Longing for Love

Kimberly Wagner

Kimberly Wagner | 10.18.11
Twitter: @KimberlyWagner7


Thirst . . . a longing for more . . . an unfulfilled craving . . . these were the desires that drove her from man to man. And yet, five husbands and a live-in lover failed to provide what she was looking for. This woman in John four had been seeking all her life for love, searching for someone to fill the empty places of her heart.

Her choice to look to anyone other than God for true pleasure reminds me of so many women I’ve spoken with. They are driven by a longing for love. Some were abandoned as children by their parents, some have known the rejection of being discarded by lovers or husbands, some have turned to lesbian relationships . . . all in search of a lasting love.

But this love that we’re all driven to pursue can only be found in one Man. He is the only complete satisfaction to the insatiable longing to be loved. He is the quenching for every parched heart.

The woman at the well in John four knew enough about religious things to throw out a question to Jesus about worship, but her heart had never experienced true worship. She knew about the Messiah, but she’d never met Jesus.

If we could visit with her a bit, I think she might describe her encounter with Christ in words like this: “The answer to my cravings was falling in love with Jesus and having my affection completely set on Him. Satisfaction in Christ is it. Before, I only had head knowledge, now I have a deep love relationship with Him.”

He is calling you to come to Him. If you are thirsty, weary, and tired of searching, respond to His call. Have you received the living water He offers? If you’ve never experienced heart surrender, please consider accepting His offer of living water today.


  1. Dearest Kim!

    A good friend shared a testimony at our church meeting on Sunday that was almost the same as your post above. She had been meditating of John 4 and realizing that only Jesus can meet her deepest needs, her deepest thirst. I plan to share your post with her! (I know the message is true for me, too, and all of us!)

    Have a great day, dear Kimberly! Ps. 118:24; Jer. 31:3

    In His love,
    posted by Leslie S.
    on Tuesday, October 18, 2011 at 9:45 am
  2. Dear Kim,

    God answer in mysterious ways. HE used your blog to provide for a response that I was seeking for and didn't know I was lookin for. The LORD is restoring my marriage and in that process I get impatient and desperate. This message gave me the refreshment my soul needed.

    Bless be the LORD!
    posted by Karen B.
    on Tuesday, October 18, 2011 at 12:59 pm
  3. I came to Christ with an agenda. I had not been able to find a husband, and the love and security that meant to me through my own efforts (very similar to the woman at the well, except I was never married to any of the many men who have passed through my life). I finally surrendered to Christ all of my self-efforts to meet my need for love and accepted Him as my Savior. I thought when that happened God would finally provide that which I longed for. I thought that He had a wonderful godly man waiting in the wings for me to come to that place of surrender, but He has not. What Iíve learned is that what He has for me is Himself. Iíve fought against accepting Him and giving up the dream of love and marriage for a long time now.

    Some days are easier than others and Iíve slowing been seeing more clearly, totally with His help, how very much I have in Him. Iíve had difficult days of bitterness and giving in to anger and resentment too, but praise God they are less and less frequent. Being single for 56 years has always seemed like such a burden to me, but recently Iíve been able, again I know only through His help, to see how very blessed I am in being able to plan my time off around Him. I can make Jesus, my Spiritual Husband, the focus of my life and I have the space in my life to do that. Weíve had such sweet times together too. :D
    posted by Sue
    on Tuesday, October 18, 2011 at 1:25 pm
  4. I can so much relate to the longing and yearning to be loved.I have searched my whole life to find the filling of a heart abandoned as a child by parents through their divorce and a childhood without a mother, childhood abuse and neglect. The search from relationships one after the other that never worked out.And these have been with other women.In search of maternal love and connection.I have grown much closer now to the Lord and find more of the empty places in my heart filled by Him, as I strive to walk daily with Him.
    posted by Paula
    on Tuesday, October 18, 2011 at 6:33 pm
  5. Hello Kimberly,

    Wonderful to 'see' you here again. Hope your granddaughter is growing and glowing with cuteness. I was thrilled to read you leading people to the gospel today and because I LOVE to see the gospel laid out clearly, I clicked the link.

    Would you, dear to my heart folks, mind a suggestion for that link?

    Some people might think that first bit (page) is all there is meant to be read. May I suggest a thing to click that says 'next page'? For those of us out there on the internet that: 1) might not notice those links all go together (it might not be intuitive) and 2) For those who may never have heard the full gospel story before, it would be a sad thing if they thought that first page was all they were meant to read on the topic. ;c)

    Thank you!!! For making the gospel clearly available here on your website. God bless your dear hearts. :c)

    [Side note: Leslie, wonderful to 'see' you, you dear encourager you!! *hugs*]

    Peace, love and blessings,
    posted by Jenny
    on Wednesday, October 19, 2011 at 12:02 am
  6. I have a wonderful family and I am still single. I never dated a guy or had a boyfriend, but asked God to be my everything and pick out the right guy for me. I made a covenant to God at the age of 12 or 13 years old to him that I will never date and that he will be my matchmaker. I don't know how that happened at a young age, but I believe God made that happen. I consider God as my husband and every person should consider God as their foundation in marriage, in their single life, and everything. I consider God as my True Love and the Ultimate Hottie of the Universe (I know He likes when I think or say that) He is my Sunshine or my Baby for eternity though I have ups and downs with him, but he remains loyal to me no matter what even if there are times where I feel so mad or go through tough times. I talk to God all the time and it's like a normal conversation, but I have a deep love for him. I do sing praise songs, recite prayers, and do all that stuff, but I talk to him a lot though whether in the car, in my room, at a park, etc whether in my mind or by myself.

    The problem today in the world is that many people do not have this deep bond with God. It's not just people who have been abandoned, had one parent, or something, but even in intact families there are people who don't have deep bonds with the Lord. Even successful people have turn to other things than the Lord.

    It really explains why we see the issues like individuals questioning their identities starting at a young age, women having relationships with women, men to men (though I respect gay/lesbians very much), high divorce rates, addiction, people who are sexually active, depression, crimes, cyber bullying, pornography, martial affairs, pride or ego, people after material wealth, being showoffs on social networking sites, competition in beauty or feel they need to look like models or celebrities, etc. Now people look up to famous people as role models especially among people who watch these reality shows, etc.

    The problem is that people think religion is either a joke or just as religion. God is about relationships, it's not about religion or anything, but about that person or people having a relationship with God.

    There are many People who have replaced God with Facebook, technologies, clubs/bars or party life, vacations, shopping, money, college degrees, status, beauty, and bad friends, bad boyfriends/girl friends, lovers, and more. How many people actually take God seriously like by communicating with him, learning about him, becoming a better person, doing service work, being aware of local to global problems and doing something about it like supporting charities, signing petitions, doing neighborhood cleanups, donating blood, etc. How many people ask God, how can I help you or God you can talk to me about your pains, fears, ideas, etc?

    People need to watch this show that is on YouTube that used to be on CBS called Joan of Arcadia. It's about a teenage girl like 16 years old who encounters God on a regular basis as a person. God comes in forms of a cute guy, goth guy, child, repair man, an old lady, etc. The show really shows the meaning it's about God having a relationship with this person. He molds her into the individual he wants her to be and to face challenges in order to bring positive in the world. CBS canceled the show when God tells her to combat issues that the bad individual Ryan Hunter had done. It's really a great show to watch on youtube. Watch season s01 episode e01. There are 2 seasons worth of shows. CBS canceled it because it was controversial or something.

    Today, like it always has been throughout the years the adversary tries to get people to do things that are wrong and steer people away from having a great bond with God and becoming part of His army. The evil one is trying to get many people to side with him and to destroy the good that God has done from people, relationships like marriages, animals, nature, etc. Bad wants to destroy whatever is good. It doesn't matter through divorce, through depression, addiction, terrorism, or even suicide.

    The thing that people don't think about is that the evil one is all about self preservation although he recruits a lot of people that do bad to give him power and develop his army of bad people, but the people don't realize he doesn't care if his bad army die or get destroyed or suffer in life. It's his greed and he doesn't care about no one, but himself. If he is against the Creator he doesn't care about no one whether good or bad, but himself. So people need to realize that the evil one doesn't care if you go to prison for life and wind up in hell. All he cares is that he gets power and to get back at God. With this in mind, anything that is opposite the good you know the devil is trying to recruit his army.

    Do yourself a favor and realize he don't care about no one so go follow the One who does which is God. Don't replace God with clothes, makeup products, partying, etc. Instead dress modestly, do service work, learn about God and communicate with him, don't have sex outside marriage or cohabit, etc and become the person that God wants you to be. Ask God to direct you or mold you to the person he wants you to be.

    It's not easy trying to live a good life on earth or be a good person. We live in very challenging times whether people are doing destructive behaviors everyday and don't care about the consequences. We see that throughout the world to oppression of women and children, deforestation/pollution, corporate greed, government corruption, to homes problems like alcohol or drug addictions divorces/ affairs, neglected children, and more. Do yourself a favor and turn to God and keep talking with him and walk with HIM.
    posted by Godsgirl
    on Wednesday, October 19, 2011 at 1:33 am
  7. Something He has shown me this past year. ONLY He can fill the void that He put there. I am a true example of a woman who spent most of her life trying everything but my God to fill that ache and emptiness. It was only with surrender and obedience plus relying on Him to be my strength and not my own will or effort that I found the power (His power) to succeed on this walk. Something I am trying to teach my kids..... of course they are going to have to go through some "trials" to really get this character and relationship with their Creator cemented for them but at least they will know and hopefully remember what I taught them when the difficulties come.... Thanks Kim, great post!
    posted by Barbara
    on Thursday, October 20, 2011 at 7:16 pm
  8. Dearest Kim,

    The Lord brought you to my mind this morning. I believe He has His hand upon your life; His beauty; His tranquility; even in the midst of trials you may be facing. Thought I'd jot this quick note, in case you needed encouragement today.

    From Ps. 36:

    Thy mercy, O LORD, is in the heavens; and thy faithfulness reacheth unto the clouds.

    Thy righteousness is like the great mountains; thy judgments are a great deep: O LORD, thou preservest man and beast.

    How excellent is thy lovingkindness, O God! therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of thy wings.

    They shall be abundantly satisfied with the fatness of thy house; and thou shalt make them drink of the river of thy pleasures.

    For with thee is the fountain of life: in thy light shall we see light.

    O continue thy lovingkindness unto them that know thee; and thy righteousness to the upright in heart.

    In His love,
    posted by Leslie S.
    on Saturday, October 22, 2011 at 10:25 am
  9. Dearest Friends,

    Thank you for your comments and sharing your hearts. So thankful to know the Lord is faithfully bringing me to mind and that you're interceding in prayer for me.

    Leslie, you are such a blessing! I needed to be reminded of the truth from Psalm 36.

    For any who may check back and read this before the Revive 11 Conference (Nov. 4--5), please be in prayer for the speakers and those attending. I'm very burdened for the women who will be there and desire for God to meet with us. Please add this event to your prayer list!

    Love to each of you ladies!
    Pressing in because He is worthy! (Heb 12:1-4)
    posted by Kimberly Wagner
    on Monday, October 24, 2011 at 1:09 pm

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