That was a good reminder to me to appreciate what has developed within our church body. Although our nation has experienced a growing social disconnect between the generations over the last several decades, the Titus 2 model breaks down those barriers.
With more than two decades experience as a pastor's wife, I am clearly convinced that women are in desperate need of discipleship. Most of the young women I meet with have no godly role models in their lives; many of them were raised in a single-parent home, some without a mother in the picture at all.
I want to issue a challenge to you today. This challenge is not for the faint of heart, but neither does it require that you become a theological scholar. It will require diligence, time, consistency, compassion, confidentiality, humility, and dependence on God's grace.
Pray and ask God to lead you to a young woman in need of discipleship. Be willing to make a short-term time commitment (three to six months). Provide the space in your life to meet with her on a regular basis, preferably weekly, for one to two hours.
You don't have to do a Bible study together or develop lesson plans for discipleship—there are many ways to pour truth into a young woman's heart while at the same time sharing practical life skills. I once invited a single, 24-year-old young woman (who was raised by her single father) to help me prepare Thanksgiving dinner. She wanted to learn things in the kitchen she'd never had the opportunity to watch before.
Be creative. Come up with a plan that will work for you and benefit the young woman. Here are a few ideas to consider:
- Print off True Woman blog articles to discuss over coffee.
- Do a study together like Becoming God's True Woman or Lies Women Believe (available through Revive Our Hearts).
- Offer to show her what you've learned about meal planning, grocery shopping, cleaning, time management, etc.
- Read and journal through one of the gospels, then meet to exchange thoughts and share what each of you are learning.
- Plan to attend a True Woman '10 Conference together. Better yet, work together to organize a group to attend from your church.
- Help her find biblical resources that will grow her beyond where she is now.
- Create a reading list for her based on Scripture passages and Christian books that have benefited you in your spiritual pilgrimage.
- Be a good listener and selfless communicator, always pointing her beyond you to Christ, her source of grace (don't claim to know all the answers).
- Laugh with her easily, and give hugs freely.
- Challenge her to begin passing on the truths she's learning to a younger (or less spiritually mature) woman.
Or perhaps you are already discipling a woman or being discipled. If so, I'd love to hear about what you're doing. Please share!