Pray with your eyes open

Mary Kassian

Mary Kassian | 10.12.09
Twitter: @MaryKassian

21 comments

Prayer is one of the biggest resources and helps for raising children. Pray for yourself, as a mom, to have wisdom to know how to raise them right—and constantly pray for them.

I want to share one of the prayers that I prayed from time to time when I sensed that something was amiss in my child’s life (and this continues to this day, even now that they are young adults). The prayer was this: “Lord, Please reveal sin.” I prayed for everything hidden to be exposed by the light—and then I kept my eyes and ears open and remained spiritually attentive. 

The Lord never failed to answer this prayer. Sometimes, it was extremely painful when sin was revealed—but I asked God not to hold back in exposing and dealing with sin. (P.S.: Make sure you’re willing to have Him reveal and deal with the sin in your life too!)

Let me give you just one example. When my oldest son was in college, he met a Christian girl. He was quite taken with her. On the surface, everything seemed okay—she went to a Christian school, went to church, and had a bubbly personality . . . but I sensed in my spirit that something was amiss. It was a feeling that grew stronger over the next few months. So I began to pray for the Lord to reveal sin. And He did. When my son brought this girl to the lake to spend the weekend with our family, a package of cocaine fell out of her purse. My son had no idea she was an addict. It was the plan of the evil one to get him entangled with this girl—and with her destructive habit. The event wasn’t pretty. . .  but it was redemptive.

When you sense that something is hidden in your child’s life, pray for light. Pray for the covered to be revealed, the hidden to become known, secrets to be exposed, the private to be made public. Though it might be painful, sin and darkness can’t be dealt with until exposed by the light:

Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known. Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops. (Luke 12:2-3)

For at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light  (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord. Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light.  (Ephesians 5:8-14)

“Reveal Sin” is a prayer that has served my family well. I also regularly pray for them to hunger and thirst after righteousness. (Matthew 5:6) Do you have any “favorite” prayers or favorite verses that you pray for your children? Or do you know of any prayers that your mother regularly prayed for you?

Topics: With Your Kids, Relationship with God

Comments

  1. Thank you for your encouragement to pray for sin to be revealed. I just prayed this morning that my children would be caught in trespass that it may be brought to light. I also prayed for wisdom to know how to be a good mom in any situation. I feel my weakness by myself to keep my kids safe from the enemy, but I sense and believe the protection of God in prayer and I can give thanks for everything and not fear what the enemy can do because the Lord is our Refuge!
    posted by Jennifer
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 10:50 am
  2. Thank you! I often pray for protection and that they will turn from their sin, but I don't pray that God will "bring it to light". I would prefer not to know! (Push it under the rug, if you will.) Thank you for being used to reveal that in me. As painful as it could be, I will pray for exposed sin in their lives and mine as well.
    posted by Debbie
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 10:54 am
  3. When I know there is sin in one of my children's lives, this is the prayer I have prayed for years (although, the children I have prayed this for have changed through the years, the prayer hasn't changed), and God is faithful to answer.

    "O God, grant them repentance that will lead to a knowledge of the truth - that they will come to their senses and escape the trap of the devil who has taken them captive to do His will." II Tim. 2:25-26

    Thanks so much for this encouragement! It is exactly what I needed today.

    I have also prayed this: "Uncover my sons' (I have 7 sons) hiding places so they cannot conceal themselves." And also, "Set their secret sins in the light of Your presence." Ps. 90:18

    May God also reveal sin in me!
    posted by Susan Baker
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 11:27 am
  4. I will share what my husband & I felt bound to do when God revealed our son's sin to us 3 yrs ago. Our then 20yo son had been rebellious all summer while living at home on break from college. Two unrelated people told my husband that they knew our son was in possession of pot (Thank you! They did this b/c they knew our stand against a immorality). My husband searched our son's vehicle & found a backpack full of baggies of pot. He was obviously selling it. When confronted, our son confessed everything & was very glad to have an excuse to get out of the dark underworld of drugs that he had found himself in. We could have left it at that, but b/c our son had a long history of rebellion & we were afraid he would go back to involving himself in sin, we asked him to turn himself in to the authorities, which he agreed to do. My husband went with him & a plea bargain was made. Unfortunately, my son did not keep his end of the bargain & neither did the authority. However, I believe God is sovereign. So even tho' my son is now a convicted felon & is currently in jail for a probation violation, I am certain God has a plan for him that will bring him to complete repentance as he eventually turns his life over to God w/o looking back. God does not tolerate sin & He does not tolerate people who tolerate sin, either in their own lives or the lives of those around them. That son is our oldest of 7. The other 6 kids are a blessing & so, far committed believers, thanks to God's grace & mercy in our lives.
    posted by LeeAnn Cheeley
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 11:48 am
  5. Thank you for this post. I do pray this for my children. Another thing I have prayed is that grace would abound in their lives. That they would have the power AND desire to do God's will. I also specifically pray for them that God would protect them from "the evil one" and that they would have a heart for God.

    The Lord has put on my heart (at 2:35 am this morning) to confront someone about sin in their life. I am fearful about this but already today God has reconfirmed that this is his direction. God is good. Like cleaning an infected wound "this is going to hurt" ...but it is neccessary.
    Thank you for encouragement to do the right thing and be serious about our faith and walk. I learned something from this post as well as those who have already commented.
    posted by Susan McCurdy
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 11:58 am
  6. Thank you for this post! I believe in the power of prayer over our children's lives! And for any of you who are not familiar with the ministry of Moms In Touch, now is the time!! Moms coming together with other moms to pray the Word of God over their children and schools. This is a powerful ministry that I have been a part of for about 8 years now. It is interdenominational and is in over 130 countries! A quote from their brochure..."Experience the joy of replacing anxiety with peace and hope when you pray with other moms." check it out at www.MomsInTouch.org
    posted by Stephanie
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 1:08 pm
  7. Thank you for this post it is great. I have four children, three young adults and one 10 year old. I have prayed and continue to pray that God would incline their hearts to His testimonies, that He would draw them to Himself fill them with His Spirit and walk according to His Word. I pray for purity in their lives, heart, mind and soul, I pray that if they are doing something they shouldn't be doing they will be caught, and they have been caught. I pray for their heart to desire after God. I pray everyday all through the day, I have a son in Iraq until next year.
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    posted by Jody
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 2:12 pm
  8. I will share what my husband & I felt bound to do when God revealed our son's sin to us 3 yrs ago. Our then 20yo son had been rebellious all summer while living at home on break from college. Two unrelated people told my husband that they knew our son was in possession of pot (Thank you! They did this b/c they knew our stand against a immorality). My husband searched our son's vehicle & found a backpack full of baggies of pot. He was obviously selling it. When confronted, our son confessed everything & was very glad to have an excuse to get out of the dark underworld of drugs that he had found himself in. We could have left it at that, but b/c our son had a long history of rebellion & we were afraid he would go back to involving himself in sin, we asked him to turn himself in to the authorities, which he agreed to do. My husband went with him & a plea bargain was made. Unfortunately, my son did not keep his end of the bargain & neither did the authority. However, I believe God is sovereign. So even tho' my son is now a convicted felon & is currently in jail for a probation violation, I am certain God has a plan for him that will bring him to complete repentance as he eventually turns his life over to God w/o looking back. God does not tolerate sin & He does not tolerate people who tolerate sin, either in their own lives or the lives of those around them. That son is our oldest of 7. The other 6 kids are a blessing & so, far committed believers, thanks to God's grace & mercy in our lives.
    posted by LeeAnn Cheeley
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 2:21 pm
  9. I've always admired my mom's ability to just know when things aren't right. After we both became Christian, I admired her diligence in always seeking God in prayer when she knew something wasn't right. Its a God-given motherly gift that I hope to have one day.
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    posted by Lilly
    on Monday, October 12, 2009 at 4:58 pm
  10. Thank you for this message today. I usually pray His protection upon my children's lives. I also pray that He surrounds them with godly friends and godly counsel. Most often I pray for an insatiable hunger and thirst for Him in their lives. He is faithful.
    posted by Caroline
    on Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 2:27 am
  11. I have read and found so much courage in the stories shared.I'm ayoung mom 31-who is currently needing God's guidance to guide my 13 year old girl who has been so stubborn and caught up in peer pressure(dating wrong boys).I really do not know what to say to her but with God on my side I believe I will cope. I will not stop praying till God reveal himself. The prayer will help me a lot.
    posted by Thanda
    on Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 10:35 am
  12. Dear Thanda,

    This isn't the answer to all your problems by any stretch of the imagination, but I did want to point you to "Lies Young Women Believe" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Dannah Gresh. If you think your daughter would read it, that would be awesome. She also might enjoy interacting on the blog at www.LiesYoungWomenBelieve.com.

    I'm praying that God will fill you with His wisdom and love as you spend these remaining years raising your daughter,

    paula
    posted by Paula Hendricks
    on Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 3:18 pm
  13. "Arise, cry out in the night, at the beginning of the night watches! Pour out your heart like water before the presence of the LORD! Lift your hands to Him for the lives of your children, who faint for hunger at the head of every street." (Lam. 2:19)
    Stephanie had mentioned the Moms in Touch ministry, and this is their key verse.

    A while ago Fern Nichols, the president of Moms In Touch was interviewed on Revive our Hearts radio, and I was very blessed to hear the
    testimonies of Fern and a friend about how faithful God
    is. He hears, He sees, and He knows, and He loves our kids even more than we do. There is a prayer that I printed out from the ROH site that was written by Amy Carmichael entitled, "For our Children." Many
    times I just blubbered through it. Both of my boys profess to know the Lord. When my older son started to read the Bible for himself, that's when change started to happen. God's Word is living and powerful, and sharper than a two-edged sword. Only God's word can change the heart. So my prayer for my younger son is that he, too, will read the word of God for himself, and that God's word will speak to his soul, as only God's word can. Another verse that I want to share is Jer.24:7, which reads-"Then I will give them a heart to know Me, that I am the LORD; and they shall be My people, and I will be their God, for they shall return to Me with their whole heart." I continue to pray that God will give my sons a heart for Him and His word, and that they will return to Him with their whole heart.
    posted by Arlene
    on Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 4:22 pm
  14. It was a confirmation for me to read this post on Reveal Sin...I had just finished praying for the Lord to guide me in Wisdom as a newly single mom. I keep Revivie our Hearts as my home page and when I opened the page I immediately saw your post. The Lord has lighted my home with His truth in the last past month regarding hidden secrets and sin and even thou it has been painful and hard at times to accept the circumstances and consequences I know He's faithful!
    posted by Marilyn
    on Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 8:47 pm
  15. Thank you for posting this prayer. I printed it and will use it in my prayer life. Our daughter has nothing to do with us. She's in same sex relationship. My husband & I pray she accepts Christ. We pray she contacts us. I know God has a plan and God is good.
    posted by Judy
    on Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 9:24 pm
  16. Amen, Mary! I enjoyed reading the comments too and seeing (and learning from) what people are praying for their children. Arlene, I love that scripture you quoted from Lamentations; yes, that is a beautiful prayer for our children; also the Amy Carmichael prayer, and the recommendation of Nancy's interviews (at ROH) w/Fern Nichols. All excellent resources (and were a great encouragement to me when I heard them).

    I pray for my children virtually daily. I like praying for them individually according to their needs but sometimes I pray a more general prayer when there is less time. (I liked Jody saying she prays all day for her children -- Amen! -- good to remember we can pray for them anytime, anywhere, in addition to regular prayers.) I pray for the Lord's mercy over their lives, that He draws them to Himself, that He works in their hearts and lives, that He orchestrates their circumstances (teachers, friends, roomates, etc.); for their protection spiritually and physically; that He purges them/removes them from evil, grants conviction of sins; that the Lord draws them to my husband and me (the ones who aren't home); I pray for any future sons/daughters-in-law and grandchildren (I need to do that one more often); and of needs that are current in their lives, and anything else that may come to mind! God hears and answers prayer, even if we have to take it by faith!

    I loved the prayer mentioned in the comments above, that our children would have a hunger and thirst for God's Word. Amen! And of course Mary's prayer about the Lord revealing sin -- how needful -- Amen.

    May the Lord bless all you dear sisters in Christ!

    In His love,
    posted by Leslie S.
    on Wednesday, October 14, 2009 at 3:15 pm
  17. This is the first blog I looked at on prayer, and it was the exact answer that I needed from the Lord. I have been sensing for some time something is amiss with husband.

    I was planning to go home and say something about it today, and I have to believe the Lord directed me here before going in my own strength. I want my husband to be whole and true in his walk with God first and foremost, but also with me.

    I have no greater resource in this matter than prayer! Thank you again.
    posted by Shannette
    on Thursday, January 21, 2010 at 5:30 pm
  18. Its my first time on your site and find it very informative. i have been on fasting for my three kids ages 11,10,8. i was looking to the lord for words to pray . it has been a struggle trying to grow them in the fear of the lord.but as the word said, i can so all things through christ who strengthens me. prayer and fasting are the most effective weapons we can use against the enemy in such a time as this. It is a war fare for the souls of our children so we have to fight the good fight of faith. I anoint them with consecrated olive oil at nights as they sleep and pray over them proclaiming the promises of God.
    posted by Lisa Chin
    on Tuesday, November 16, 2010 at 1:41 pm
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  20. I love this site.
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    The reveal prayer I have been saying for a long time now however not n those words so not sure it makes a difference.
    The story about your sin is amazing you sure never know.
    Sometimes one playing Christians are the ones we need to look out for.

    They seem to think if they go to Church and play good God never finds out
    God knows all he has left me to names
    Thank you for the great site
    Blessings to all
    Laurie
    posted by Laurie
    on Monday, April 14, 2014 at 9:44 am
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