Today’s post is hard to write, as I’m sure it will be equally hard to read. Hard because all of us are emotionally involved in some way. If you’re not divorced yourself, you most likely have divorced friends, neighbors, or relatives.
This past weekend, I found myself unexpectedly looking for answers. For reasons I won’t go into, I spent several hours combing through my Bible, looking up each reference on divorce and remarriage. I asked God to help me come to the text without an agenda or desired outcome—I just wanted to hear His heart on the whole subject.
What I found took my breath away. I have grown used to the culture’s (and the church’s) acceptance of divorce and remarriage. But as I poured over the Old and New Testaments, I was gripped by just how sacred, serious, and binding the marriage relationship is.
But I don’t want you to take my word for it. It doesn’t matter what Paula Hendricks thinks. It doesn’t matter what your friend or any other person thinks. What matters is what God thinks. So . . . I am going to give you a link to an article. But I’d rather you don’t read it until you yourself have first searched the Word for God’s thoughts. Here’s how I approached my study this past weekend:
1. I told God I was willing to lay aside my preconceived notions and desires and that I was willing to receive whatever He said.
2. I opened my Bible to the concordance in the back and looked up each reference of “divorce” or “marriage.”
3. After I read each passage, I wrote down what I learned about God, marriage, or divorce.
After you’ve done this, you might want to read the conclusions that Del Fehsenfeld Jr., the founder of Life Action Ministries, reached after he evaluated the evidence of God’s Word on the permanence of marriage. I really like the way he concludes his article with a section on “God’s Purpose for Conflict in Marriage,” and a section for those who ask “What If I Am Already Divorced?”
Then I’d love to hear what strikes you as you dig into the Word and search out what God has to say about marriage!