Marriage in Fairytale-ville

Paula Hendricks

Paula Hendricks | 08.04.09
Twitter: @PaulaWrites678


Cinderella, Snow White, and The Little Mermaid all lived happily ever after . . . once they married. But that was Fairytale-ville. 

Here in The Real World, singles often dream of marriage with stars in their eyes, but married women remember their single days with longing. It wasn’t long after they rode off into the sunset that they realized that this marriage wouldn’t bring eternal bliss.

Whether it’s the fault of the forgetful fairy godmother or her malfunctioning magic wand—beautiful marriages don’t just happen. Your prince is a sinner (as is the princess he married). That’s why, during the month of August, we want to focus on:

“Honor[ing] the sacredness, purity, and permanence of the marriage covenant—whether ours or others” (commitment #10 of the True Woman Manifesto).

Married or not, I really hope you’ll engage in the conversation this month.

To the single: Please stick with us! I’ll be writing from the single’s perspective all month long.  Also, I think you’ll benefit from what others are saying about marriage—if not to equip yourself for the future, then to equip you to encourage and pray for your married friends.

To the happily married: I’m so glad you have a good marriage. Even so, there’s always room for improvement, and we want to help keep you from “coasting.” Stay with us this month for practical tools that will bless your marriage even more. 

To the unhappily married: There is hope for your marriage. If you are among those who believe God raised Jesus from the dead, then you know that He specializes in bringing dead things to life. Would you take a second right now and join me in asking God to give you hope and help this month through this blog? Please don’t give up!

Which of the three categories do you fall into? Leave a quick comment and let us know—we’re curious. 

PS: This month we’re teaming up with FamilyLife, one of the partners of the True Woman ’10 Conferences, to bring you excellent, practical content. They’ve also kindly agreed to provide an incredible giveaway. More on that soon . . . 

Topics: Marriage, Singleness


  1. hi, i am looking forward to learning n being equipped this month thru dis blog.... i am a single lady n practical informaation in preparation for marriage will be a blessing to me...God bless u
    posted by CERINA MUKIRI
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 6:46 am
  2. Happily married, recognizing my husband and myself just as you described above. I always enjoy learning how to improve our relationship. Thanks
    posted by MaLinda Eaton
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 7:03 am
  3. Happily married for 2 years and we have 1 child, who is 11 months old. We are serving on the mission field living in India. We are very happily married but by no means perfect. Everyday we are having to pratice forgivness toward oneanother. I feel lonley @ home with our daughter while he is doing ministry. But I am thankful I can free him up to do the work he is called to. Fnding joy in my lonley situation is. dificult. But all for the Kingdom and glory to God.
    posted by Erin Thomas
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 7:19 am
  4. Looking for encouragement in marriage. Sounds as if this fills the bill. Married, 16 years with 3 kids at home. Often stressed by the differences between he and I. Have a hard time trusting his leadership since throughout the years he's often done things that I don't see as helpful for us or our family.
    posted by Jeanette Lymburner
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 7:44 am
  5. Happily married! I am sure that it is because my husband seeks the Lord faithfully and fervently. I am encouraged by that and I know I can do better! God is gracious to me!
    posted by Debbie
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 7:45 am
  6. Happily married 29 1/2 years. My passion is marriage and helping others find how marriage is about Holiness, not just happiness...
    posted by lisa simmons
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:00 am
  7. We will be celebrating 38 years in a few weeks and there have been both moments of Fairytale-ville and others have been a horror picture. As I look back at living through children's major illness, job loss, moving 17 times, church ups and downs, extended family issues, homeschooling, financial strains, etc., the only thing that brought us through each crisis was honoring the covenant and not looking to the other for happiness.

    Now that our children are out of the house and raising their own chldren it's easy and comfortable to coast along. I'm looking forward on how to improve our marriage. Like my aging body, our marriage could stand exercise now more than ever!
    posted by Julie
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:02 am
  8. I am very happily married - now. I have not always been nor has my husband. We faced some very difficult waters - we are opposites, came with plenty of baggage, etc. We are the living, testifying proof that God is a restorer of relationships. It is not without great effort, sacrifice, seeking His word, and trusting Him. I thank God almost daily for the husband I have! I am so looking forward to this thread.
    posted by Kristi Longino
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:10 am
  9. I thank the Lord for guiding me to come across this page because my marriage needs hope. I k=need to be reminder of Gods promises.
    posted by Mary
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:14 am
  10. Not so happily married at the moment. I have been married for 14 years with 3 children. We are heading toward separating. I am just trying to be faithful to God and trust in him. I pray that he works on my husband as well.
    posted by Alana Padgett
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:19 am
  11. Happily married 3 weeks. I just got married and we a re living a dream, that I know will get difficult sometimes. Our prayer is to love one another as we are, improve everyday our relationship with our god and stick to the promise we made inf ront of Him the day we both say YES to marriage.
    posted by Erika from Dominican Republic
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:41 am
  12. I've been married for 36 years and have three grown children. We've had some wonderful times and some terrible disappointments. I'm most grateful for the fact that I married a man who loves God with his whole heart, and it is our shared faith that has been our hope and anchor. We are still learning to live with each other in a way that honors God and sometimes do that really well and other times not so well. I think part of our success is due to the fact that we accept exactly that -- a relationship is never static. It's a learning process, a challenge and a glorious adventure.
    posted by Lynda Toner
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:49 am
  13. Single. Always wanted to be married and have a family but only in God's timing and God's man. 35 years and not getting any younger but that is not lost on my soveriegn Lord. I know if and when it does happen it will still be a lot of work and adjustment. Thank you for any Biblically based practical insight you can give. I hope that with all that the Lord has blessed me with learning over the years I'll be able to put into practice one day! My heart goes out to those of you who are struggling or coasting in your marriage. May the Lord give you the courage and strength to be who He wants you to be, to love as you have made the covenant to love --even when the feeling isn't there, may the Lord be the Lifter of your head and the joy of your heart.
    posted by Rachel
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 8:51 am
  14. Single and wondering! =)
    posted by Jessica
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:00 am
  15. I am single and looking forward to being challenged and encouraged this month!!! Thank you for all that you do in writing these up and all the time that you spend!!! Jesus bless you richly!!!
    posted by Elizabeth
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:02 am
  16. Happily married and don't want to COAST! I have a wonderful husband - and between wanting to give him the world and give all I've got to the Lord, that can just feel a little stressful at times, and make me feel like I wish I were doing a better job day in and day out..
    posted by Annie
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:25 am
  17. Happily married, but watching marriages of those closest to us disintegrate. It's exhausting. I'm looking forward to any words of encouragement that can be afforded this month!!
    posted by M
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:32 am
  18. Very happily married for almost 14 years. We have 2 children who are both now over 10, and one that went home to the Lord over 7 years ago. Our marriage has only gotten better and better over the years, through financial chaos and losing a child. Our Jesus is our strength and our hope and our joy - without Him, we would not be where we are.
    posted by Marcia
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:32 am
  19. Thank you for what I know will be a very helpful series of posts! I have been happily married for 10 years, and do not want to start coasting. I would love to know how to keep intimacy a priority in the midst of our busy home, church, and work lives.
    posted by Jessica
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:45 am
  20. Single and still hopeful!! Preparing and learning as much as I can in the meantime.
    posted by Leslie
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:51 am
  21. Happily married to my favorite pastor, a godly man who loves God and His Word. We've been in the pastorate almost 25 years and have seen many marriages dissolve, in the church. Looking forward to the blog posts this month for encouragement for myself and help to encourage others. It is heartbreaking to see marriages break up and even more so when it is people we love and are a part of our fellowship.
    posted by JL
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:54 am
  22. Happily married - now - but not always so. I long to help others in their marriages because I've seen what God is able to do in a faltering marriage. He is able to make it exceedingly abundantly better than anything I dreamed possible - not without hard work and dedication - but ALL things are possible with God.
    posted by Barbara
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 10:03 am
  23. Married 31+ yrs. It has not been what I envisioned. The movie Fireproof and the Fireproof journal of things you do for your mate, along with lots of prayer and deliberately focusing on God has restored my joy in marriage. Is is perfet? No!! but I am not as critical, and focusing more on God rather than on my husband's "faults" . (I have plenty of faults, too, but I have not seen them as clearly when I focused on my husband instead of on God).
    We still do not read the Bible together or pray together as I thought we both desired to do when we married. I have tried being my husband's holy spirit, but only THE Holy Spirit can fill that role! I have learned to wait upon the Lord, and to trust HIM!
    posted by JMA
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 10:13 am
  24. Married 30 years, happily for the moment. I agree with earlier comment that only honoring your commitment to God really holds you together through all the major crises of life. How about a category somewhere in between? (LOL)
    posted by Joetta Witkowski
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 10:16 am
  25. Happily married - NOW. At first we were not walking with the Lord and had both come out of painful divorce. After 5 years we both gave our hearts completely to God and since then it has been a wonderful but not always easy journey... 2 of our 3 kids are following God's ways and one will hopefully, soon. God has been so good to us and has taken broken souls, hearts and minds and is in the mysterious process of restoring, reviving and transforming them. My husband and I grow closer as time goes on but the biggest help I have been shown is that NO man can fill the void in my heart and fulfill all my needs. Only God! He is the first love and relationship and without that I cannot do anything in love towards my husband or family... I am looking forward to this with greta joy and hope that I will be able to offer encouragement as well as glean some advice!! :)
    posted by Barbara
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 10:31 am
  26. I'm single at this point by choice. After observing my parents' marriage up close and personal, there are a lot of lies plaguing my views of men and a covenant relationship with one. While many women imagine the fairytale coming true at the altar, I think my heart believes deep down somewhere that it all starts to unravel when you say, "I do." I'm letting the Lord reteach me truth, but it's a long, slow process.

    It'll be helpful to me to hear how others walk through difficult things in marriage without becoming numb, bitter, or devastating their spouse in the process. I really want to believe truth!
    posted by kate
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 10:35 am
  27. We're happily married empty nesters who are new grandparents and are helping my inlaws become acclimated to a new home and new town after 46 years in the same home. They are blessed to have good health and sharp minds, but are being confronted with not being as physically strong and agile as they once were. Being needed by both older and younger generations made me realize that I needed to make an extra effort to be 'there' for my husband; and I think he is making the same effort. God has blessed me with a very strong believer for my husband. Life would be very different for us without Christ. I'm looking forward to this series.
    posted by Deb Wolf
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 10:47 am
  28. Sadly we struggled the last 9 3/4 years to be "happy"... seems a fairytale truely that it could be... will listen but not knowing how a hard heart and a prideful spirit can ever be "one".
    posted by n
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 11:23 am
  29. Not really happy, but can't say we are unhappy either. We are struggling right now, but there has been progress. There is so much to be thankful for and I thank God everyday that he has given us another chance. God is allowing us to celebrate our 28th anniversary at the end of this month.
    posted by Joyce
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 11:38 am
  30. Not so happy. Married 22 years and I am wondering what happened and how did wse get to this place. Looking forward to learning more about myself as a wife and companion.
    posted by patricia
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 11:47 am
  31. Almost 17 years into a second marriage for us both. Boy are our legs tired from the uphill climb. But we both acknowledge that we have His handprint on our backs from the help He gave us as we've climbed out of the pit. Still walking the hills & valleys but we KNOW that we don't walk it alone. We both admit that we are sinners who desperately need a savior and with His help we will continue to grow. I look forward to information in the blog that will assist us to continue growing in Christ because we know (proven it already :))we can mess up completely when we go solo. We are thankful for solid Godly teaching that has helped us so much during our marriage.
    posted by Marsha
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 11:51 am
  32. Single -- a believer that love is best when it's pure and new, and so trying to wait patiently for it. :)
    posted by Kori
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 12:31 pm
  33. Happily married for 28 years to a very kind and generous man. However, there is one big problem with our marriage: it is platonic. Hubby has no interest in sex! I have tried to just accept this situation, but I wonder what happened. It didn't start out this way!
    posted by Laura
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 12:36 pm
  34. Single, waiting. Learning as much as possible. Going through healing from a broken home and broken childhood. I have many married friends and so I getting a more realistic view of marriage than most singles who only hang around other singles. Why do I really still want to be a part of something that seems so difficult and down-right scary??
    posted by MM
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 12:55 pm
  35. Single and aching as I read the thoughts left by so many hurting. Never have I heard better teaching on marriage than from John Piper at the TW '08 Conference. If you weren't able to go listen to the recording! You will NEVER view marriage the same again. May our amazing LORD Who intended marriage to be a TRUE picture of redemption from before He laid the foundtaions of the world be forever magnified and glorified ... in awe of Him ...
    posted by Mandy Hoadley
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 1:28 pm
  36. I second Mandy's comment about John Piper's teaching about marriage from TW08! It gave me a whole new (BEAUTIFUL) perspective!

    I am happily married, by God's grace. We have been through some deep trials and tirbulations and I am so thankful that God has made our marriage better, through it all. There were many rocky, rough places in the early years. I thank the Lord that He has made my marriage beautiful, in His time (we've been married 25 years).

    Love to all you at ROH and sisters in Christ!
    posted by Leslie S.
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 1:48 pm
  37. Not happily married. I have been married for 11 years.
    Some days I can't believe there will be a better
    out come. It is so incredible hard. I want to honor
    my covenant with God. I am waiting on him.
    posted by Louise
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 1:57 pm
  38. Disfunctionally married.... we hit the 35 year mark and it was ONLY by the Grace and mercy of our dear Lord. I classify my husband as an unbeliever; but he insists I can't know what his relationship with the Lord is. But, there is no fruit with minor exceptions. There are lots of us out there that go to church ALONE and to family functions ALONE. We've raised children, but It had to be God all along. My husband is a very miserable person and I do the best I can do, trying to do it with a smile on my face and in my voice. When I try to honor him and be a dutiful and respectful wife, he just expects more. I have truly become his servant and the sorrowful thing is that he cannot see it.
    I know that divorce is not an option and that the circumstances are such for a reason and maybe only for a season. My hope is in my savior and I have grown through listening to Nancy and reading your blogs. I truly appreciate all your organization does.
    I see by this blog that there are good relationships out there. I know it is work and that a mutual committment is imperative.
    I too am waiting on Him.
    posted by Diana
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 2:17 pm
  39. I have been happily married for twenty-three years, although we did have a rough couple of years. Marriage is not always easy. One must learn to forgive quickly and easy and remember that marriage is for a lifetime.
    posted by Debbie A.
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 2:36 pm
  40. I am married to a wonderful man. We have been married for 26 1/2 years. Right now he is unemployed. (since February). We have had a lot of unemployment during our marriage, but he is a godly man who has a lot of faith. We continue to trust the Lord for His provision during these bleak economic times. We choose to rest in God's sovereignty and care for us. We have two adult sons. One son is married, the other is still home. In addition to the stress of unemployment, my husband and I are burdened for our son who is still at home. We are not sure he is saved, even though he professes Christ.
    His walk doesn't match his profession. He, too, is unemployed. We commit him to the Lord, praying that he will one day have a heart for God and His Word. I am truly thankful for my husband. He is God's gift to me.
    posted by Arlene
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 2:51 pm
  41. I am a member of the third group you listed. I chuckled a bit when I read, "If you are among those who believe God raised Jesus from the dead." It will surely take a miracle to bring my marriage back to life. This is not said in sadness but in simple honesty.
    posted by Nathalie
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 2:54 pm
  42. I am happily married (12 1/2 years) to a very selfless man...who I spent a lot of time taking for granted. God has just given me a fresh love for him since True Woman 08. I have learned more often to think of the grace and love God has shown to me and offer that to my husband. This approach has replaced so much strife and discontentment in marriage. I hope that God gives me much time with my husband to redeem the time I've wasted.
    posted by Tracy
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 4:14 pm
  43. First of all, my deepest sympathy to Marcia and her husband who lost a child. I admire your courage to share that and your example of faith. My husband and I have 3 BEAUTIFUL children of our own that I thank God for often. However, my feelings toward my husband and how I treat him are far from attractive. It's very possible that it's less him than it is my own personal rage. I've accepted Christ into my heart and know that I serve a living God and I hear woman often say that stay-at-home moms should relish in this "great" and ordained opportunity to serve in the home. I don't feel that way. I just feel stuck and it's taking a tole on my marriage.
    posted by Nicole
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 5:08 pm
  44. This finds me moving from single parent (widowed) to married in just a few days so I will be eagerly reading these next blogs and comments from so many wise women!
    posted by lk
    on Tuesday, August 4, 2009 at 9:26 pm
  45. Single and trusting God for marriage. I appreciate your site as it is teaching me new truths on marriage as God sees it as well as life in general.
    posted by Pauline
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 1:55 am
  46. Married - not happily or unhappily - I guess I'm just in the "coasting" period right now. My husband and I watched the movie "Fireproof" and we both sat there and cried and cried and cried. Both of us knew that we used to be in love and we had drifted aprt because of work and children and other activities. Instead of trying to improve it...we got busier. Sounds like some of our relationships with the Lord, doesn't it? We know we've drifted from Him but instead of stopping and getting re-aquainted, we tend to get busier to see if we can fill the void in our hearts. I'm preaching to the choir again.
    posted by JJ
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 8:46 am
  47. I am now happy in my marriage. I am married for the second time and with that came alot of hurt from my first marriage that lasted 22years. I am learning to start fresh with my new husband and accept his amazing love towards me. A new experience. I am looking forward to learning more on marriage and to be forever and for always a true woman of God.
    posted by Andrea
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 1:05 pm
  48. Married 5 yrs to a godly man and blessed with 4 children ages 5 mo.-4 yrs. I'm learning that happiness starts with a thankful heart and that choice is moment by moment as life happens by choosing to believe that nothing takes place in my life without being filtered thru God's grace.
    posted by CG
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 2:29 pm
  49. My husband and I were married 28 years ago both as carnal Christians and 8 years ago Jesus captivated our hearts...first mine, then later my husband's. Jesus protected our marriage during the twenty years we weren't walking with Him, and has brought us into a spectacular love for each other as we have learned to yeild to His Spirit in ALL things including our marriage. It has been and continues to be a times delightful and at other times challenging but ALWAYS fruitful as long as we rivet our eyes on Him. The challenges really have very little to do with circumstances and everything to do with allowing our flesh to be crucified with Christ in order that our hearts will be more intimate with Him and reflect His love, to the world but particularly to each other. I want to encourage all the ladies single or married to abandon yourselves FULLY to Him for He can meet EVERY need within your heart, leaving lots of love, joy and patience to pour out on those around you (including your husband) for His glory. I would also strongly recommend the books written by Eric and Leslie Ludy (Authentic Beauty, When God Writes Your Life Story, Set Apart Femininity, Sacred Singlness and many more). I believe the Lord has used them as vessels for His teaching regarding these topics in a beautiful and very edifying way. God bless everyone here who is seeking to please our King through obedient hearts and seeking to learn more of what He has for us!
    posted by Brenda Knee
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 2:30 pm
  50. Ladies,

    I feel like were stepping out onto holy ground. Sounds melodramatic, I know, but there it is anyway. Thank you for your transparency and hunger.

    Would you take a minute to thank God for what Hes planned for this month? Then, throughout the month, would you continue to ask Him to do a deep, restoring work in hundreds of marriages so that others will stand in awe of His incredible power?
    posted by Paula Hendricks
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 3:53 pm
  51. contentedly married 29 years - I have learned, in whatever circumstance I find myself, therewith to be content - didn't Paul say that? I nor my husband would change our state of matrimony for anything but neither of us is unrealistic enough to think that life together has been totally happy. We've been through some really hard times together. I am content and so, I believe, is he. There are lots of times when we are happy; and then there are other times...
    posted by ann
    on Wednesday, August 5, 2009 at 6:42 pm
  52. Happily married 24 years, eleven blessings, and still seeking to serve my Saviour. I can NOT have happiness in my marriage, if I am not happy. Not circumstantial happiness, oh please, that would be too un-covenant-related. "For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost. Romans 14:17
    and Nehemiah 8:10 The Joy of the LORD is my strength. It took me a long time to understand this strength...but when we consciously choose JOY over fault finding, nagging, unhappy attitudes, resentfulness, selfishness, unfairness, etc. We WILL have JOY and strength from the LORD. He is always there, and you didn't walk into marriage for just the joy your husband put into the relationship, when was the last time that he asked you to do something and you said sure and dropped what you were doing to be prepared for him, just like when you were dating, or vice versa, maybe he has lost the romance, my man has, but, I help to keep it instilled. It takes making the choice. Joy is what you smile at him.
    posted by slm
    on Thursday, August 6, 2009 at 11:20 am
  53. I have been exeedingly happily married to my husband of 8 years. We have twin daughters that are 3-1/2 and an 18month old son. These three have been the greatest joy and test of our marriage! My husband is a very godly man and is the reason for our success. He loves me as Christ loves the church, giving himself up for me. I know that he loves me unconditionally no matter what I do. This motivates me to respect and love him as well.
    posted by Rachel
    on Thursday, August 6, 2009 at 11:25 am
  54. Very happily married for all of the almost 31 years, with never a moment of doubt that God led us to the right partner. Definitely God's grace, and also due to the fact that we both are amazed that the other chose us! We often tell others that the secret to our marriage is unselfishness. We truly want what is best for the other more than what makes us happy. Even after all these years, there is nothing I would rather do than spend a day with my sweetie!
    posted by Becky
    on Thursday, August 6, 2009 at 11:22 pm
  55. 11 years married and unhappy for the past 5 years. Looking forward to your sessions for the month of August.
    posted by Caroline
    on Friday, August 7, 2009 at 12:26 pm
  56. I am single, 39 years old, been engaged twice and 99% of my friends are married. I have a longing to be a wife and mother. I have been very discouraged in the last several years with soo many of my friends' Christian marriages in major trouble. Most recently one friends husband after being in an affair for a while, ran off with the other woman and filed for divorce. (this is one of several similar stories) It is very scary for me right now. I prefer using the courtship method of getting married and have however been heartbroken even in that. A lot of my friends because of the pain they are going through are not too encouraging about marriage. I know that God instituted it and still believe in it, however it appears harder or rather more challenging to enter marriage these days than in days before. I wonder if this is true? Also I do hope you focus in the near future on more practical biblical applications for singles. Though I learn so much from this blog and greatly appreciate the Godly insights and wisdom shared by you and the blog community of mostly married women, I would like to see more practical insights relating to single women and relationships. Especially older single women. One thing I've learnt for certain and that is that Love is definately a decision of the will and not usually a feeling in the heart. Thanks soo much for this ministry. Looking forward to more great things!!
    posted by Sandy
    on Monday, August 10, 2009 at 10:34 am
  57. Single. Trusting God for a mate. Learning all I can about marriage.
    posted by Pamela U. McKinney
    on Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 6:26 pm
  58. Married for 7 years. Most of them happy. I'm bipolar so it put a strain on things. I have trouble trusting my husband. I caught him in a lie three weeks ago. He didn't know his cell phone had called me and he was bragging to his buddy how he had been smoking pot for 3 weeks and i had no clue. He is still denying that he ever said it. He also looks at porn and blames it on our teenage kids. I need help before my marraige goes anymore south than it has. I hope this place can give me some peace of mind and help me deal with these issues as a loving christian wife.
    posted by Breece Butler
    on Thursday, August 13, 2009 at 5:14 pm
  59. Hi, I am looking forward to reading all this month's posts, in a serious relationship with a man God amazingly brought me together with and we are hearing from Him about our future which is exciting! Looking forward to being encouraged by other women and reading what they have to say. Am writing this on August 19th and the advice I have received so far has blessed me so much! Thanks and I look forward to much more!
    posted by Victoria Fisher
    on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 at 1:04 pm
  60. On being single. I can truly say that reading Biblical Womanhood was a blessing. I was single for years - happy? Sometimes. But sometimes not. Life is like that. I'm now engaged to be married and it brings a lot of questions with it. Is this a complaint? Nope, but for the singles out there, I think that the only man who can really bring you the love you want is Jesus. It took me YEARS to realize it! And my deepest relationship is most certainly with Jesus. An older woman taught me that - if your relationship with Jesus is right, the rest will follow and guess what, I didn't believe her (:o). And now I do. And I'm sharing. God bless all of us ladies (By the way, look at Mary, she was single too and how honoured she was!)
    posted by judy
    on Thursday, January 14, 2010 at 12:39 pm
  61. Thanks for your encouragement, Judy. I pray you continue to find Jesus to be surpassingly better than anyone or anything!
    posted by Paula Hendricks
    on Thursday, February 11, 2010 at 1:52 pm
  62. You forgot two other categories: Divorced and widowed! Yes, there is a difference betweeen being single (never married) and being divorced or widowed. For people who lost a partner either death or the dissolution of a marriage there are specific issues that never married don't. One of the things that has long upset me about the Christian community is how they eigh ignore divorcees...or blame us for the marriage ending when sometimes we had no say or choice in the matter. I wish you'd please also address our issues as well. Thank you.
    posted by Sabrina
    on Wednesday, June 2, 2010 at 12:05 am
  63. Thanks for your very helpful feedback, Sabrina. We take it seriously, and hope to address divorcees and widows more in the future. Grateful for you!
    posted by Paula Hendricks
    on Thursday, June 10, 2010 at 11:08 am
  64. I am unhappily married. But I keep my faith God will restore our marriage. Holding on his Words. With Him nothing is impossible...
    posted by tin barrios
    on Tuesday, October 12, 2010 at 12:43 am
  65. Tin,

    May the Lord hear and answer your call to restore your marriage. We entrust you to Him as He has said: He will call upon Me and I will answer him; I will deliver him and honor him Psalm 91:15.

    Continue to look to Him, Tin, and let Him restore your soul as you cling to Him and seek His peace. Indeed, nothing is impossible with God. You are to be commended for continuing in the faith (Col. 1:23).
    posted by Sarah Krause, Revive Our Hearts
    on Tuesday, October 19, 2010 at 1:04 pm
  66. Marriage is between Man, God, and Woman. Today, time marriage is about pursuing someone's money or riches, or marrying the smart person, or beautiful person, or someone who is high rank or popular in society. We see a lot of marriages failing around the world whether it is some famous person or not. Even arranged marriages are leading to divorce because people are not interested in marrying for the right reasons, but for one or the many reasons above. I have learned that people look at physical beauty more than the beauty of good character. The problem with the world when it comes to divorce that people don't understand the true meaning of marriage and stay committed. It's a worldwide problem that is growing and something needs to be done to reduce these problems or prevent others falling into a trap of fairytale marriages or superficial marriages.
    posted by GodsGirl
    on Tuesday, April 26, 2011 at 12:41 am

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