When I was hired for my first job, my father took me aside to give me an important insight. "Carolyn, you are motivated by gold stars, high grades, and lots of regular feedback," he said. "But you won't get that at work. Don't expect praise for merely doing what you were hired to do. If you keep getting paid, you will know you are doing a good job." I've thought of his advice nearly every time I've received a paycheck. Over the years, I've learned other valuable on-the-job lessons. So for those who are beginning their careers, here are four key principles for on-the-job success.
After being married for nineteen years, I had to go back to work. I was torn because I couldn't give 100 percent to both callings, and both our home and my career suffered to some extent. I experienced what many of you working mothers have agonized over—the secret, silent bleeding of a working mother's heart, with all the accompanying guilt and exhaustion and divided loyalties.
My friend, Andrea Salzman, is a whiz when it comes to eliminating clutter. In fact, she’s come up with a way to make de-cluttering a daily lifestyle rather than an all-day de-cluttering binge.
Does anyone else out there feel the crush of stuff? Maybe it’s overflowing dressers, hampers, and closets; a towering pile of bills stacked precariously on your counter; or just a general sense that if you don’t maintain control at all moments, your whole world could come crashing down.
While this alpha woman trend is celebrated by those who have swallowed the feminist/egalitarian claim that male-female roles are interchangeable, the reality is that the majority of alpha women are dissatisfied with their breadwinner status. It appears that an alpha woman married to a beta boy puts an unnatural strain on a couple’s marital and sexual relationship.