a new morning but it doesnt seem to come,the years seem to move faster than i can comprehend but i have purposed to wait upon the lord and that my sexual innocence is the speacil gift i will give to my husband.pray for me that i will have peace in my heart and not to be bitter in my heart and that God will remember me one day.what a happy day it will be!
    posted by Faith mwaniki
    on Wednesday, August 7, 2013 at 4:36 pm
  125. @Tads...We are sorry to hear you find yourself in such a difficult place to find happiness. I pray you will seek God and and know His peace. Tads, the way to find God is through His Word and talking with Him through prayer. We encourage you to start a journey of getting to know God through regular Bible reading, the study of the Scriptures, and opening your heart to God's leadership and a sweet relationship through prayer.

    Make a plan to read two or three verses of Scripture every morning as you get up. Pray before you get out of bed, giving the day to the Lord and talking with Him about everything you have on your mind. Ask Him to help you know Him more fully and ask for His help in getting to know others. Then close out each day the same way. Read the Bible and talk to Him as you lay your head down to sleep.

    Make sure you are attending a strong, evangelical church where you can find regular instruction in God's Word, have fellowship with other Christians, and know the joy of worshipping God. I am praying for you this night, Tads. God bless
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Sunday, August 11, 2013 at 11:16 pm
  126. =)Thank you so much and may God bless You. I feel better just having read that and your prayer must've worked; I'm finding His joy, having a better relationship with Him and loving every minute of it =). Thank you so much again and have a great day=)
    posted by Tads
    on Tuesday, August 13, 2013 at 8:01 am
  127. Thanks so much for this article, I stared praying for my future husband at age 14 am 28yrs and still a virgin and still praying to meet him,because I know he has some1 special for me, singleness is not a disease but it part of God's will for us not to be alone and I pray that his will,will be perfected in our lifes In Jesus Name! Amen
    google
    posted by shirley
    on Tuesday, August 13, 2013 at 10:27 am
  128. Wow! I'm loving this site! I just turned 34 and I'm a single mother. I've been praying for a husband for a long time and when I turned 29 I got desperate and tried to speed things up by finding a potential husband since it seemed like God was taking too long. Big mistake cos I ended up with a nonChristian guy and I compromised my values. Even then I was hoping God could change him and we could get married! It's been a frustrating journey as I'm now a single parent and I'm still praying for a husband and someone who will love my son. I know God is going to bless me because He's a faithful God. For the 1st time in years I'm praying not in fear or desperation, I'm finally enjoying the season I'm in. Ladies let us not be discouraged God is able.
    posted by nandi
    on Thursday, August 15, 2013 at 3:49 am
  129. Wow I'm grateful to have seen this page and read the experience other woman have.
    I'm a woman of 26 year old.a born again christian I believe in God with all my heart.in 2010 I met this guy through Facebook he was a friend of my cuzn on Facebook ,so he will notice my comments cause I will always comment about God and most of my status were about God so he invited me and I accepted his request as I saw on his wall that he also talk about God,so we become friends with this guy and also praying partners we started dating and the guy came over to my province to meet me cause we were staying in different provinces everything seems well end of 2011 he introduced me to his family and and he wanted to marry me,in Jan 2012 we meet with my Pastor and he told him his intantion about me,so now the only problem was distance so because I loved the guy I started praying to god to find a Job in his province,we pryed together n fasted in november last year god answered my prayers and didn't only give me a job but he gave me a job that I stadied for. So this year when I was at his province I didn't want to stay with him I found my own accommodation,the guy started complaining about my skin and hairstyle and he told me he is no more attracted to me and he find it hard to carry on with the relationship,I was confuse because I loved the guy so much and I respected him.the relationship official ended on the 10 of july and I'm still battling to let it go in march I wrote a pray on my diary that gods will not my will must be done on this relationship I'm so hurt because I left my province just to be close to him and all he does is to leave me like this in his province,all alone. But in all this if it gods will it okay.I still trust in him and believe in him for he says he will never live me nor forsake me.please pray with me for this whole situation to pass.
    posted by hurt and confused
    on Saturday, August 17, 2013 at 7:24 pm
  130. These posts and stories are all very sad yet comforting. I'm 41, never married, and barely any real relationships to speak of despite having had a few good men love me. Lately my 'singleness' and lonliness have been all I can think about. I'm educated with a career so its not that I am just sitting around waiting on a spouse. But after a very unhappy childhood and an adulthood of trying to overcome it, I feel I am ready for love in my life. I want to both give and receive love. It's very hard to not feel that God has forsaken me though I do try to give gratitude for the blessings in my life. But with love being the core of all our beings, it makes me question God as to why I was put on this earth. Why put me here if I can't experience this very significant part of life?
    posted by CLH
    on Wednesday, August 21, 2013 at 2:40 am
  131. CLH,

    I’m sorry you are struggling so, CLH. It is critical that we take our feelings back to God’s Word and live in light of the Truth found there rather than living according to our emotions. In Scripture, God tells us that He will never leave us or forsake us (Heb. 13:5). Our ultimate purpose here on earth is to love God and enjoy Him (Ps. 16:11; 1 Cor. 10:31; Ps. 73:25-26; Is. 43:7) and even with an earthly love, it is only through our relationship with the Lord that we will experience fully what love really is.

    I’d like to recommend that you listen to the series on Revive Our Hearts on How to Fall and Stay in Love with Jesus. You can find the first broadcast of the series here: http://tinyurl.com/kgu7zgt I pray it will be a balm to your soul. I also recommend this article on living with unfulfilled longings: http://tinyurl.com/mqsv9df.

    I’ve paused and prayed for you and asked God to draw you to Himself so that you can experience the true love that can only be found in Him. May the God of all hope fill you with all you and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope (Rom. 15:13).

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Saturday, August 24, 2013 at 10:52 am
  132. Well as for me, i have been in two no so good marriages. And have been divorce for about 11 yrs. Have lived a very lonley childhood. With alot of pain and suffering. Was raised by my granmother who did not know how to read or write. Every male that came to visit her(because she was always sick) would hurt me in more ways that you can think of. Still tried to make my marriges to work. But they were not the men for me. I have three children which i love with my life. Thank you for the word that so much need.
    posted by Janie
    on Friday, September 6, 2013 at 11:31 am
  133. I was happy to see that i'm not the only one who is lonely. I'm 29 & turning 30 in a month. I'm in the middle of breaking up with my boyfriend. I'm scared of beeing single that its now even affecting my prayer life. I love this guy but for unknown reasob he asked for a break. I feel i'm ready to be a wife and a mother. I feel so alone and i'm hurting so much. I sometimes feel God is not near or doesn't answer my prayers. I need a husband. I'm tired of beeing alone.
    posted by Blessing
    on Wednesday, September 18, 2013 at 10:13 am
  134. Hi everyone I really liked this post it moved me a bit and right now I feel like sharing my story, like most of you lady, I feel scared to be single or die single, my life changed a lot for the past few month somehow I feel like there is a lot of confusion in it than before. They broke into my apartment 2 months back and that day was my day off but I decided to go to work I haven’t been praying much before all this happened and after the incident happened my sister told me that sometimes bad things that happen in our life they happen because God seek our attention and he protected me not to be home that day because only God knows what those intruders could have done to me even though they stole some of my stuff.
    I still thank God for that day because he brought me closer to his presence till this very moment. My point to this is that before all of this happened I was in a relationship with a Hindu guy who was loving and had a big caring heart for everyone I didn’t read my bible than but I used to go to church not every Sunday but after months and since I started reading my bible I fear to be in that relationship because he is not Christian (Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? ) 2 Corinthian 6:14 and before I meet this guy I used to pray to God to give me a man that will love me more than I love him as I came out of a disappointing relationship at that time.
    So now my issue is hurting this guy that is so deeply in love with and still fear to do wrong in God ‘eyes. Then again I read this scripture To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace(1 Corinthian 7: 12-15) but what is a bit confusing for me is that the unbeliever is it someone that does not believe in Jesus the son of God or someone with a different religion or are this the same things applying to unbelievers.
    I have tried to breakup with this guy but he said to me we must pray about to it so that everything comes right for us he prays to his Gods of which we are forbidden to pray many Gods. Sorry to bring my story to this but I just need some light as I have noticed most of you ladies are good with the bible and I believe there is somehow an answer to this confusing state that am in. I am a 25 yr lady will be very grateful for your input and advises. Thank you God bless
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    posted by Dinny
    on Thursday, September 19, 2013 at 7:46 am
  135. Dear Blessing,

    I’m so sorry for the pain you are experiencing right now, my friend! Please be assured that God does hear your prayers. He knows what is going on in your life. He sees the tears you weep and even catches them in his bottle (Ps. 56:8). Please continue to call out to Him and pour out your heart even though you may not feel like His presence. You are grieving this loss and He longs to comfort you (2 Cor. 1:3-4). I encourage you to find an older woman that you trust and share your heart and pain with her. She can encourage you, pray for you and keep you pointed towards Christ as you journey through this. If you don’t know of anyone, ask your pastor if he would recommend someone that can meet with you. I want you to know that I’ve carried you to the throne of grace today and asked Him to draw near to you, let you know that He is there and that all your needs will be met in Him and I’ve asked Him to pour out His grace on your life as He begins healing your heart.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Friday, September 20, 2013 at 11:01 am
  136. Dear Dinny,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’m sorry you’ve experienced the invasion of your home and all the feelings and emotions that must accompany that break-in. But I am rejoicing with you greatly, my friend, at the grace and mercy of our God who protected you by prompting you to work that day.

    Oh, how our Great God loves you, Dinny. His love for you is lavish, extravagant and relentless. He is, even today, drawing you into a personal relationship with Him through His Son, Jesus. Through Jesus life, death and resurrection we who are wretched sinners can know intimacy with God. We can repent ( turn away) from placing our faith and hope in our own works; our own righteousness and place our faith and hope in Jesus works. When we do that – acknowledging our desperate need for a Savior, Jesus gives us His perfect righteousness. He adopts us into His family. He moves us from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of Light – the Kingdom of Jesus ( Colossians 1:13-14). When you get a chance, Dinny, consider the questions shared in this short clip (https://www.reviveourhearts.com/gospel-story/)

    God wants what is best for those who belong to Him, Dinny. He loves us, dearly. He proved that by sending His Son to die for us. That’s why He has taught us that we are not to be unequally yoked with those who have not acknowledged Jesus as Lord and Savior of their lives. We cannot have the joy of unity in Christ that God designed for marriage if we unite ourselves with those who are yet in the kingdom of darkness.

    God desires that all would come to know Him as Lord and Savior, Dinny. That includes the Hindu man you have been dating. “He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance ( 2 Peter 3:9).” But “ evangliestic dating” is not what God desires. Check out this post on Lies Young Women Believe: (http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=1848 ).

    The passage you mentioned in 1 Corinthians 7 addresses those who are in a marriage covenant; you are not married to this man, Dinny. You do not want the heartache and suffering that will inevitably result from being married to a man who does not accept Jesus as His Lord and Savior, but rather worships, prays to and relies upon “false gods” who belong to the kingdom of darkness – the kingdom of Satan and his demons. “Jesus said to them, "If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and now am here. I have not come on my own; but he sent me. Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say. You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies ( John 8:42-44).”

    Your boyfriend will be hurt by your decision to break-up, Dinny; but in reality the hurt comes from your decision to enter into a relationship with a man who does not know Jesus. Acknowledge that as sin, my friend. Receive the fullness of God’s forgiveness and refuse to wallow in shame, guilt and condemnation.

    Then choose to honor God and His ways. Do what is right, even though it is hard. Ask God to use even your faithfulness to His ways as a witness of Jesus and His power to this Hindu man. Believe that God is able to take even the temporary heartache of a broken relationship – which is miniscule compared to the eternal suffering of being separated from Christ – and use it for His purposes in this man’s life.

    Praying for you today, Dinny.
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 at 12:18 pm
  137. well what about us very good men out there that would know very much how to treat a woman very well?, but are having a very difficult time meeting a good woman to want to share our life with. we hate so much being alone, and i certainly speak for many of us out there that are very serious looking to find love. unlike years ago which certainly was much easier meeting the right person back then, and many women accepted their men for who they were which they didn't have to be rich to be loved either. most women nowadays are certainly very rude, and are not like the Real Good Ladies that many of them were back then. today there are much more Very High Maintenance Women out there than ever before, and many of them do think they are God's gift to men. well with the Very Bad Attitude that many women do have these days, that will make it very difficult for many of us men that are looking. it is very hard for many of us to find a future wife since many women are very picky today, which it is very sad. just remember, there are many of us very serious men out there looking for love. and there are many of us that would make a very good husband too.
    posted by Very Seriously Speaking
    on Sunday, October 6, 2013 at 2:27 pm
  138. I know that through Christ nothing is impossible. I will wait in God and I know that he will fulfil my all heart desires. I was raised by my single grandmother, my mother and two aunts were also unfortunate and didn't get married. It seems like history keeps on repeating itself, I'm 24 years old and still have not met the man of my dreams. I have a son from my previous relationship which ended rather bitter. I am an amazing woman, worth of receiving and giving love. One thing I have realised though is that I need to find myself in Christ. I need to be dependant on him at all times because if I get married now with all the baggage, hurt and uncertainty in my heart I will only be setting myself up for disaster. My advice to all single ladies is that you should put God first, for he is an unchanging God, ever faithful in his word.
    posted by Sne
    on Monday, October 14, 2013 at 9:09 am
  139. I found this page today and I just want to say that I no longer feel alone. I've been feeling like I'm the only women in the world who has no one. This is such an awful feeling to have. The lady EM and the other lady who is in her 50's really touched me. I pray that both of you find true love and that God brings the man of his choosing to you. I am a single mother in my late 20's. It seems like everyone around me is married and happy. I have come to realize that I should not focus on what others have. I know that God has great plans for me but I need to be patient and wait on him. Lately I have started going back to church and praying for me, my family and my future husband. In just this short period of time ( 1 1/2 months) The lord has restored and turned around things in my life. I had a broken heart from people in my past, I was holding on to grudges and some other stuff. God is changing things around for me and if he did this for me, he can do it for you. I encourage all of you reading this to just believe in him and continue to pray. He will answer your prayers, it may not be when you want it to be, but he will answer in his time. At church we always say " he is never late, but always on time". I still have not met my husband but I know he will be here soon. While I wait for him I will continue to pray for him and continue to better myself for me and my baby. God bless all of you!
    posted by Amanda
    on Monday, October 14, 2013 at 10:19 pm
  140. This is a very Encouragin blog to we singles, i found it so wonderful as i was surfing the internet on how to find a husband, it is so interesting nd i believe God for his miracles, am 30, yet no husband, i has been in series of relationship for the past two years, bt none work out for me, the annoying part of it, is that upon how well i may dressed up, no responsible man will eva looked up to me, i cried all day for my own husband, but in all thing í knöw thät Göd wíl r€m€mb€r m€.
    posted by Mercy
    on Wednesday, October 16, 2013 at 11:28 am
  141. WOW!! This was right on time! Thank you so much and I WILL continue to trust Him! :)
    posted by Taryn Wells
    on Sunday, October 20, 2013 at 11:04 pm
  142. I used to pray FOR my future Husband, rather than for A future Husband. I found this gave me a greater sense of peace and took the focus off what I wanted and desired and put it on another person.
    I would pray that if it were the Lord's will that I have a husband someday, may He be working in this man's heart, making him more Christlike, give him strength to get through his troubles, understand the scriptures etc.
    It also really helped to pray for any crushes that I had in this way. It took the focus off me and what I wanted. Instead of being a target for my affections, they would become a brother in Christ and I would be praying for their growth in godliness, regardless of any affection they may or may not have for me.
    I have a husband now, and I don't have any miraculous stories of my prayers working, but it was lovely to transition from praying for someone you don't know to praying for him twice! (as the unknown husband and as the suitor) to praying for him, knowing who he was.
    posted by Ruth
    on Wednesday, November 6, 2013 at 9:26 pm
  143. I also found this page today after a friend recommended this site. It has been really encouraging to read these posts and I'm praying for the women (and men) posting on here.

    I too am single and nearly 30 years old. I struggle with the fact that most of my friends are married and have children, or are trying for children. It becomes hard when people in church try to say things to be helpful but just make things worse. It's also hard when I'm in a group, even if they're my friends, as I feel as though I'm not 'complete' in some way. My self-esteem is very low which I know is silly as I'm a child of God and therefore a child of the King.

    There was one point recently where my doubts were overwhelming and I wanted to give the Christian life up as I thought the world's view was better, but then I read Jude verse 24 "To him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy". God isn't going to let go of me that easily so I repented and came back.

    I've come to realise though that wanting a husband has become my idol which is a sin (Exodus 20:3) and is therefore not glorifying God. I have prayed that God will forgive me (which He has) and that I'll give Him all the glory in every situation, whether or not I get a husband.

    "Lord, I thank you that you hear our prayers, no matter where we are or what we're doing. I pray for all the people on this site that they may be encouraged and blessed to serve you and only you. I pray that you will give them the desires of their hearts but if it's not in your will, Lord, I pray that you will change their heart's desires. In your precious name, Amen".
    posted by Michelle
    on Thursday, November 7, 2013 at 1:17 pm
  144. Very encouraging. I was having such a rough morning dealing with this very thing, so much so that I typed into the search box 'how to pray for a husband' and your article popped up. I read it and experienced peace along with the melting away of much anxiety.
    posted by Shanique Poitier
    on Wednesday, November 20, 2013 at 10:16 am
  145. God find me a great man. I want to get married again. I am feeling lonely. Its just me and my boys. Help me find one now. I am tired of being alone. I am ready for a relationship...AMEN
    http://www.truewoman.com/?id=1503
    posted by MR
    on Saturday, November 23, 2013 at 10:28 pm
  146. Lord please hear my prayers. My husband of 21 years cheated on me with his co-worker. he came home again and again cheated on me again with her. I am so tired of him doing this to me and our two boys. God I'm a good women please find me a good man in my life. MY BOYS NEED to see me happy and they need a father figure. lead this man to me now God. Amen
    Truewomen.com
    posted by Mr
    on Thursday, November 28, 2013 at 10:11 pm
  147. @Mr...Our team has prayed for you. I am sorry to hear of your sorrow, pain and anger over your husband's adulterous behavior. We do pray for you-- first of all that God will bring your husband to repentance to make a faithful father to your sons. I pray God will give you guidance and peace as He lays out His plan before you. Rest in Him, Mr, trust in His provision and mighty work in your life. My prayer for you: "There is none like God, who rides through the heavens to your help, through the skies in His majesty. The eternal God is your refuge and underneath are the everlasting arms (Deut. 33:26-27).

    God bless you.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, December 3, 2013 at 12:22 am
  148. i pray to god that i get a husband.And a God fearing one. jokes aside am serious. Interested one con get in touch.
    n/a
    posted by ella
    on Tuesday, December 10, 2013 at 12:43 am
  149. please pray for my future godly husband, I´m a 38y/o never been married virgin woman. Thank you
    posted by lola
    on Tuesday, December 10, 2013 at 3:48 pm
  150. Dear God,
    I am praying to you to find me a faithful husband. Someone who loves me for me. I am ready for a loving relationship. I need to find with your guidance, support and help a great man in my life. I want to love, honor, be faithful and respect him. We will be happy together as a couple forever. Let me get married again with the man you Jesus put in my life and path. I am in need of your help. I don't go out to clubs to meet someone. I want to meet a person who is sincere in life. I know you want all your children to be happy in life. God please hear my prayers. AMEN
    http://www.truewoman.com/?id=1503
    posted by MR
    on Sunday, December 15, 2013 at 3:37 pm
  151. Hi

    I'm a 35 yrs. old woman, born again Christian and I believe God have already released my husband in the spiritual realm ,its just a matter of time for him to show physical . God has been with me all the way and He will not forsake me for my marriage . today the Holy Spirit told me to goggle this page & I' m grateful to read and share with other woman .In 2011 I wrote a prayer note about what kind of a husband I ask God to give me , I still have it in my wallet .I believe this time next year I'' be happy married AMEN! thank you very much for the post
    posted by khaz
    on Monday, December 23, 2013 at 10:12 am
  152. I am 34 years old.i have sought and prayed for a genuine husband since i was 26years old, but I still have not met the one. My blood genotype seems to play a big role in this as I am AS and stand a chance of having a child with Sickle Cell Aneamia if I marry and have children with a man who is AS as I am. I have not met any man who is AA and willing to have a Godly relationship with me.
    At a point I asked myself if this is Gods plan for me? I have met wonderful Godfearing men but they are AS genotype carriers. I have prayed to God to reveal to me that He has prepared for me. I have been introduced to men who are AA but their characters are so awful and unGodly. Please give me some words of advice and encouragement as this bothers me.
    posted by Clare
    on Sunday, December 29, 2013 at 12:35 am
  153. Dear Clare,

    I know how difficult it is to wait on the Lord, but you are doing the right thing, Clare. I encourage you to not lower your standards for a godly husband, Clare! If marriage is in God’s plan for your life, you can trust that He will bring the right man to you at the right time and in the right way. If God were to bring a man to you who was AS genotype carrier, you can trust that He will enable you to trust Him to continue to guide and direct in the relationship. God isn’t limited by genotypes. He can be trusted to guide, direct, and protect you through this. I’ve paused and prayed for your courage and wisdom in the days ahead (Matt. 6:25-34).

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, December 30, 2013 at 12:37 pm
  154. Hi,
    I am turning 38 in Feb 2014. We were planning to get married in April 2014.
    My fiance parents first gave their blessing in June 2013. We were so looking forward to our future together. I began planning for our wedding. However, nothing can be arranged and it hasn't been a smooth journey since then.

    We were both facing lots of obstacles and interruption from his eldest sister. His family has requested me to sign the pre-nuptial and to be honest, I was feeling very let down. Because i feel that marriage is based on love and trust and it shouldn't be govern by the pre-nuptial.

    Unfortunately, the wedding has been called off by my Fiance's parents and sister in November 2013. They have forced us to split up. The reason has been given is - I wasn't the right person for their son. My fiance is 40 years old and this is his first ever relationship. His upbringing is that he has to follow FAMILY instruction. Be obedience. My fiance has decided to leave me in Dec 2013 as his family has fiercefully forcing him to split up with me. He told me that he couldn't marry me without his family blessing and he couldn't forsake his family.

    I am feeling very sad and traumatized. He has stopped calling me more than 3 weeks ago. I am living in pain everyday. I am struggling to cope.

    When we were together, He cried numerous time in front of me. he was feeling very sad about the treatment from his family. Parents has been very difficult to him and very controlling and manipulative. He has to follow his parent's instruction all the time and no one care about his well-being and happiness.

    Ever since we decided to get married, we received no blessing from his family. All i heard of is the conditions after conditions (eg. i must accept his younger brother at the age of 38 to be our responsibility, i must agree that i will not inherit any of their family assets etc...).

    I am feeling very sad and living in grief. I couldn't comprehend the whole drama. We love each other dearly and it is so unfair that we have to call it quit because of his family. I lost faith and hope completely.

    We are the church goer. He believes in God and so do I. We prayed and prayed and prayed for God's help to soften his family heart. However, the more we try to fix up the problem, the situation went from bad to worst. He has told me to let it go and leave it to our GOD. I know that he is now trying to force himself to forget about this relationship as his family has told him that they will never be able to accept me.

    We were together for about 18 months. During this time, he hardly rarely hug me and he hate kissing. Hardly any intimacy between us. Reason is his family doesn't hug and kiss. He often questioned me back - "Did you see my sister hug and kiss her hubby? did you see my mum kissing my dad?"... I felt that we were more like a close friend than a couple...

    My friend and family has asked me to move on as they do not believe this will turn out to be a good marriage. But i do love him and he does have a kind heart.

    I am struggling to cope.... Is he the right person to be my husband? Or i should continue to pray for my future husband?
    posted by Cathy
    on Tuesday, December 31, 2013 at 9:37 am
  155. @Cathy...I am sorry to hear of such a painful time you are experiencing in your relationship. I can "hear" in your post that you do love this young man. I am sure the grief seems overwhelming at times. But, Cathy, I encourage you to listen to your family, seek the wise counsel of your church leaders, and allow your heart to move past this love -- beginning to look to the future, trusting God to lead and guide.

    I am not sure that you have any recourse but to do so--to move on. He has made it clear that he is committed to his family and will not marry without their blessing. Since you have prayed and prayed, and God did not change the family's hearts, nor did this young man choose you over their wishes, it is a clear indication that there would be many--many--problems in your marriage. With that being the reality, you can be assured that he is not the right person for you to marry. You can trust God, Cathy. Accept the situation for what it is and enjoy the peace and freedom that comes from looking to God, trusting Him for His goodness and grace. "But the Lord is faithful; He will strengthen and guard you....May the Lord direct your hearts to God’s love and Christ’s endurance." (2 Thess. 3:3, 5) He will not leave you without help as you seek Him: "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you." (Ps. 32:8)

    I encourage you to start by kneeling before God and pouring out your heart to Him. Tell Him your feelings and your hurts, then commit yourself to Him and His ways and leadership. Fall in love with Jesus during this time of grief and waiting. Let Him fill your heart with His love and grace. I wonder if the post by Carolyn McCulley might be just the direction you need for this time of waiting. Check it out here: http://www.truewoman.com/?id=2717.

    Know of my prayers for you this night, Cathy. May the encouragement of the Scriptures from Psalm 62 give hope and peace to your heart:

    My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from Him.
    He alone is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will never be shaken.
    Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from Him.
    He alone is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
    My salvation and my honor depend on God; He is my mighty rock, my refuge.
    Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge.
    One thing God has spoken, two things have I heard:
    that You, O God, are strong, and that You, O Lord, are loving.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, January 2, 2014 at 8:54 pm
  156. Hi

    I'm a 35 yrs. old woman, born again Christian and I believe God have already released my husband in the spiritual realm ,its just a matter of time for him to show physical . God has been with me all the way and He will not forsake me for my marriage . today the Holy Spirit told me to goggle this page & I' m grateful to read and share with other woman .In 2011 I wrote a prayer note about what kind of a husband I ask God to give me , I still have it in my wallet .I believe this time next year I'' be happy married AMEN! thank you very much for the post
    posted by khazi
    on Friday, January 3, 2014 at 4:34 am
  157. Thank you Sarah for your prayer.
    I received my baptism on the Christmas eve just more than a week ago. This is the best decision i have ever made. I have committed myself to follow God's plan and wills.

    I pray and speak to our mighty God each and every night... With God's strength i am gradually feeling better... i believe God will heal my pain...

    I will walk by faith not by sight.... and i will trust the Lord with all my heart.

    Thanks Sarah....
    posted by Cathy
    on Friday, January 3, 2014 at 6:59 am
  158. @Cathy...I am so glad to hear this. I thought of you as I came across this quote above from Nancy DeMoss: “Our natural tendency is to hold on tightly, to try to protect and preserve whatever we think we can’t live without. We are afraid that if we surrender everything to God—our health, our material possessions, our family, our reputation, our career plans, all our rights, our future—He might take us up on it!

    Choosing the pathway of full surrender will transform your perspective, set fire to your soul, revolutionize your life, and give the spiritual victory you have sought for so long.” You are on a incredible journey, Cathy--watch to see what the Lord does!

    And oh, yes...He WILL indeed bring healing: "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." (Psalm 147:3) "The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Ps. 34:18)

    Blessings to you, Cathy.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Friday, January 3, 2014 at 11:56 am
  159. hi
    the book is powerful and teaches a lot not only to the single women but also to the married women. May God continue to use you. Would like to stay in touch with you.
    posted by kelly-anne johwa
    on Tuesday, January 7, 2014 at 5:32 am
  160. hi
    the book is powerful and teaches a lot not only to the single women but also to the married women. May God continue to use you. Would like to stay in touch with you.
    posted by kelly-anne johwa
    on Tuesday, January 7, 2014 at 5:32 am
  161. @kelly-anne...On behalf of Candice, we thank you for the words of review on her writing! Thank you, too, for the encouragement and words of blessing! Indeed Candice's words are wisdom for women in all walks, of all ages, and whatever her marital status! God bless you, kelly-anne.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, January 9, 2014 at 1:15 pm
  162. What about us men that are still single and want a wife to share our life with?
    posted by Paul
    on Friday, January 10, 2014 at 12:35 am
  163. Thanks for these posts, they really help me a lot. I will 38 yrs. Old this year and single. I am hoping and praying that i will meet my husband this year. Although sometimes i feel that God has forgotten me, again i continue to place my trust and have faith in God. I have been in previous relationships before but ended finding out that the men are married already and ended them all. I regard my body as the temple of the holy spirit and remained pure until that sacred moment with that special someone whomGod has made for me. Please pray that i meet my Husband this year.
    posted by mystical
    on Saturday, January 11, 2014 at 11:15 am
  164. @Paul... Though looking from the other side, the same principles apply. However, you are the one God has given the responsibility to be the one who pursues, so seek Him to help you know just how to go about that. I will remind you of the sentences above: "Whatever season of life you're in, you need to pray because prayer is about relationship with God. Whether single and praying about your desire for a [wife]... the need to pray never ends. Jesus told his disciples they should "always pray and not give up." It's never too soon, or too late, to start." Find godly men in your church to pray with you, guide you, and help you take steps to find a godly woman and build a relationship that would lead to marriage. I have prayed for you this day.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, January 14, 2014 at 10:57 am
  165. @mystical...I have prayed for you. God bless you for your commitment to honor Him by staying pure until marriage. "Heavenly Father, I pray for mystical. I pray You will guide her and guard her and keep her, and bless her. Father, I pray that You might grant her her heart's desire and lead her to a godly man to marry. Speak words of grace and peace over her while she waits, and tender her heart toward You and Your fulfillment of her longings. Truly there is None like You. In Jesus' Name, Amen."
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, January 14, 2014 at 11:04 am
  166. @Vickie..."Heavenly Father, I pray for Vickie that You will lead her in these days. I pray that You will grant her Your grace and peace. Father, I pray You would be very evident to Vickie as she seeks You and seeks to find a godly man to marry. Let Your light and love show through her. Give her wisdom and provision. May you grant her heart's desire. In Jesus' Name, Amen."

    "Let me hear in the morning of Your steadfast love, for in You I trust. Make me know the way I should go, for to You I lift up my soul." (Psalm 143:8)
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, January 14, 2014 at 11:15 am
  167. CANDICE, I CAME ACROSS THIS ARTICLE BY ACCIDENT AND I'M GLAD I DID BECAUSE I HAD AN AH HA MOMENT WHEN YOU STATED THAT I SHOULD "PRAY FOR MYSELF -THE FUTURE WIFE". I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THINGS IN THIS WAY, BUT I HAVE TO ADMIT THAT YOU ARE SO RIGHT, FROM THIS POINT ON I WILL MAKE A CHANGE IN MY DAILY PRAYERS FROM "GOD PLEASE SEND ME A GOOD MAN" TO GOD PLEASE CHANGE THE THINGS WITHIN ME THAT WILL MAKE ME A GOOD WIFE"
    posted by SHANNON GREEN
    on Wednesday, January 22, 2014 at 4:36 pm
  168. Today has been interesting day. God has defiantly been working on my heart in a way that I never expected. I'll explain why in a second, but first, a little background.

    Every so often, since college, I've had these dreams. I guess I'll call them "the one". They involve a guy, although I don't know what his face looks like. He takes on different characters, but I believe that he is the same person. Usually, I'm married to him or he is a significant person in my life. I just know, in the dream and after, that he is someone I am going to meet one day.

    I'm 25, and still single. I'll be 26 soon. I've dated a few guys, but never had a lot of success. I have defiantly chosen the wrong guys. I'm waiting for marriage, and although this is always discussed before a relationship is started, it is always the reason for the breakup. The guy can't "wait' any longer and wants someone else. It isn't always stated, but I know the reason. I believed that no guy was still waiting; that I would have to settle for someone who already slept with someone else. Now, I believe that God could bring someone into my life who is still a virgin. But even if He doesn't, even if my future husband has slipped, I want someone who won't just "put up" with my waiting for marriage (as friends have said I'll have to find) but someone who embraces and loves that part of me.

    I've been reading in the Bible lately some verses that I would like to share. When I first read them, I felt strongly threatened by them. I didn't really like what they had to say, because it meant that I might always be single. I remember when I took a test back in college at my Bible study. It was a test to find out your spiritual gifts. Some of the girls had really sweet things, like gentleness and stuff. I got celibacy. I was a little naive at the time and I asked, "What does that mean?" "That God doesn't want you to get married," another girl chirped cheerfully. I was pretty upset. How was that a spiritual gift or even a blessing at all?

    Since then, off and on for years, I've had these thoughts that maybe I won't be getting married. This verse from Paul that I read the other day really hit me.

    "But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another. So i say to those who aren't married and to widows-it's better to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust." -1 Corinthians 7:7-9

    I don't really burn with the lust that some of my friends have. I long to get married; but I can control my desires. This is not really an area I struggle with. What I struggle with is a longing to get married, and sometimes I try to figure it out on my own.

    I've been reading these love stories by Karen Kingsbury, where everything always seems to work out for the main characters. Sometimes, it can be a little depressing. So I was looking up things about waiting for your husband, and I not only found this article but today, God showed me this, which I found on Pinterest.

    "My Princess,

    Don't you believe that I know who you will marry and that I'm capable of leading you that right person?

    Can you also believe that I am the God of all creation? I know you better than you know yourself, and I am perfectly able to bring this person into your life in My own time, in My own way.

    ...and I don't need your help.

    God"

    And finally, to top it all off, I received this message today at Hillsong's Sisterhood meeting. Bobby said this, which just hit it all on the nail.

    Jude 1 (the Message)

    "Relax, everything's going to be all right; rest, everything's coming together, open your heats, love is on the way."

    Remember, your personal heart matters to God. We do not know what the future holds, but we must not sit around waiting for it. While you are in this season of waiting, you need to keep moving forward. God doesn't need you sitting to move you, to change you, or to open your eyes. He needs you living your life, fully, each and every day. He cannot change you unless you are willing to change; He cannot bring someone into your life UNTIL you are ready for that person to be in your life.

    Don't you want to be the best person for your spouse? Don't you want your spouse to be the best person for you? Maybe the reason you haven't met anyone yet is because your heart isn't in the right place, or the person you waiting for isn't ready yet.

    If your heart isn't fully committed to God, then you need to work on that. If you feel your heart is pure and committed to God, then keep working but also pray for your future husband. They may not yet be ready to meet you.

    Never settle. God has so many plans for your life. You need to trust Him. Sometimes we make choices that don't follow the plans God had for us, and we choose to live a life that is not God pleasing. God will always forgive us, but sometimes those consequences are something that we will have to live with.

    God says: "Do you think I don't wait for you in your future? Am I not in your February, in your March, in your May, in your April..."

    We don't see the future clearly. We think we need to pray and beg for everything from God. But it's more about in the walking, not stopping. That is when we will encounter the love. We will encounter everything we need on the journey, but we must keep walking. Jesus is saying "Find me, follow me."

    Jesus is already in your future. Trust Him, and relax. He's got this.

    So even if I am going to be single for the rest of my life, or if I just need to be more patient and wait on God, I have to keep calm. Keep busy. Keep living my life to the fullest.
    posted by Kristine
    on Tuesday, February 11, 2014 at 10:11 am
  169. I enjoyed the positive message on encouraging women about the proper steps to praying for a companion. Matthew 6 :33 is the way. because God wants his daughters to put him first, loving Him with their whole heart. seeking his presence as the first husband.

    By seeking the kingdom of God and all of his Holy ordinance and in faith, As his beloved daughters you want to gain his trust that we are committed, and dedicated in serving him and putting him first in All things.

    God desires for his daughters to have the best , and the best sometimes requires your faithfulness and commitment of being true and honest. God is seeking daughters that loves to pray, and worship with him, daughters that are fruitful, and loyal, never changing.

    God will release the husband he has chosen for you, along with including your desires . when God is assured that your faith ,loyalty and prayer times wont change and that it is in constant bonding with him, like a covenant, then you will have found favor with the Lord to release your husband according to His time and season.

    I pray to the father, inquiring of him to bless me with the husband that has gain his heart for me ,and that as his daughter that I gained favor with God for that husband. God's decision over your life, is the best decision ever.
    Stay hopeful and in direct one on one communication with the father and no that God keeps his promises, and remember that , " the just shall live By faith".
    posted by Rochelle
    on Wednesday, February 12, 2014 at 7:26 pm
  170. @Kristine...Bless you. Yes, my friend, do indeed live your life to the fullest in every season and in every circumstance. God is involved in your life, Kristine, as you well know, and He desires His purposes to be lived out in every stage of life. You can trust Him! So proud of you for your focus on God and His ways, and your trust in Him! "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." (Romans 15:13)
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, February 12, 2014 at 11:10 pm
  171. I'm so happy i came across this website. you can imagine not being married at 30 in Africa. i have been praying for a husband since i was 15. have had few relationships that ended badly, all i am doing now it to believe, trust and hope on God because i know he has a better plan, man for me. what i desire most now is to be married. please join me to pray because sometimes the feeling, loneliness is overwhelming. I love God, he is my number one. but i need a man that i can call my own.
    posted by Chichi
    on Thursday, February 13, 2014 at 7:13 am
  172. Dear Chichi,

    Keep on praying, my friendi! In the waiting, your prayers will draw you closer to God and strengthen you for the road He has ahead of you. It’s been our honor to pray for your courage and perseverance as you choose to love God first and grow your walk with Him as you wait the unveiling of His plan for your life.

    I think you will also find this blog encouraging: http://www.truewoman.com/?id=2745

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, February 13, 2014 at 1:24 pm
  173. Dear TW Team, this is a lovely website for which I thank you. I am sincerely blessed to have found same. I lost my beloved husband to cancer 10 years ago, he was 36 and I was 31. I have raised my "boys" on my own - they are going to be 20 years old and 17 years in April 2014. I AM TRULY BLESSED, THEY, my children, are loving, kind, generous and well-mannered children. I thank God for helping me to raise them. I am going to be 42 years old soon and I would loved to be married again, I am tired and lonely after having been alone for 10 years. I have dated but have not found any person that I found would be a good role model and "father figure" to my beloved children. What prayer should I be asking God? I would love to be happily married and in love again - my children even want me to re-marry. I must confess that I was emotionally broken for many years after my husband died – he truly was my best friend. My youngest son only has two years left at high school. My fear is that when he has finished school, I will be 43 years old - they (my children) will be 18 yrs and 21 yrs and leave home and I will be alone. I had a fantastic and loving marriage to my husband for 12 years (whom I met on a blind date at the age of 19 years old). I know that I was immensely blessed to be so happily married. I still have friends tell me to this day that they wish they could be as happily married as I was.
    Please help me? Thank you for taking the time to read my message and GOD’s richest blessings & choicest gifts and miracles to all of you on this site. Amen
    posted by charmaine
    on Friday, February 21, 2014 at 11:39 am
  174. @charmaine… You are truly blessed to have had such a happy and fulfilling marriage; obviously, God knew the time was short for the two of you to be together and helped you to make the most of those years! It is certainly good and right for you to ask God the desires of your heart—praying for a happy marriage in the future.

    Psalm 37:4 says: “Delight yourself in the LORD, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” The first part of the verse gives the clue to what you would want to be praying right now—and then trust Him with the future. “Delight yourself in the Lord” – means to focus on the Lord and your relationship with Him--and seek Him and His will. “Seek the Lord and His strength; seek His presence continually.” (Psalm 105:4) Change your focus from “marriage” and “finding the right man” to deepening your relationship with Jesus. Make sure you are in His Word on a daily basis—learn the process of daily seeking Him through prayer and Bible reading. Worship Him on a weekly basis to feel His presence among His people.

    Perhaps a good devotional book would be of help to begin that process of forming “seed thought” to seek Him and His presence through the day. If you are interested in receiving Nancy’s book The Quiet Place as our gift, write me at info@reviveourhearts.com.

    God bless you as you seek the Lord and delight in Him—trusting Him with your future!
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Friday, February 21, 2014 at 1:59 pm
  175. Thank you for this post. I am 19, so still fairly young, in college, and desiring the Lord. So many sweet friends of mine from my ministry are dating, engaged, just recently married or about to be soon. Its hard, seeing so many of your friends marrying. My parents, about to celebrate their 21st anniversary of marriage this coming June. My mom was 20 and my dad 23 when they got married, and still love each other so much. Its hard being single, although I am finding my worth in the Lord.
    Of course I have dreams, I want to be married someday to a Godly man and have my own kids, raise a family someday. It terrifies me that this might not something God has in mind for me, but this article is encouraging. It is a good reminder to seek God no matter what, because he knows whats best for us. He has seen us before we were even born. We cannot see into the future, we don't know whats coming, so how could we possibly know whats best for us? God does, and he is faithful. So I will continue to trust him, but I won't give up on the dream that he could provide me a husband someday. Just continuing to pray that I seek him first, above all else. Thanks for this!
    posted by Vicki
    on Tuesday, March 4, 2014 at 10:44 am
  176. Beautiful! Thank you so much ;-)
    www.twitter.com/candeva_pink
    posted by Candy
    on Monday, March 10, 2014 at 3:26 pm
  177. 34 going on 35, with no kids. what if the future husband that you have been praying for is already in your life? problem is, he's still searching for someone "better" as most young men often do before they realize. should i be praying to God that the eyes of men be open to receive the wife that He has placed before their very eyes?
    posted by denise
    on Tuesday, March 11, 2014 at 3:56 pm
  178. @Denise…Prayer is simply talking with God, so yes, you can pray what is on your heart, your mind, to Him. Ask Him to lead you to know how to pray about this situation. “I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go” (Isa. 48:17). Talk to God about your dreams for the future; talk to Him about this particular man; talk to Him about His will and direction for you. Ask God to work to bring this to pass if this is His will; trust Him to do what is good and right in answer to your prayers. “The LORD is good to those whose hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him.” (Lam. 3:25) God bless you, Denise, as you seek Him. I consider it a privilege to pray this morning for you and with you about this situation.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, March 12, 2014 at 10:07 am
  179. I am 34 years old, I am praying to God to release my husband now. I am beginning to sleep around because I feel God does not care about me and I no longer enjoy going to church.
    I just feel like taking matters in to my own hands and see. This year alone I slept with three men already and i feel bad about it but i don't know if i have it in me to stop. I promise to dedicate my heart, body and soul if he can give me a husband.
    posted by Lindeni
    on Thursday, March 13, 2014 at 6:31 am
  180. @Lindeni...Oh, Lendeni ~ you don't want to do this. You will be sorry; you will have regrets. You cannot "bargain" with God and tell Him if He will do what you want, then you will follow Him. That is not what a relationship with God is about. Find a good strong evangelical church in your area where you can meet the Lord and seek Him with all your heart. It will be worth it! You can know joy and fulfillment!

    I encourage you to begin today—right now—practicing a life of purity. God says in His Word that sex outside of marriage is sin. Listen to what God’s Word says concerning immorality:

    "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit." (1 Thess. 4:3-8)

    I pray you will find a love for Jesus so rich, so deep, so sincere, so intimate that it will surpass your love for things that are lesser delights. Learn to find in Him the satisfaction that your soul longs for, Lindeni.

    By the fact you wrote it is obvious you want to do what is right before the Lord. Thank the Lord that He has convicted you of your sin and you now have the opportunity to leave it behind. Find a church home; you need the encouragement and fellowship of other believers to help you do what is right. I have paused to pray for you this day.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, March 13, 2014 at 3:50 pm
  181. Thank God for your life . I suppose it would have been interesting to know the scriptures you stood on as you prayed for your future husband. Giving thanks for everything was very clear.
    posted by merle thomas
    on Friday, March 14, 2014 at 6:11 pm
  182. I am truly touched by your writing. I have just renewed my relationship with the Lord having gone through numerous men who were so wrong for me and some who were good, but none I could say love the Lord and do service for Him or will bring me closer to God. I am encouraged by the many women who have posted here. I have been reading the book of Matthew and it struck me that not everyone is called to marriage. I was completely shocked having forgotten that marriage is not for everyone. I am 30 turning 31 but I have found such peace in Matt. 19:11 and 1 Corinthians 7 on singlehood and marriage during my bible study...now I am less worried and I resist the pressures to conform to be able to be "marriageable"... lose weight, put myself out there, go out etc etc. I am now more dedicated in my service to God, my family, my church and community...and in doing this I found peace. I am encouraged by the responses posted here. I am fully aware of my weaknesses, and this is where I need most temperance in my singlehood. 1 Cor. 7:9 is truly me...I need prayers and strength to temper my passion. I feel more and more that God demands more temperance from me and I am focussed on growing myself in the Lord as I pray for my future husband to be ready to have me. I shall pray for all the ladies here tonight. May God's Will be done.
    posted by Temperance
    on Friday, March 28, 2014 at 2:55 pm
  183. Dear Temperance:

    How our hearts are encouraged by your testimony today, my friend! We have joined in praying for your strength and ability to trust that God is at work even when you cannot see it. We wonder if you would be encouraged in your journey by a recent blog by Colleen Chao. You can find it here: http://www.truewoman.com/?id=2784. May God continue to grow you in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, through the study of His Word.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Friday, March 28, 2014 at 5:46 pm
  184. Just want to share my story, i love a man since 2007, he is korean and we meet again in 2011, be in relationship since 2012. I love him so much, he is sick and i always pray for him. However seem situation isn't good, his family dislike me because he spend a lot of money to call me ( he is korean and live in Seoul) and I'm indonesian. My parent used to like him but because he is sick and unstable my parent turn to dislike him. My dad asked him to leave me and he went out with other girl to make me forget him however he felt sorry and said it was a mistake.
    He came again to here, I love him so much however do I have to let him go. Will God reunite us again once we become better person? I am trying my best to forget him however its really difficult as he is also my first crush and love
    I wish situation turn to be good, and GOd shows me that he is the best man for me
    posted by Ella
    on Saturday, March 29, 2014 at 10:34 pm
  185. Dear Ella,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’m so sorry to hear of the heart ache you are going through. It’s been my honor to pray for you. We have also shared your request with the prayer warriors at our ministry. They will be praying for you, as well!

    God sees what is going on and knows the deep pain you have in your heart, Ella. We don’t know what the Lord has in store for you in this relationship, Ella. Our enemy would love to use this situation to discourage you and cause you to doubt God. But God will use it to deepen your walk of faith and your love for Him as you turn to Him and trust Him with your heart. Stay in the Word, my friend! It is the lifeline for your soul and will keep your heart anchored to Him. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope (Rom. 15:13).

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Tuesday, April 1, 2014 at 5:04 pm
  186. This is great. So many shared stories!! I came across this whilst browsing the web because I was searching for some more wisdom and guidance.
    I've recently fallen deeply in love with a man. I want to marry him. I have been praying very specifically for my man since I was 13 and I am now 20. This man seems so miraculously well matched to my prayers and even EXCEEDS them. I love his family and am close to them, he's clearly a very godly man, confident, a heart throb in the way he is with children, fun, adventurous, kind, gentle, patient (not to mention strikingly handsome and wealthy!!), seems to like me and somehow I feel I can completely understand his personality, humour and relate to him. I just adore everything about him really. How is it possible that God is NOT deliberately wooing me to fall in love with this extraordinary guy? I believe God wants me to marry him because I've received so many signs and confirmations as I have prayed.
    The only thing is he is 17 years older than I am and hasn't yet pursued me or asked me out. Also he's so much more intelligent and interesting! Sometimes that causes me to doubt that I've really heard correctly from God, or if this man feels the same for me. Is he out of my league? The age difference is a bit confusing to me at times, and I wonder why it has to be that way. Am I just dreaming and driven by feelings? He just seems like such a miracle to me, so I guess I'm expecting that I will end up marrying Him because God is so full of grace to give us more than we think we can get. Haha.
    I do think it's a challenge to not make an idol out of someone you love so very much, particularly when you believe you will marry them. I've struggled with purity in my thoughts because sometimes I feel like I have so much passion inside of me that I cannot freely express to this man. We are not yet close 'friends' but I feel like I know him so well already because he is a travel writer and a preacher so I've heard him talk lots about himself and read about him too. I can completely trust him and feel comfortable in his presence and talking to him, which is rare for me being the introvert that I am. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't just tell him how I feel. Should I?

    Message to singles: God wants your heart to love him first and most. Revel in the awesome unlimited possibilities of your relationship with God, because it will increasingly get more exciting as it develops. This will mean that you feel less need for marriage because you will truly be able to enjoy your life to the fullest with the awesome lover you have in God, and be ever so happy!! God wants desperately to satisfy your longings and give you what you want! He WILL perfect all that concerns you. He want to bless you with the richest abundance of gifts! I think one of the biggest lessons all singles need to learn is how to find that their every need and desire can be fulfilled in Christ. He desires a relationship with us which amazingly goes even deeper than marriage! We just need to study Him more, to KNOW Him more, to LOVE Him more, to then want only what He wants. And so, we can find complete satisfaction on our journey, counting or things loss compared to knowing Christ and gaining all things through Him! :D love laugh and feel great about being single because it means more time for God. That's my outlook anyway.
    posted by Redhead
    on Thursday, April 3, 2014 at 6:15 pm
  187. @Redhead...Thank you for sharing your comments. Indeed God desires we enjoy life to the fullest through a relationship with Jesus--whether married or single. He does give joy to the full. "Thou hast made known to me the ways of life; thou shalt make me full of joy with thy countenance." (Acts 2:28)

    In answer to your question, it most likely would cause you regret in the future if you tell this man how you feel. Let him be the pursuer in the relationship. If he is the one God intends for you to marry, God will lead him the same and the relationship can start in a good, healthy place. In the meantime, get out a journal and write your thoughts to God. It will be easier to keep your thoughts pure as you write out your thoughts, desires, questions, and words of longing. God will give you direction and wisdom as you trust Him for His leadership. "From my distress I called upon the LORD; The LORD answered me and set me in a large place." (Psalm 118:5)

    We encourage you to get wise counsel from your mom, your parents, a godly aunt or grandmother, or a woman in your church as you consider your future relationships. You have a right view on a relationship with Jesus and finding your fulfillment in Him! May He lead you and guide you and indeed fulfill the desires of your heart ("Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart." Ps. 37:4)
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Saturday, April 5, 2014 at 5:57 am
  188. Lately I have had this strong desire for marriage,everyone around meseems to be getting married or engaged,iI keep being invited to weddings and I really cry when I'm in those weddings.I'm 30 and really would love to get married.All the men I've dated before are getting married which makes it even harder for me.Anytime I pray to God about a husband I really cry.Idont know what to do.deep down inside I know God has someone for me but it feels like its taking too long.At the same time I only want Gods best.there's a guy I really like but he is not born again but I feel very comfortable around him
    He says he likes me but he doesn't know where we are heading.I really feel I deserve better.I don't know what to do.I really desire a spouse
    posted by maureen
    on Saturday, April 5, 2014 at 11:34 am
  189. Maureen,

    I hear your heart pain as you share with us today, my friend. Your deepest heart desire is to be married and I want to assure you that God knows that. He sees your pain and He is aware of your deepest longings and He knows what the best plan for your life is. I encourage you to not lower your standards and continue to believe God for His best for your life. I’ve paused and prayed for you today. I encourage you to take the time to listen through these series and ask God to give you the grace to trust Him and wait His timing for a spouse. Draw near to the Lord through His Word and prayer, Maureen. Let Him fill the empty places in your heart with His presence and His eternal love for you.

    Surrendering Unfulfilled Longings with Amy Baker: http://tinyurl.com/mahyllx

    Practical Counsel on Singleness with Carolyn McCulley: http://tinyurl.com/m8naa2h

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, April 7, 2014 at 1:12 pm
  190. I am a woman of God. I love Him and adore Him every day. I have been praying for a good husband for 10 years. I want share my life with this man of God. I would like to serve the Lord with him. I believe God created a man and his woman. I have been waiting but sometimes I feel discouragement.

    Please pray with me for a good husband.

    God bless.

    Shirley
    posted by Shirley
    on Thursday, April 10, 2014 at 11:38 pm
  191. @Shirley...Our Team has prayed for you and with you, Shirley. We have a Prayer Team that prays for every request individually and specifically. I count it a privilege tonight to pray alongside them and you--seeking God to hear your heart cries and answer --giving you joy and peace. "And those who know Your name put their trust in You, for You, O LORD, have not forsaken those who seek You." (Psalm 9:10) Blessings to you.
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Saturday, April 12, 2014 at 10:35 pm
  192. Dear,God pls help me meet the right man.A good man who is going to love me and my kids.and who is going to provide us with s good home.Thank you Lord for this strong desire you have placed in my heart..Thank you for my marriage and for my future husband,Please be with him and prepare his heart to do your will. Will always praise ur name.Amen.
    posted by Jane susan N
    on Tuesday, April 15, 2014 at 5:02 pm
  193. Its comforting to know others out here are feeling what im feeling. I havent made praying for a mate my focal point I usually pray when the desire to pray for a mate hits me. I was prophecied to some years ago that God would send me a mate. I had been going through rough times and often wondered if God had a mate for me...see I deal with esteem issues but when she spoked that in my spirit that day I was like shocked because I havent prayed about or talked to God about me not having someone in awhile. So recently I wrote down a list of my desires and I've been adding to it and praying to God for my mate. Also been praying for other things to go well in my life. I know sometimes I put off praying for my mate because I feel I have to make sure im right or I have to make sure my 20 yo needs are met due im to the point I feel like when is it my time to pray for something I desire and not feel I have to put it on the back burner. I feel so discouraged but I am holding on....thanks for this article I trully enjoyed it. Keep me in prayer and blessings to all.
    posted by C. A
    on Wednesday, April 16, 2014 at 12:04 am
  194. Dear Jane susan N

    I’ve prayed for you and your precious children today! May the hope of the Risen Savior fill your heart and mind with joy and peace during these days of waiting upon the Lord.

    “Now may the God of Hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you abound in hope – by the power of the Holy Spirit ( Romans 15:13).”

    Grace and peace,
    Carrie
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Wednesday, April 16, 2014 at 4:49 pm
  195. Hello Dear,

    I am a 28 year girl and love a 30 year old boy very much and it is my fortunate that he was with in school but we did not talk ever in school time. Now, we met on face book after 14 years and i told him four months back that i love him lot.

    He had a affair in past and that girl got married with someone else four year ago. Now he does not want to marry with anyone and do not want to forget his past. My family is also searching a boy for me for marriage.

    He thinks that love is nothing and just a time pass now. Please pray for him that he could get a good life partner and also my wish is that i want to marry with him because i love him lot.

    Please reply for this email.

    Regards
    posted by Deepa Gupta
    on Thursday, April 24, 2014 at 12:47 am
  196. @Deepa...We consider it a privilege to pray for you. This is a time of waiting for you. How I pray you will know the sweet closeness of the Lord as you wait for His leadership through your parents. "I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go" (Isa. 48:17).

    Remember, God cares about your whole life, Deepa, not just right now. He has plans to prosper you and not to harm you (Jer. 29:11). Know His heart is for you; so trust in His sovereign hand at this time and wait upon Him--resting in His love and care for you. "The LORD is good to those whose hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him." (Lam. 3:25)
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, April 24, 2014 at 3:19 pm
  197. I appreciate your ministry I would like you give you ladies a view from a mans perspective. It has been my experience as a man that many men and women today I am speaking of Christians here. Have been sold a Bill of goods from the world. Let me explain as I man I have been on dating sights and viewed what women SAY they want in a man. They want someone who has a sense of humor who is confident a GOOD provider and a spiritual leader. However what I often see a woman go after is a man who has material things! Yes even in the Church yet as a minister the most common complaint is that a married woman says he is not a spiritual leader! Go figure he had an affair because he had issues and you did not marry a man of character when you had plenty to choose from. Women love bling when I went to Liberty University the women would be lined up to date a guy if he was pre med or his daddy was a famous preacher or a famous singer. Face it ladies you love the bling. How come at LU the saying we had as men was that nice guys finish last. Your low self esteem does not allow you to fall for a great guy you have a I want to help him up to his potential! Mindset. It comes for. Your mothering instincts. It's disastrous and I deal with it all the time the fallout of poor decisions and now the ladies went from a great deal to a bad deal and now many want a new deal!

    So find a man if you can that loves Jesus look for a few things in his life what kind of friends does he have? Does he even take his Bible to Church? Not likely does he sit there and open it when scripture is read? Most likely not! That's who you are going to marry? Don't expect him to change he may but most likely will not he will treat you like a lady and you will love the attention and feeling special dreaming of that day when he will be yours!

    We need real men of God behind the pulpits today who are real men and say it like it is with love. Men who know the Biblical languages and can preach from them! Not tell stories wen the lives and marriages of people in front if them are falling apart.

    James
    posted by James
    on Friday, April 25, 2014 at 12:25 am
  198. i am sofia from india, i am 30 years, i'm not yet married, my sister name is sangeetha 29 years, she is also not yet married, we are worrying about for marriage, my mother health is becoming bad because of me & my sister's, i have one younger sister too name is christina age 27, please pray for our marriage, already 3 marriage proposal was stooped, my father don't worrying about as, i have father name of Jesus, i believe him, my 1st sister very much interest in marriage, every day she used to cry for her fate, we need peace, we need good live partner, please pray for my family
    posted by sofia
    on Sunday, April 27, 2014 at 2:02 pm
  199. Dear Sofia,

    We are honored to pray for you, your sisters and your parents.

    Heavenly Father, thank you that you know the path we take. When my spirit was overwhelmed within me, You understood my path (Psalm 142). Thank you that your eyes are always upon us and you have promised to carry us through even the most difficult of trials. In all their suffering He also suffered, and He personally rescued them. In His love and mercy He redeemed them. He lifted them up and carried them through all the years (Isaiah 63:9 NLT). Thank you that when we cry out to you…you always answer your children. On the day I called You answered me; you make me bold with strength in my soul (Psalm 138). Father, only you can truly understand the depth of longing and need in Sofia’s request. O God I pray that you would let her hear your lovingkindness for her every morning ( Psalm 143: 8). Surround her with your unfailing love. Thank you that you have promised to never leave her or abandoned her. The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.

    Lord the enemy has persecuted her soul; he is crushing her life to the ground and making her dwell in blinding and confining hopelessness and despair (Psalm 143:3-4). Oh God, would you shine the light of your truth into the darkness of her fears, If I say, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me, and the light around me will be night,” even the darkness is not dark to You, and the night is as bright as the day (Psalm 139:11-12). Lord Jesus would you grant this precious friend and her family your peace and comfort in the midst of this storm. The mountains might shake. The hills might be removed. But my faithful love for you will never be shaken. And my covenant that promises peace to you will never be broken,” says the Lord. He shows you His loving concern (Isa. 54:10). Set their feet firmly upon the Rock – Jesus, the Messiah, as they wait upon your perfect timing in providing a spouse. Lord bring them godly men who love the Lord and will lead, provide and protect their family.

    Thank you, Abba, Father, that you walk with them each step of the way. May the rest in the assurance of your loving care. The LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel your Savior…. Since you are precious in my sight, since you are honored and I love you… Do not fear for I am with you…” (Isaiah 43:1-5). In the precious name of Jesus I pray… Amen.
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Tuesday, April 29, 2014 at 2:03 pm
  200. Im 18 yrs old and I desire to have a husband. Reading the comments from others has really encouraged me to lay away my desires and focus on the will of my Father. Im still a virgin working on building a more stable and secure foundation with God daily. Seeing others with that significant other made me want to desire what they have. I even so much as started trying to find men for myself to talk to and just feel good about having around. I ask you all to pray for me and that God keeps me stable in His will and the ways He directed for my life. I hope everyone stays encouraged and focus more on God !!
    posted by Brit
    on Sunday, May 11, 2014 at 10:12 pm
  201. @Brit...Bless you for your commitment to follow God's will and plans for your life. I pray He will indeed "keep you stable" as you learn from Him and enjoy His company. May you know the joy of waiting upon the Lord and letting Him work the plans He has in the proper timing. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. Acknowledge Him in all your ways and He shall direct your paths." (Prov. 3:5-6) "Heavenly Father, I pray for Brit, that You will hear the sacrifice of her heart and lips to follow You and Your direction for her life. Help her Lord; keep her strong and focused on Your timing and ways. Fill these days of waiting upon You with Your goodness and Your grace. Help her to see You in all Your glory until she is ready to express the gospel in every relationship. Bless her, guard her, guide her, keep her. In Jesus' Name, Amen."
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Monday, May 12, 2014 at 3:48 pm
  202. Wow, feeling happy and then suddenly realizing that there is no one to go home to, to just get that hug that you need after a long stressful day at work, that is how I feel most days. I am 25 years old and have never been in a serious relationship, I have been praying for the past 3 years for a husband/boyfriend but nothing as of yet. I trust that God will send someone my way when he feels that I am ready. Even though I feel that I am ready it is not yet his will for me to be with someone I truly trust and believe that Good has a plan for my life even though the path seems long to me I will walk tall enjoy my singleness while it lasts because I know that he has the perfect husband for me I will patiently wait on The Lord my God to fulfill my needs according to His plan for me. Would just like to know if someone can help me pray for my future husband. I have read most of the above articles and am relieved that I am not the only one feeling despaired.
    Thank you so much for this page.

    God bless
    Lalla
    posted by Lalla
    on Friday, May 16, 2014 at 3:41 pm
  203. Dear Lalla,

    Your heart is in the right place, sweet friend. Choosing to trust the Father’s plan even when we can’t see the road can be difficult, but His grace is always there to get us through. All we have to do is to cry out to Him and He will pour His grace into our hearts and lives (2 Cor. 12:9-10). It’s been my honor to pray for you to rest in His goodness and His love for you as you wait for Him to reveal His plan for your life. Stay in the Word, Lalla! It is the lifeline for your soul and will keep you tethered to God’s heart as you counsel your mind and emotions with His Word.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, May 19, 2014 at 2:41 pm
  204. I am 21, but I am not praying in the way that I want to meet the one God has for me right now (In a way like telling God I want to meet him in lest said in the next couple months). I'm praying that he is ready and that he has a great faith in Christ and relationship with God. I saw how it was with my parents marriage (still couple things to work one. What should I pray for them to fix their marriage?). I need to straight my life. First thing is that I want a career into the nursing field and I am looking to get accepted (God use me to pray over healing. I have kind of more things, but that is one of them. So I saw that it would make sences). It is really hard in Ontario to get accepted into a nursing school (I am Canadian). So I am looking to apply outside the province. But I am praying for a solution that will allow me to apply to universities outside of Ontario. Thanks for the help.
    posted by Kaitlin
    on Tuesday, May 27, 2014 at 6:31 pm
  205. thanks for this post is really inspiring, now i have chosen to serve God till the end of time
    posted by joan
    on Wednesday, May 28, 2014 at 7:46 am
  206. Dear Kaitlin,

    It sounds like your heart is right in praying for your future mate! In regards to praying for your parent’s marriage, you might consider taking this recent prayer challenge from our Lies Young Women Believe blog. It will give you some specific things to pray.

    Join the Seven Day Mom and Dad Prayer Challenge
    http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/index.php?id=2246

    I’ve paused and prayed for wisdom and direction in seeking a university to continue your education. May God guide you in the way He would have you go (Is. 30:21). Stay in the Word, my friend. It is the lifeline that will keep you anchored to the heart of God.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, May 28, 2014 at 12:27 pm
  207. I 25 Years old I pray for long time God to give me a good husband who will love me, but all boy friends am getting each day they are not good they are pretending to love me and after few days they are staying away from. am tired with this situation please play for me I need a husband and not a pray boy.
    Dear God you know my heart and you know how I feel light now please answer my prayer,
    I need you in my life too please show me the direction am praying in Jesus name Ameen
    Levina
    posted by Levina
    on Thursday, May 29, 2014 at 3:46 am
  208. Levina,

    Precious Father, You know all things and You have all things in Your control. You know the needs and the deepest longings of Levina’s heart. We ask that she would find her satisfaction in her relationship with You as she waits for You to reveal Your will in this area of her life. Give her peace and contentment in her singleness. Help her to be discerning in relationships with guys so that she is not used and abused by them. Give her the desire to be sold out to You and to serve You where you have her. Fill the emptiness in her heart with the reality of Your presence and Your love for her. Thank You that she has You in her life and is willing to follow You and live to the standards You have given us in Your Word. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, May 29, 2014 at 12:27 pm
  209. Wow, this is so encouraging!!! It's exactly what I needed to see today! Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one, but there are soooo many others out there with the same longings! Praise God, He knows what we need when we need it!
    Thank you and blessings!
    Ashley
    posted by Ashley
    on Tuesday, June 10, 2014 at 9:20 am
  210. Prayer for a future husband in my Hometown, Bradford PA
    posted by Mary Joseph
    on Saturday, June 14, 2014 at 11:03 am
  211. Dear Mary,

    We are honored to pray for you today, Mary.

    Father God, please work in the hearts of the men in Bradford and the surrounding area to be able to see Mary for Whose she is and her deep love for Christ. May the man of Your choosing be courageous and reach out to her soon. Give Mary the courage and faith to wait God’s timing and to focus on her own personal relationship with You as she ministers to You and the others You place in her life each and every day. Please use this waiting time to prepare Mary for what You know will be in her future. May You find her heart soft, teachable and ready to obey Your every call. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, June 16, 2014 at 3:07 pm
  212. Dear Sisters' in Christ

    I have read most of the comments and I can relate with most of you and I am 28. I used to feel miserable about not being married until I asked God for peace while waiting on Him. I don't know how most of you guys are doing it but I think it is also important to give someone a chance, God will not physically come down and point out the right man for you. It is very important to ask God for a husband but we must also be willing to give guys a chance, give someone a chance to get to know you and who knows you might like the person back.

    We all won't meet our husbands the same way and yes some of us might not get a fully committed God serving man on the word go, sometimes God will give us imperfect men so that we can get to see His wonderous work in transforming our husbands. I'm not saying go and date an unbeliever but we must understand that God leaves a place in our lives where only He can fulfil and transform.

    We can not find a perfect man because we ourselves are not perfect. I am not yet married but I thank God for where I am today because I know He is working in every other way to bring me what's best for me and if what's best for me is a husband then Daddy God I thank You for trusting me with such a sacred covenant.

    Everyday I thank Him because He is faithful and the desire that He placed in my heart He will fulfil, He's not a man, He will never tell a lie. I thank Him for my husband and I thank Him for our children. We are not where we are by a mistake, God allowed it and He knew we can handle it! I am in so much peace because I know God is in control, remember He is strong enough in our weaknesses, when we admit our weaknesses and invite Him to step in then He will prove His faithfulness. Be blessed!

    Lutendo
    posted by Lutendo
    on Tuesday, June 24, 2014 at 6:17 am
  213. Hi
    I have been waiting for God to bless me with the man whom he knows will be good for me,
    and vice versa, I get lonely a lot and trying to keep a wisdom perspective. sometimes I get over joyed and then not knowing if I am ready to receive what God has for me and sometimes will this prayer be answer for me. I feel in my spirit that God will bless me with my best friend to share our lives in holy matrimony. I want only God's will to be done, anything eles will be drama anyway. God has been everything for me in every area of my life,
    I love him and these articles have reminded me to be content in what ever state I am in.
    However its my prayer that God give all you ladies your heart desire. A Godhead Husbands.

    Barbara
    posted by Barbara
    on Saturday, July 5, 2014 at 10:54 pm
  214. Do women not realize all of the "legal disadvantages" that marriage enforces on men ? Let me name a few that causes men run from marriage like the plague. (1) a woman at any time or point can "abort" her husband's child and the man has absolutely no legal power to stop her, even if the man wants to adopt the child. (2) 4 out of every 10 men are taking care of children that are not biologically theirs, yet the law compels to pay child support for the wife's infidelity and another man's child. (3) half of her husbands retirement and other assets, long after the relationship has ended. (4) child support (5) alimony (6) jail time (7) visitation rights for your own children (8) years of the man's hard work and dedication to his family destroyed by her divorce attorney (9) women causing dramatic scenes at the man's job to discredit him, possibly causing him to lose his job or be denied a promotion. (10) wives destroying her husband's personal property, like burning his clothes or vandalizing his automobile or destroying his stamp collection or model cars. (11) the majority of domestic abuse and violence, is impose by wives and girl friends on their husbands, which the mainstream media does not report. (12) women have so much legal authority and power in a marriage, that society views the husband as marginal or emasculated (13) in today's 21st century, the male wedding band symbolizes the proverbial "ball and chain" always attached to the husband (14) very, very few males are heard stating that they are 'happily married" men, only if they are in the presence of their wife. (15) over 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife, that's 7 out of 10, (so much for sacred wedding vows, that women love !)..........well I could go on and on, and this comment probably won't be posted because the internet is making men more aware of the legal dangers that they face when they sign the marriage certificate. The institution of marriage is designed to teach husbands to "know their place" or suffer the legal consequences imposed by their loving wives !
    TRUE WOMAN
    posted by ERIC DONOVAN
    on Sunday, July 13, 2014 at 5:10 pm
  215. and p.s. to the previous comment above....almost all women have a covert inclination to "change" or "fix" a man and his idiosyncrasies ! So I highly suggest that all women and men who are praying for a mate....read Matthew chapter 7, verses 3, 4, and 5 which says.......and why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye ?..................Or how can you say to your brother,"Let me remove the speck from your eye"; and look, a plank is in your own eye ?..............."Hypocrite ! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.................So if you are wondering why it is taking God so very long to send you the marriage mate, that you are praying for, then you'd better take a step back and look deeper into the mirror ! clearly, the problem may be you.
    TRUE WOMAN
    posted by ERIC DONOVAN
    on Sunday, July 13, 2014 at 6:55 pm
  216. Dear women, I'm going through yet another break up. I wrote here about my first one, when I loved a man for three years but he cheated on me with an older woman. About 6 months ago a friend of mine connected me with with someone we know. He's a man we grew up knowing as her brothers best friend. I'm 24 and he's 28. We started talking then dating, but it's long distance as we live 8 hours apart. Everything has been great and we fell in love. However, a few days ago we were talking about his little neice. She's beautiful but he mentioned she's going to have that big nose. We're both middle eastern and that's a common trait. So I laughed and said ya we all have that. He mentioned that his sister and cousin got a nose job and I could get it done its a simple procedure...and that I'm gorgeous but would be 100 times more gorgeous. In shock I asked "so you want me to get a nose job?" He casually said "ya I would like that." I was hurt and explained a lot to him why it's wrong and hurtful to even mention. He apologized that I got hurt but says it shouldn't be hurtful and it's not a big deal, because he was simply stating his opinion. After hours of discussion I decided to take a break. I told him I can't be with a man who's insensitive to my feelings and doesn't love me wholly for who I am. When we first met I really thought this could be the one...now I'm just confused. He's insisting that he didn't mean it in a hurtful way and I shouldn't have been hurt. He also says I don't take his opinion into consideration and this is an example. Any advice ladies?
    posted by browneyes
    on Saturday, July 26, 2014 at 1:34 pm
  217. Browneyes,
    When it comes to our beauty and how others see us, it can be a very sensitive issue. Sometimes guys say things that we take very personally but that was not their intent. God created you just as you are. Your true beauty comes from the inside no matter how beautiful you are on the outside.

    I want to encourage you to forgive this man and not hold what he said in your heart and let it lead to bitterness. I’m not saying that what he said nor how he said it is right. But I am saying that if you don’t forgive as Christ did (Eph. 4:31-32) you are setting yourself up for much pain in your life. Bitterness is like a cancer that grows and affects every relationship you have.

    There’s nothing wrong with stepping back from your relationship and taking some time to reevaluate and work through the pain in your heart. Pray about what he said and ask God to reveal what’s deep in your heart. Ask God what He would have you do in this situation and in this relationship. Surrender it to Him and be willing to trust Him with the outcome.

    I encourage you to do all you can to talk through this together - perhaps even getting an older godly couple involved to walk through this with both of you. If this man is a godly man and you love him, then working through this may be the best way to handle your pain. Your true beauty will come through as you do all you can to reconcile your friendship. It may never go beyond that, but at least you can then walk away knowing that you’ve worked through the difficulties in a godly way. I’m pausing to pray for you, for your courage and for your ability to keep your eyes on Christ as you walk through this difficult situation.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Monday, July 28, 2014 at 6:12 pm
  218. Dear God, pls help me to find the right man in my life.A man who will love me and my children,Take care of us snd provide a good blesssed home.A Godly man with agood sense of humor.A good step fathet to my kids.please , Dear Lord change my title before the end of the year from miss to mrs..pray for me all.God bless every one here.Amen.
    posted by Jane s.
    on Wednesday, July 30, 2014 at 1:32 pm
  219. Jane,
    I'm honored to pray for you today.

    Father, God, would You please draw near to Jane as she draws near to You in prayer. Be the source of her strength and the focus of her hope. Draw her to Your Word and use it to keep her eyes on You. Give her the courage to trust You with the fulfillment of her dreams and not demand that they be met. Please continue to provide for her and her children’s every need. Please use this unmet longing of her heart to grow her in her faith and love for You. We thank You that she knows You and can trust You to help her. Thank You in advance for what You are doing and will do in her heart and life through this difficult season of her life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

    Serving Him,
    Lorree
    posted by Lorree, with the TW Team
    on Thursday, July 31, 2014 at 4:09 pm
  220. Hi Candice,

    God bless you for posting this article. I've been waiting on my KNIGHT in SHINING ARMOR, also known as BOAZ for 18 years, have faith that God can bless me with my mate. But the key is putting God first as indicated in Matthew 6:33 Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you. Trusting in God at his word, and not being anxious for anything.

    I know that God is and has healed me emotionally, so that when the time comes, I won't depend on my husband to always have to build me up and reassure me. I know that that's God's job, to heal old wounds, and for me to stand tall and know who I am in Christ. So I can totally relate about the crying and phone calls to my aunts and friends asking when would my time come.

    This is a season for preparation, and growing closer to God and seeking a personal relationship with the Lord.

    Thank you
    Valerie
    posted by Valerie Perkins
    on Wednesday, August 20, 2014 at 10:02 pm
  221. I written to this site before for another article about marriage. Since the last time that I written, I have grown in more wisdom and all. I thought God had this specific person picked out for me, but it wasn't him. When it was revealed that he was getting married to someone else and I didn't cry or nothing, but felt blessed. The guy follows the world standards not God's. I am truly happy that I trusted in God and stayed on the same path as him than to chase a man that keeps the worldly standards to his heart. I am in my early 30's and waiting for Mr. Right and I am in the final phase or very near of God bringing my spouse to him. I became so much wiser, stronger, and more from the last time I written here which is couple of years. I feel so ready for marriage like a cake that is almost ready to come out of the oven. I trust God's timing and everything is good. I know he will deliver a Godly man for me as promised. When I was 13 years old, I made a promise to God to never have a boyfriend and that in return he would pick out my spouse. God molded me and still molds me. I never had a boyfriend and wait for God to deliver me the Godly man. I really feel so good in my life trusting God and following his footsteps though it's very hard in today's world. I did the right thing and now I wait to get answered. Hopefully in the near future I write back saying how God delivered and gave me my spouse.
    posted by God's Girl
    on Sunday, August 24, 2014 at 10:40 pm
  222. @ Eric Donovan Thank you for your words of wisdom and the bible verse. Yes, people should focus on themselves and ask God to fix them. There are people who wonder why they aren't married and at times it has to do with them having some obstacle or something that God wants to remove first. People need to ask God to mold them to the person that He wants them to be and focus on that. It's good to pray for a spouse and ask God to mold them to the person that he wants them to be. It's God's duty not ours to mold someone else. Follow God, work on what he is doing for you, pray for your spouse, and wait for the Lord according to his timing for your spouse.
    posted by God's Girl
    on Sunday, August 24, 2014 at 10:55 pm
  223. @ Eric Donovan I read only the second comment and not the first one about legal disadvantages of marriage for men. What you said is true and there are many men who do not want to get married or because the first divorce went ugly they do not want to get married again. I know men in their late 20 and 30's who are afraid of marriage and they wonder what will happen to them in the future. Respect is a two way street and unfortunately there are men and women who do whatever they want without looking at the consequences of their actions on their own lives and those who they impact. You are correct of what you are saying about the legal disadvantages if the man get divorced. Western nations favor women over men in court even if the woman is at fault or not the stable to care for the children she still gets the children because of the male bashing stereotypes of men by feminists and media. Finding Godly men and women are like finding a needle in the haystack these days. I have been supportive to both men and women encouraging them to focus on developing a relationship with God and let God fix the problems. I appreciate you Eric giving a male's perspective because it's important to hear two sides of the story than just one.
    posted by God's Girl
    on Sunday, August 24, 2014 at 11:24 pm
  224. im inlove with this guy his my officemate and im 35..but im not his type I really like him for 5 years :)..seen him with his girlfriend..one day i felt like someone whisphered on my ears saying " dont worry soon hell be yours" it bought calmness on my mind and by now you can say im crazy :) but I dont know im on to that....been praying for him over this years .. i know 1 one day he will love me I know that, that time is near i will finally have him in my life:) ... FAITH+HOPE+LOVE...
    posted by lissy
    on Thursday, September 4, 2014 at 8:35 am
  225. My parents didn't teach me about the importance of putting God at the center of my life. Our family went through all the motions of going to church every Sunday, but my parents didn't teach me at all about right and wrong. I was basically raised by TV and the secular culture. My father has been unfaithful to my mother for probably over 25 years, seeing prostitutes and going to strip bars. I was raised seeing this and mistrusting him, although we have never been allowed to openly acknowledge what goes on. In short, my idea of what relationships between men and women should be like was deeply disordered and I had no idea of what a Christian marriage should truly be or what I should look for in a husband. I had no idea that I should even be looking for a husband who would honor me and in whom I would get a glimpse of God's love. I am working on forgiving my parents and moving forward to take responsibility for my own life and actions. I'm ashamed that I am still bitter about this, and need to see them with God's eyes and let it go.

    I have had three relationships with men that were not honorable, and in which I allowed myself to be used and disrespected because I was so desperate for someone to love me. I experienced a conversion by the grace of God and since then became engaged to a Christian man, who passed away from cancer four years ago. I have not been on a date since. I am 42 and the chances of me finding a husband who puts God first in his life appear to be extremely slim. I am so lonely. It's hard watching other people have what appear to be wonderful lives with loving spouses and children. I feel like at this point everyone realizes that I've been rejected and am left on the shelf.

    My greatest desire in life is to love and be loved by an honorable Christian man and to get married. I have tried to reconcile myself to the fact that it seems like God's plan is that I remain single and serve him in that way. It's such a deep desire to be married, though, that it is really hard to let go of it. Reading this about praying for your husband, and everyone's responses, has been so helpful, thank you all so much. I am realizing that there are things I need to work on in order to be ready for my husband to come to me, if that is God's will. I have so many character defects and things to surrender to God.
    posted by Roberta
    on Saturday, September 13, 2014 at 8:21 pm
  226. Dear Roberta,

    Thank you for sharing a bit your journey with us. How grateful I am to know you have experienced the grace and mercy of the Risen Savior, Roberta. Truly there is no greater joy than to place our hope and trust in Him.

    Your life has indeed held much heartache and suffering, dear friend. I’m sorry for the grief you have known in the death of your precious fiance. How I pray your heart continues to be comforted by the glorious hope of heaven and an eternity free of sin, disease and suffering.

    As you continue to process the pain and loss related to your childhood and the daily loneliness related to the unfulfilled longing for marriage, I encourage you to work through Nancy’s book Seeking Him. I’d be happy to send you a copy of this resource as our gift, Roberta. You may email your contact information at info@reviveourhearts.com if you’re interested. You might be interested in listening to the Radio Broadcasts related to this study beginning here: (http://tinyurl.com/737un4w).

    Praying your heart is strengthened in His grace today. Now may the God of Hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you abound in hope – by the power of the Holy Spirit ( Romans 15:13).

    Carrie
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Monday, September 15, 2014 at 5:04 pm
  227. For health
    work
    To sale my house to move to a beter area to pay my debts outstanding
    and very spaces place where i can also make a praying place
    posted by sandra
    on Tuesday, October 7, 2014 at 9:13 am
  228. For my daughter health and two sons all 3 for good work.for my health i had a gallbader remove now they they going to scope me on the 16/10/2014 for herina please pray for me i am so weak and stay tired please pray for my family.
    email
    posted by sandra
    on Tuesday, October 7, 2014 at 9:22 am
  229. Bless you, dear Sandra. Let me pray for you now, as our Prayer Team has prayed for you and your needs. "Heavenly Father, You know the deep needs of Sandra and her children. I pray You will give Sandra strength and healing. You, O LORD, are the Great Physician. Bring comfort and ease to Sandra's body, and be with her through the testing that is to come. Strengthen her, O Father, and give her comfort and rest for the healing. "Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, And therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you...How blessed are all those who long for Him." (Isa. 30:18) I pray for her daughter and her health needs also. Be the Provider for each of her sons and daughter and for herself. You, O God, can work their circumstances where Your glory is revealed from Heaven on earth...“I will show My holiness to those who are near Me, and I will reveal My glory before all the people.” (Lev. 10:3) Restore hope and peace and grace to each person and circumstance. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen."

    May the Lord bless you and keep you, Sandra, and make His face to shine upon you and give you His peace (Num. 6:24-26).
    posted by Sarah, with the TW Team
    on Wednesday, October 8, 2014 at 5:14 pm
  230. I thank the Lord God Almighty for this message , may God richly bless you, I have a question to ask. I am still single and I have been praying about my spouse to be using the same concept. now someone told me that its now time to take action, they said I should be able to go out so that man can see me and locate me, don"t just sit indoors waiting God to give you yr husband. Is it proper?
    posted by rutendo
    on Sunday, October 26, 2014 at 10:53 pm
  231. rutendo,

    Your desire to follow the LORD is evident in what you've shared, friend. We praise the LORD for your heart that is seeking to honor Him in all your ways.

    Waiting upon the LORD’s direction in any area of our lives never assumes passivity, but rather active engagement in the work of the Kingdom.

    Yes, you engage in serving and ministering in this season of “waiting”, rutendo, not in pursuing a man, but in trusting the LORD to work in His timing and in His ways as you live, work, and minister in your family, church and community. You’ll find a number of practical insights into this in Nancy’s interview ( http://tinyurl.com/oafoqrs) with Carolyn McCulley.

    Press on, dear friend! May you be used mightily of the LORD as you wait upon Him in this area.
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Monday, October 27, 2014 at 1:37 pm
  232. hello,
    I am 22 years old. I grew up in a christian home and have never lost my faith in God. I did however make some very poor decisions with two of my ex boyfriends. I had sex at the age of 15with my first real boyfriend. i was young and got talked into it. I met a boy when I was 17 and had sex with him after 6 months of dating. he wasnt a christian. he actually claimed to be an atheist. I should have left when i found that out. After getting out of that 3 year relationship that ended in lots and lots of tears, i knew i needed a man of God. I prayed and prayed and prayed after this inccident. it seemed as if i had gotten lost and was finding my way back to God.
    I have been out of that relationship for almost 2 years now and I havent found anyone. Ive visited different churches to try and meet someone m age but have had no luck. I want to find a good christian man that will help me become the women God intended me to and I want to help him become the Man God intended him to. I am wanting a relationship so bad, but with the right person.
    I know life isnt fair. but my friend is not a christian and is premiscuous(Please dont get me wrong. i love her very much and am not trying to talk bad about her) but she has a good guy that has his head on straight and treats her so good and she is unfaithful to him. they have two kids and one on the way. and he was talking about proposing to her. why cant i get that? I want a good guy. I want someone to love me and take away this loliness. I pray that God uses me however he intended too.and I pray that he introduces a man that will change my life for the better and that will encourage me. Im so confused as to why I dont have anyone in my life.
    Please pray for me to understand this. and to take away the jealousy that lives in my heart. I want to be married and have a family, but if it is Gods will for me to stay single and worship him. I will do so!
    posted by Sara
    on Monday, November 10, 2014 at 1:17 am
  233. Dear Sara,

    Your desire to be in right relationship with God is good. God has placed that desire in your heart, friend. It is God who will help you become the woman He’s created you to be in Christ. His love is what will is what will bring peace and joy to your heart.

    Spend time in His Word, Sara. Get to know the Savior and His love. If He has marriage for you He will bring the right man across your path at the right time. Focus your heart and mind on Him.

    Are you in a good Bible-preaching church? Are you in His Word daily?

    We would be happy to send you a copy of a Bible Study entitled Seeking Him to help you in your journey, Sara. If you’d like to receive this resource you may email me at info@reviveourhearts.com.

    Praying for you today, friend.

    “Wait on the LORD; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD (Ps. 27:14).”
    posted by Carrie Gaul
    on Wednesday, November 12, 2014 at 11:25 am
  234. Dear sisters in The Lord,
    My heart & our Lord's heart is affected with the cries and needs of your heart. It's a major trial to long for a godly mate and not find one. I'm 63 yrs old, was married for many years to a Christian and had children, but then my husband divorced me and later died. I have been praying for a husband for 21 years and haven't had a boyfriend either. My longings for a mate are just as deep as when I was 21, but I keep trusting The Lord to meet my needs and am thankful that He is using this trial to seek Him more fervently. I believe The Lord will meet my need, but most importantly I want to please Him and look forward to being His bride for eternity. I don't remember all your names, but will pray for you! Walk with your trial one minute, one hour, one day at a time, & the pain isn't so great. Learn, as I have been learning, to thank The Lord for everything. I recommend Nancy DeMoss' book, Choosing Gratitude!
    posted by Judi
    on Thursday, November 13, 2014 at 11:32 pm

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